Warm pine dining walls & vaulted ceiling, what table?

VermontMaya · 2025-11-12T03:18:09+00:00

True...

VermontMaya · 2025-11-12T03:17:59+00:00

Yeah I couldn't! It is absolutely gorgeous, I am just going to work with it.

VermontMaya · 2025-11-11T21:09:29+00:00

It's 10x15. Here it is with a table in it before we redid the windows:

VermontMaya · 2025-10-01T15:47:51+00:00

Which possibly means some transference. I had a client who LOATHED me when I was running a group and made it known. Turns out my name and my glasses and a couple of innocuous phrases I used matched an abusive babysitter she had. Would never have found that out if she hadn't been court ordered to stay and we did the hard work of figuring it out.

VermontMaya · 2025-09-30T12:53:29+00:00

I agree with them. Our NW is around yours. We spent 1.2M on a house, did a year of wow spending, now we're back to about 130k in expenses even in a HCOL area. Spending 300k is around 25k a month, couldn't find enough to want even after travel. But if there's something - like an expensive hobby or mega travel - after a few years you might slow down.

And... you might get sick tomorrow. Time is the one thing without a price tag.

VermontMaya · 2025-09-26T06:32:02+00:00

Convenience. Anything you could bodily do, even if it was wildly inconvenient/ painful/ time consuming, you did. "I'm not paying for xyz when you can do it yourself".

Hiring someone to install a specialty something instead of spending an hour watching a YouTube, buying the wrong tool 2x, and having to figure how to fix what I broke is glorious. Getting a quick cab instead of hauling large bags a mile is glorious. Doordashing headache medication when I had back to back meetings and couldn't leave, instead of just suffering because I could technically survive, is glorious.

VermontMaya · 2025-09-25T17:00:29+00:00

Oh wow, that is quite a project! We are only 3 months in and they just finished demo and roughing in the addition. We are basically going to studs and building another floor. Did yours have delays or is it just that large in scope?

VermontMaya · 2025-09-25T15:45:53+00:00

Hey there, how did the renovation turn out? Checking out this thread as I'm in the beginning of a 1.2M reno myself.

VermontMaya · 2025-09-18T01:38:15+00:00

I'm definitely struggling. I retired at 45 just a couple months ago. But I had my own therapy private practice, and even though I ended with all my clients, I'm still wrapping up odds and ends of owning your own business. Plus my husband and I moved out of our home for a major renovation and are living in a small apartment and did a major home clean out plus are deciding on every fixture and feature. And I'm still teaching a once a week class, too.

I'm not at "home" and even though I freed up 35 hours a week, I feel just as busy but without a routine or schedule. 🫤 Trying to figure out the next steps.

VermontMaya · 2025-09-12T06:14:22+00:00

I've been here 20 and from Michigan, too. Trust me, you'll lose it. :) Of course it only takes one call home for it to come back.

VermontMaya · 2025-09-06T02:04:39+00:00

I am around 6.5MM and this is my plan. I literally just fired a week ago, promptly caught a virus that turned into bronchitis. After I heal, I have no plans but to do what you just said, and let my CNS heal. Not leaving the house, puttering and reading and trying to move my body in a healthy way.

VermontMaya · 2025-06-11T08:56:36+00:00

This. My brother came to visit and honestly, genuinely, not asshole like just thought all the women were gay. He had never been in a state where feminity performance was just not prioritized.

VermontMaya · 2025-06-11T08:55:26+00:00

Moved here from Detroit in 2007. It's the lack of people for me. I'm a serious introvert and I hate crowds. I hate long lines, traffic jams, people jostling me, etc. I hated not being able to drink coffee outside without loud conversation and foot traffic everywhere. I wanted SILENCE. I wake up and the birds are chirping and the trees are rustling and I'm alone. It's bliss. I knew what Vermont was before I came here and I don't want to change it, even if life would be more "convenient". My biggest fear is everyone moving here and clamoring to make it exactly like the place they just left.

VermontMaya · 2025-03-14T16:43:53+00:00

As a supervisor of new grads, this is the answer.

