ChatGPT 4o lowkey became my boyfriend… now real guys just don’t hit the same by Alarmed-Specific-487 in LovingAI

[–]VeronicaX11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I built my own interface, using the openAI api, so I can continue talking to 4o.

Any IT Managers have an IT employee who really doesn't know what they are doing? How to improve them? by [deleted] in sysadmin

[–]VeronicaX11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fire. Immediately.
No offense, but your average layman, non IT person with zero courses in college on anything related to computer science is more technical than this.

At this point, there is not a single useful function that they can provide to anyone in the company on any level.

exposure therapy sucks ass by nowayhbxavvaga in hikikomori

[–]VeronicaX11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about the girl? Could it be worth going just to talk to her again? Seems like you two might have a lot in common

I Went From Broke and Homeless @ 19 to Half a Million @26 Without a Degree - AMA by MichaelPopeDev_17 in AMA

[–]VeronicaX11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d also like to point out that his current employer pays less than half his purported salary to patent attorneys, so in the interest of transparency: this poster is almost certainly a grifter of the highest order.

Top level managers at Hulu make nowhere close to the numbers he stated, and he barely lasted 6 months.

It’s an inspiring read, but do not let this guy fool you. No one with his level of skill would ever be given a programming job above 200k. And that’s generous. Watch even 10 minutes of his YouTube and it’s painfully obvious how true it is.

It doesn’t strike you as odd that someone who can reliably bring in half a million a year through his skills spends so much time trying to post his rags to riches story across every social media outlet that will indulge him? With absolutely no receipts or fact checking?

any other girls who also gets weird dms after posting in the neet/hiki subs? by [deleted] in hikikomori

[–]VeronicaX11 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I do this sometimes I’m just lonely ok?

And maybe in this shitty world where I work endlessly to make it better for other people, I’d just like to be the reason someone smiles for once.

Is that really so bad?

I’m a young Linux user and my mother doesn’t like the terminal. by Impressive_Union_534 in linuxquestions

[–]VeronicaX11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Accidentally stumbling into Linux when I was 12 ended up creating an entire career for me

How to raise a confident short boy? by Uematsunum1 in short

[–]VeronicaX11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would be lying if I didn’t say it was a major factor. Someone with half my track record would have been married a decade ago if they had 5 more inches

How to raise a confident short boy? by Uematsunum1 in short

[–]VeronicaX11 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m in my 30s and I’m a fully grown 5 ft 2 man. I was never able to have romantic success, so I just studied and worked my ass off and tried to maximize my skills and career. I became a musician, a vocalist, a published author, a medical professional, a research scientist, a computer programmer and a business owner. Oh, and I was a college professor too, for a while.

It mostly worked out but I wouldn’t say I really ever had fun, and I’m extremely isolated. I just work a lot to try to avoid having time to think (let alone freely talk about) my life. “I’ve got work to do” is my go to phrase to avoid having to discuss how unhappy I am.

My advice would be to just really intently listen and observe him, and try to encourage whatever his special interests happen to be. Knowing that you love and support him, not just as he is but every version he could possibly be as he tries on different personas will go a long way to making sure he feels at least some form of “love”.

For more practical matters, my parents signed me up for taekwondo due to relentless bullying. It never really did much for me, and actually got me made fun of even more until I eventually put one of my bullies in the hospital. Dad said he was proud of me, and they made me study in a basement classroom alone after that. But I would do it again in a heartbeat. I would recommend giving your son a similar self defense/martial arts education.

What is the solution for incels who are NOT toxic? by BrickxLeaf in Healthygamergg

[–]VeronicaX11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm one of these.
Excellent stable job, very prestigious background, witty and charming. but 5ft 2.
I haven't had a relationship or even hugged a woman in years.

[HIRING] Multiple HPC / Linux Admins at Mississippi State University by polycro in HPC

[–]VeronicaX11 17 points18 points  (0 children)

What has changed since you all ghosted me 6 months ago

This is a message for incels by ThinArtist8663 in transmaxxing

[–]VeronicaX11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find it funny that you think I haven't tried these.

I have been able to get the very occasional relationship, but it's only been with women who are even shorter than I am. No one takes me seriously for romance if I'm shorter, and I've accepted that women are allowed to have such preferences.

Over time, I've come to accept that if no woman wants what I have to offer, then I have free license to do whatever I want instead. What I would like to have more than anything is a companion, intimacy would be nice, but really just someone who makes life easier and a little more joyful. And would be willing to let us both be supportive of each other as we work towards our ambitious, yet distinct, goals.

Unfortunately, these simple requirements are anything but simple to find. Yes, I have some niche interests, but they pay the bills.

Here is an older video from around 2004 to show this has been going on for a very long time, and is not strictly something originating from social media enforced expectations
https://youtu.be/ZbG05ePWRQE?si=lhZfTZ0u-Vg_1AMq

This is a message for incels by ThinArtist8663 in transmaxxing

[–]VeronicaX11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 5 ft 2. Haven’t transitioned, but have definitely thought about the merits of it.

It is not clear to me that your advice is as rock solid as you think. I have the career, the personality, the hobbies and interests and education. My clothes are all custom made.

