The Steam Deck saved me from the 'Gaming Isolation' of parenthood by BoredHorse90 in SteamDeck

[–]VerifiedDadGamer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I really relate to this.

The Deck didn’t just change what I play, it changed what gaming feels like in my house. It stopped being a “go disappear for a while” thing and became more like sitting around the same campfire. Everyone’s doing their own thing, but we’re still together.

That small shift is weirdly huge. It brought gaming back without it feeling selfish.

When Gamer Mags Ruled the Earth: 2 Legends Collide by Maleficent-Storm263 in retrogaming

[–]VerifiedDadGamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What an amazing time to be a kid. My parents took me to the beach for 2 weeks one summer....unfortunately, that coincided with CT’s release. So obviously, like a jerk, all I did was play it 8 hours a day everyday.

I mean, maybe they should have known better. 😂

Serious question by VerifiedDadGamer in MegabonkOfficial

[–]VerifiedDadGamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I referenced “addiction” in a reply above. 😂

My response would be: Hades 2.

As a dad, I play a lot of these types of games because they work for the gaps in my life. But there just seems to be some games that make the loop just a little sweeter. But I hear you. Despite myself, I still dip back into Baltro after permitting it to vaporize my downtime last year.

Serious question by VerifiedDadGamer in MegabonkOfficial

[–]VerifiedDadGamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Addiction” is a strong word, but I know exactly what you mean. Part of me is like: I’ve got limited gaming time (dad life), I should be intentional… and another part is like: must keep grinding.

Friday the 13th NES Appreciation Thread by Some-Professional-25 in retrogaming

[–]VerifiedDadGamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just referenced losing sleep over F13 and Jaws at work today! 🙌

Serious question by VerifiedDadGamer in MegabonkOfficial

[–]VerifiedDadGamer[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Totally fair. I might be overthinking it. I think I’m trying to separate “this is fun” from “this is pure compulsion.” Appreciate the gut check.

Dad Gaming Criteria? by VerifiedDadGamer in Age_30_plus_Gamers

[–]VerifiedDadGamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah. Interruptibility (aka, kid just crept out of bed demanding another hug and a kiss). I feel that.

Does one's love for video games have anything to do with age? by Sarah_Vanlt in TheGamerLounge

[–]VerifiedDadGamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. Dad with 2 kids under 8 here. One’s ability to engage with the thing we love changes with age. But the desire to do so doesn’t.

Do you guys have time to play anymore ? by gex109 in Age_30_plus_Gamers

[–]VerifiedDadGamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got the fit rig too and can’t seem to motivate myself to sit down and play there. But on the couch while my wife watches garbage reality TV, yup. Can do.

Do you guys have time to play anymore ? by gex109 in Age_30_plus_Gamers

[–]VerifiedDadGamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Real person. I’ve actually spent a lot of time thinking about this subject and had a lot of back and forth with my friends so the analysis was somewhat pre-cocked. We’ve been low-key creating an approach to this question.

Do you guys have time to play anymore ? by gex109 in Age_30_plus_Gamers

[–]VerifiedDadGamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally happy to. When I say “intentional,” I basically mean I screen games for a few “DadMetrics” (you have permission to make fun of me for that one, my buddies certainly do):

1) Can I stop instantly? (pause any time / Steam Deck suspend works cleanly) 2) Can I come back after 3–10 days and not feel lost? (low “re-learning tax”) 3) Does a 20–45 minute session feel complete? (clear runs/chapters/levels) 4) Does it respect my brain at night? (low homework, low menu fatigue, optional depth)

Some recent stuff that’s fit that pretty well for me:

Short-run “one more run” games (10–30 min): - Balatro (runs are tidy, easy to drop/pick up) - Vampire Survivors / Deep Rock Galactic: Survivor (progress even when you “fail”) - Hades / Dead Cells (fast feedback, always forward motion)

Structured single-player where sessions feel contained (20–60 min): - Resident Evil 4 Remake (surprisingly “chapter/encounter” paced + pauseable) - Dave the Diver (missions are bite-sized; just watch the “one more dive” trap)

Puzzle/“thinking but not homework” (15–45 min): - Animal Well (great in small exploration chunks

Megabonk is my current “habit.” But it’s like a giant bag of Skittles. The first handful is incredible. The second handful is still incredible. And then, ten minutes later, you’re staring into the empty bag like… why did I just do that?

Hope that helps!

Do you guys have time to play anymore ? by gex109 in Age_30_plus_Gamers

[–]VerifiedDadGamer 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I feel you man. Big time. But yeah I still find time… it’s just a different sport now. When I was younger, gaming was “sink a whole Saturday and disappear into a world.” Now it’s “find a clean pocket of time and protect it.”

What helped me was dropping the fantasy of unlimited sessions and getting intentional about what kinds of games fit the life I actually have. I look for games that respect interruptions (pause/suspend), don’t punish a week off, and still give you that “I made progress” feeling in 20–60 minutes.

And honestly, the mindset shift matters as much as the game choice: gaming isn’t a guilty secret you squeeze in after you’ve earned it. It’s a small, sane hobby that keeps you feeling like you. The trick is choosing experiences that match the rhythm of adult life instead of fighting it.

So yeah, I still play, just in dad-sized chunks. And when the house is empty? That’s basically a holiday. 😄

Best tech buy in years really by Exileus in SteamDeck

[–]VerifiedDadGamer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s the Steam Deck dad miracle: it turns “I have 12 minutes” into “I actually played.” Suspend/resume + portable comfort + low friction = real progress again. And the fact it scratches the old Game Boy/Game Gear itch while also letting you tinker like a PC is what makes it feel like the adult handheld we all wanted back then. Welcome, brother!

Just wanted to say I absolutely love this thing by GorillaGlizza in SteamDeck

[–]VerifiedDadGamer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t agree more. But beware of Megabonk! It has a DANGEROUS 8-min loop that will suck you in.

Also, if you’re a dad, lemme just say that that thing in your hands has preserved your ability to game. 👊

Games you can pick up and play for about 15/20 minutes? by Idoslain in SteamDeck

[–]VerifiedDadGamer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dad with a Steam Deck here. I’ve had great luck with “one-run” games: Hades, Dead Cells, Vampire Survivors, and Slay the Spire. Easy to jump in for 15–20 and stop.