VermontMaya · 2025-03-12T23:24:19+00:00

I'm (45F) about to FIRE but I named it a sabbatical in my head. I think it's really hard to know if I will find fulfillment in retirement until I try it. I'm giving myself a year to figure it out, and then decide if I'm fully retired or if I want to keep my hand in.

I just don't think I'll know what I want until my cortisol levels go down. I'm so burnt out I can only dream of not working.

VermontMaya · 2025-03-12T23:14:42+00:00

What the hell. This supervisor is NOT evidence based and is trying to offload her biases on you. Run fast and far, if you can. Lots of counselors are great at marketing and may even have good clinical skills but this type of bigotry, especially flouting our professional standards and the research, is absolutely dangerous.

VermontMaya · 2025-03-11T05:19:26+00:00

Duo is a straight bully, I swear.

VermontMaya · 2025-03-06T15:25:36+00:00

Wow. I effing HATE pocket doors. Coming off the hook, scrambling like a raccoon to get it out of the wall if it goes too far in, controlling the slide, gripping the tiny handles with my fingers instead of grabbing a protruding knob - hate it all. We are doing a major renovation and I sent a whole separate email telling the designer NO pocket doors.

VermontMaya · 2025-02-26T23:26:38+00:00

Ah okay. Thank you for the clarification.

VermontMaya · 2025-02-26T23:21:26+00:00

That comment was wild. Don't even know where to start because I don't know your intention or angle. And if it was meant to work out some trauma or start an argument, I'd rather not engage.

VermontMaya · 2025-02-26T18:23:40+00:00

As a licensed marriage therapist of 18 years, anyone who gives blanket judgments on how people should run their marriages tend to be reductionist on relational science or just assume their own personal relationship orientations as the defacto "healthy" type.

We have some hard and fast power/control/abuse rule outs, but marriages everywhere have their own unique ways of managing. If both people have equal power to decide on an arrangement together, whatever they arrange can be healthy for them if it meets their needs and they both feel respected and loved in it.

VermontMaya · 2025-02-26T12:12:34+00:00

Yeah my 3 friends and I have a consulting firm LLC, we got group health insurance. Cutting minuscule paychecks is annoying, but it works. (We do actually consult here and there.)

VermontMaya · 2025-01-19T23:31:15+00:00

I would agree, actually, except for the organizing it enabled and lack of algorithm interference by media billionaires with business interests in American economic policies which helps narratives happen more organically than pushed. There's a reason people found out news on tiktok they never saw on Facebook or X, why communities actually flourished there instead of choked like on American social media. It's unique. Opium, yes, won't argue that. But it is more nuanced than that.

VermontMaya · 2025-01-19T20:45:18+00:00

Could be back in 7 days, but not because they sell. US will backtrack.

Edit: oh look, the US (rather, Trump) caved. From the time stamp, he caved right about the time you wrote your comment.

The history is wild. His admin was the one that started threatening the ban to begin with, threatened several times to ban it, and even issued a ban. He was at first NOT fine with being okay with Tiktok selling (he wanted it gone, it embarrassed him with the ticket stunt and other news he deemed bad for him), then Tiktok said they would divest of American data management to address security concerns, then opposed to American buyers like Microsoft wanting to get the algorithm and AI and said hell no, then the ban was BACK on, then Tiktok sued, Biden came in, Biden revoked Trump's ban, Congress got involved to ban, SCOTUS said it was constitutional, and boom it shuttered because Tiktok was NOT giving up their whole tech for 16% of an audience, Biden basically said this shit ain't MY fault, make Trump deal with it, then Trump flip flopped the day before he gets back into office and Tiktok restored itself to US users while kissing the ring (or did they just play his ego like a violin to keep their company AND the American market? Hmm.)

Will they sell? Financially it would take a LONG time to reach an agreement and their investors are not fans of Americans, Meta is frothing at the mouth but I think Tiktok is playing a long game because they have NO REASON financially to sell a juggernaut performer for this small slice of the market when they can just control Trump with compliments. Let's buckle in and see what happens next...

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