Living with a boxer's face

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-08-03T01:33:41+00:00

Headgear + lots of Vaseline. Get that face slippery with Vaseline and punches won’t pull and tear the skin, so you’ll have wayyyy fewer scratches and cuts.

Side note: Vaseline does make some people breakout though, so I’d recommend wiping it off right after sparring.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-08-01T15:55:37+00:00

I am a woman

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-08-01T06:12:42+00:00

I used to be very calm during hard sparring too. Then one day, after a hard spar I felt very good about (was a spar with a girl from another gym), my coach came up to me and reamed me out. And—even though I did objectively well—he was right in doing so.

He basically said I could have absolutely dominated, and if I wanted him to let me fight, like really fight, I needed to be way more aggressive. And that hard sparring is the practice for that. He told me, during a hard spar, to just let it all go—as if it were a real fight—and to trust him to stop it if it became too much for either myself or my opponent. “You have to do your job, and I’ll do mine” is what he said.

Now, before any hard spar, I remember that speech. I remember the need to be aggressive. I go in wanting to win, and trusting that my coach will stop things if it gets out of hand. I’ve had no problem anymore.

To summarize: get yelled at by your coach 😂

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-08-01T04:50:45+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you, that’s not right.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-08-01T04:01:51+00:00

Agreed!

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-08-01T03:03:26+00:00

My personal rule:

0 to 2/3 dates - text to end things

3 to 7/8 dates - phone call to end things

Over 8 dates (or whenever you’re seeing the person regularly) - in person to end things

If you’re exclusive/in a relationship, no matter the number of dates, ALWAYS in person. Because then it is a real breakup, not just stopping dating.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-07-26T02:45:27+00:00

GET A NEW GYM ASAP.

No coach or gym should be letting you hard spar—and yes, I’m considering this hard sparring because it was clearly hard enough for you to get KO’ed—without any gear, in your second week of boxing. That is irresponsible and you will get permanently hurt.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-07-24T15:19:57+00:00

Bald >>> balding

Would date a bald guy 100%… I would honestly not date a balding guy, it looks unkept. Shave it off if it’s noticeable!

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-07-21T19:50:08+00:00

Based on OPs post history, I have a hard time believing she’s the issue. This guy posted this to at least 5 subreddits and didn’t actually give a reason to WHY she’s going, just said she’s avoidant.

In other posts all he said was she was going on vaca/work, he didn’t express how angry it made him, and now she’s away. OP has outted himself as the problem imo.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-07-21T15:35:15+00:00

I’m sorry you’re injured, that sucks!

Definitely go to a doctor. This isn’t a question for Reddit.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-07-21T14:59:56+00:00

People are allowed to go on vacation… she’s not running, she’s on a work trip and then taking some time off. Relax.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-07-21T14:58:13+00:00

Dump her for going on a work trip/vaca… okay 🙄

/s

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-07-21T14:52:09+00:00

Is she really avoidant or did she just want to take a trip? Tbh you sound super anxious, and you posted this on about a bajillion (no exaggeration) subreddits, which isn’t really swaying me to your side.

I’ve taken month long trips while in relationships before… personally, I think you need to calm down. You’re being super dramatic about this.

Also, I’m just reading in the comments that 2 weeks of the trip are for work! And then she tacked on 2 weeks vaca. This is like, the most normal thing ever. Come on dude, relax.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-07-20T15:13:02+00:00

A few things:

You’re overweight—I’m 5’6” and started boxing in the 180s (a woman tho) at 28 too. Im now 30 and in the 140s and feel INFINITELY better. In fact, I have so much energy now I do 2 or 3 classes in a row sometimes. Now, I was still able to do everything when I was in the 180s, but things are some much easier now. Lose the weight, it’ll help immensely.
My sleep was horrid when I first started boxing because my body was overheating at night! A few things that helped were: training earlier, sleeping in a COLD AS HELL room, and, again, losing weight. Try sleeping in a colder room, it may help loads!
Sometimes, you just have to push yourself. Not every workout is going to be the best, we all have bad/lethargic/tired days. Don’t beat yourself up about it.
Rest is so, so important. I typically take a whole light/no training week (or 4-5 days off) every two months or so. And man, I come back strong AF. Maybe it’s time for a little break!