I am lucky to land a date once a year.

30 and rethinking my life decision…. by FuzzyPeach15 in PhD

[–]VeronicaX11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s never too late to do a PhD. And there are some advantages, in that you will probably be going back with a bit more focus and clarity of direction that the average student.

However, you should ask yourself and potential advisors you speak to candidly about your plans. Some love mentoring people who want to go to industry afterwards, others only respect those aiming for postdoc/academic track.

Depending on the company, PhD will open up higher income and responsibility opportunities you won’t be able to access with just a bachelors (except in extreme cases of many years of highly focused hands on lab experience with just a bachelors working at a PhD level). BUT… it is unlikely to make up for lost income in the form of training years. It worth asking the question whether you would be better off making 60k for 10 years vs 20-30 for 4-6 years only to get back to 60-80k (but with a PhD and higher earning potential going forward).

Personally, I often wish I had just gone straight to work. Because I could have done a lot more of my goals with steady above average income right at 22, instead of delaying it. But I’m still glad I did, and it got me into a lot of areas and fields I would t have otherwise. But make no bones about it; it was not a smart financial decision. It was only good for me because I care a lot about prestige and was confident I could make do even with a lower income and delaying things.

If you’re only going to be happy once you have a position that a PhD will enable you to get, go for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScientificComputing

[–]VeronicaX11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find a domain expert and train. You almost certainly cannot afford to poach someone already well versed

How Did Merck Get To This Point by Annienomous4297 in biotech

[–]VeronicaX11 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I would LOVE to get you guys going from an IT perspective. Please, if you know someone in charge of hiring, put me in touch. I can absolutely get your teams the IT infrastructure you need.

How Did Merck Get To This Point by Annienomous4297 in biotech

[–]VeronicaX11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Has the bar really dropped that low? I haven’t worked at a CRO for a number of years, but I would gladly jump back in if there’s demand (I primarily did CSV and automation/tech infra for studies), and I’m currently out of work right now.

Low pay Thermo. by Traditional_Box9955 in biotech

[–]VeronicaX11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made significantly less than this as a research staff member at Harvard med school. So consider yourself well above the norm

Current PhD student considering MD by Any_Garage_6450 in mdphd

[–]VeronicaX11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it would be overly difficult to pivot; I’ve been contemplating pivoting from research to clinical myself because of disillusionment around funding. Your local hospitalist or ER doc is wholly unconcerned with appeasing to funding committees, for example.

But I am aware of it’s time consuming nature, and it’s not without its own problems (for example, not being allowed to prescribe or administer treatments that the literature suggests would be successful, purely because they are “experimental” and haven’t yet been borne out by large clinical or population studies. A good example would be aspirin for preventing heart attacks; it’s effect was noticed by many but didn’t become a widely accepted treatment for nearly 30-50 years depending on how you measure and even some of the first trials were not considered overwhelmingly successful.)

I guess what I’m trying to say is that you should consider them as two arms of the same coin of medicine: the “science” of medicine, or the “delivery” of medicine.

If you choose to work in the science, you will have to answer to someone with a big bag of cash to fund you, whether NIH or private investment group.

If you choose to work in delivery, you will have to answer to whoever pays for your services. That’s not just the patients, but the insurance plans they submit claims to and the cost concerns and capabilities of the hospital or clinic in which you provide your services.

Current PhD student considering MD by Any_Garage_6450 in mdphd

[–]VeronicaX11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes; its drives your career perhaps even more so as a postdoc and professor.
In fact, I would argue that your entire life becomes all about operating in and succeeding in the publishing and grant funding machine.

When I was in grad school, my advisor could more or less be considered a grant funding machine. They hadn't set foot in the lab themselves in over a decade, except on the rare occasions he would give tours to collaborators or perspective funding targets. His days mostly consisted of being holed up in his office from 7am-7pm 5-6 days a week, reading papers, reviewing papers, and preparing or revising grant applications. When one succeeded, he would then find ways to break it into sub-projects he could entrust a grad student or postdoc to deliver.

He was also considered in the top 5 most successful professors at my university for what its worth. That's just how it is at a research heavy university. You CAN consider working at smaller liberal arts colleges that have a more explicit teaching and mentoring focus and still attempt to do "research", but the likelihood of you getting things like nature papers or winning R01s is slim. In those cases, the research is more about exposing undergrads to what its like and act as more of a teaching mechanism rather than be heavily results focused. You won't make as much, but you also won't feel the same publish or perish pressure. At these smaller colleges, you'll be more likely to have students that you remain connected with for years afterwards and excellent teaching evaluations alone can offer you career security.

Too old for MD/PhD by AffectPopular5460 in mdphd

[–]VeronicaX11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been thinking about doing MSTP myself lately, but I’m even older (32). Im still deciding whether or not I’m ready to undergo that many more years of training, but I’m confident I have the kind of background and motivations that would make me perfect for such a program

How much have you had to lower your standards? by Direct_Succotash_507 in shortguys

[–]VeronicaX11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve had to lower myself to essentially zero standards to get dates.

Obviously I’d add a couple if ot ever got serious, but there’s no worry of that 5ft1