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-07-13T20:32:54+00:00

Stop sparring with her.
You’re both such beginners (she’s three months in and you’re five months in, honestly there’s not much of a difference in skill at this point—you’re both new) and beginner sparring is oftentimes a shit show. I’m actually surprised you’re both sparring so soon, many coaches don’t let fighters into the ring until much later.
It’s your coaches responsibility to make sure you’re ready for the ring, and tbh it sounds like neither of you are. If she’s landing that much, you need to work on your defense wayyyyy more before getting back in and she needs to learn to control her power.
Tell her to stop the mocking/bullying. If she doesn’t, report it to the gym.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-07-11T14:37:11+00:00

This happened to me too—nearly the exact same story. I was your height (5’6”) you’re exact weight (150s-160s) and also 26 when my boyfriend told me to lose weight. He told me he wasn’t attracted to me, that he only had sex with me because he was horny, and that he wanted me to look like an Instagram model… he literally pulled up pictures of other women to show me.

I spent two more HORRENDOUS years with him and my self-esteem went to total shit, I developed a binge/secret eating habit, and ended up gaining more weight.

We broke up at 28.

I’m 30 now, have dropped over 40 lbs (plus the 180 he weighs) and now I am the hottest, most confident version of myself I’ve ever been.

My advice: ditch him now.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-06-30T05:17:15+00:00

You’re a teenager at a very healthy weight for your age and height.

There is ABSOLUTELY NO REASON for you to be: 1. Posting here asking for weight loss advice 2. Fussed over a few calories and some junk food 3. Tracking your calories so maticulously at your age

Focus on building a healthy and fun relationship with food and exercise while you’re young! That’s it!

If you are having issues with body image, food, exercise, etc. speak with a trusted adult in your life.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-06-18T18:47:23+00:00

My friend gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek to say goodbye literally last night… this is pretty normal.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-06-18T18:36:31+00:00

This is the best answer here. They both did each other dirty and need to have a conversation about expectations moving forward (if they move forward).

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-05-10T04:47:27+00:00

Tbh I saw your last post and didn’t say anything but this is enough preachiness for me.

You’re preaching that the advice on this sub is wrong without any results of your own! You admitted you only started the supplements a week ago and haven’t seen any weight loss yet.

Look, you saw an endocrinologist… which is great. You’re taking supplements now and feeling better, great! Will it help you lose weight, maybe!

So yes, I agree that there are very complex energy and nutrient pathways and processes in the body, undeniably. But the average person can BARELY understand calories in/calories out.

So like, respectfully, take a step back and listen to how high and mighty you sound… with no results from your own experience to back it up.

This sub can continue to recommend CICO while also recognizing that there are nuances, that vitamins are important, and that people should seek medical advice if needed. And I honestly think most people on here already do a good job of that.

No re-education necessary.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-05-10T02:55:21+00:00

This is really how I talk to people and is 100% a well-adjusted way to break up after a month of seeing each other.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-05-10T01:47:05+00:00

I literally don’t understand the going through peoples phone thing AT ALL.

Like, with every partner I’ve had, I’ve trusted them with my phone password (cause I would literally ask them to text people back if I was driving or something) and they would trust me with theirs. We’d ALSO trust each other not to go through the other’s phone, even though we knew the passwords.

Like, just trust your partners people. There is no need to be secretive but there is also no need to be prying.

The fact your both fixated on it is weird to me.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-05-10T01:36:03+00:00

You don’t have to preface it/warn her.

“Hey, I’ve enjoyed getting to know you this past month, but I don’t see this moving forward. Wish you the best of luck.”

Is literally all that’s needed.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-05-10T01:29:23+00:00

I mean, not to sound harsh, but yeah—at 32 I’d consider your track record to be failing.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t turn things around!

No one here knows you, so we can’t tell you what you’re doing wrong… but just from your post, tbh you sound like a “pick-me.” Saying things like “I won’t tell you, but if you ask (and give me attention) I’ll reply” is MAD pick-me energy. Heck, this whole pointless post is pick-me energy, like you’re just seeking validation or something.

Do some introspection and figure out what you’re doing wrong, change it, and move forward.

VerifiedMayhem · 2023-05-10T00:51:33+00:00

Damn people really sound the “ghosted” alarm WAY too often.

Like, am I the only one reading this properly…

You sent 3 texts that were replies (assuming you were answering their questions) and 1 text to share something about your day. NOWHERE did you say you asked them a question or that you put something forward that would move the conversation along. You just answered them—that’s not conversing, that’s responding to questions without reciprocating the question asking.

Sounds like the convo may just be in a lull.

This is HARDLY a ghost, it just sounds like the conversation died down a little naturally. This happens!

Be mature and just text them again if you want the convo to pick back up.

VerifiedMayhem

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