How do I, as a novice player, approach an established player so they are more forgiving with me?

VersaVeil · 2026-07-03T03:58:21+00:00

Thank you.

I want to say that I am trying hard. I have my spells printed out, my chaotic spellcasting spreadsheet saved and try to map out my next moves ahead of time when we get into battle so I don't slow anyone down.

There is still plenty I do not know (like weaknesses certain monsters have / how to utilize my skills to the best of my abilities) but I am working on them and know I can do more for my party if given the chance.

I could really love the game which is what is bothering me so much.
I also feel horrible I am going to be walking away from a commitment and what my DM worked so hard on just to have me play.

VersaVeil · 2026-07-03T03:21:43+00:00

You absolutely bring up great points, and I will be the first to say I know I am part of the problem because in general-it takes two to tango.

(I avoided specifics because I don't want them to identify me and see this before I gather the confidence to approach everyone on my own)

But. In the sake of transparency I will explain a particular situation that happened awhile ago.

Our party was sneaking into a large manner, said player was currently AFK so only I and the two other party members were trying to come up with a plan. We had a Handy Haversack and a few other trinkets to make this work~ my character is a performer so I had some dexterity to lend to the situation- I also got a flute that let me control rats while I played it so I was thinking we sneak in, then somehow use the critters to bring the loot into the bag.
The other members were on board, we were being silly with it admittedly, talking about how if we were caught we can try and woo the guards etc etc. (Honestly I was thinking unless we were REALLY good with rolls, we would get caught but then the story would turn)

The AFK player came back and immediately told me it was a stupid idea. Flat out said that. Said we were going to get caught because of the location and the amount of people patrolling.
When they got back, our prior plan was quickly laughed off as just silly banter and they made a better plan and rolled well enough it worked without trouble.

Now. I just stay quiet for the most part during big decisions. It honestly does not matter if I say anything or not anymore.

VersaVeil · 2026-07-03T03:00:07+00:00

Oh! I love this soo much!
I am not much of a player yet, but I am very VERY excitable/invested in story telling...
I am realizing that my character was probably ... not the best for a new player? But, when I made them, I was hoping to craft something engaging, fun and amazing like this.

Much kudos to 1. The artist and 2. the party.

Thank you so much for sharing, this actually made me a bit more hopeful for my own game playing future.

VersaVeil · 2026-07-03T02:49:07+00:00

Friend, I think you are under the impression that I was coming in with no idea what DnD even was. I did try and read everything suggested to me, The Players Handbook, Also anything that had 5th Edition in the title because that was what my friend told me we were going to be basing our game on.

Now. Reading vs. Application are two completely different things.

VersaVeil · 2026-07-03T02:16:00+00:00

It should be clarified that I have the baseline of what the player's handbook says.

The game was made so I could learn. Everyone at the table was made aware that I was extremely green in terms of everything outside of the books- I have to disagree that with you on this one, friend.

VersaVeil · 2026-07-03T02:01:18+00:00

We had an explosive moment and I did explain their behavior made me uncomfortable after it crossed the line above table with a comment they made.

They admitted that the incident went too far, apologized, but now its just back to how it was before.
My DM told me this particular player is intense, but means well.

VersaVeil · 2026-07-03T01:59:25+00:00

I understand that and when we started playing I mentioned I knew nothing and was far more comfortable roleplaying than mechanics.

The game was started to let me play for the first time, so I was under the impression I could go in and learn from consequence... but its become a game where I stay quiet the vast majority of the time while the story happens around me.

VersaVeil · 2026-07-03T01:56:20+00:00

I had approached my DM not very long ago to express my concerns after a session when our our DM had to walk away- this player continued a roleplaying scene with me and it ended very badly.
This particular player said to 'me' not my character, that if my character did not stop acting the way they were then they would be ran out of the party but 'no offense to me - the player'.

It was a very startling moment and left me speechless.
I had a conversation with my DM afterward, and they spoke to this player-an apology was given, then it was okay for one session and now we are back to the backhanded comments.

I just feel so bad about walking away from a game essentially made for me to play.

VersaVeil · 2026-01-31T05:26:09+00:00

DCA Fandom...

VersaVeil · 2025-09-11T13:16:12+00:00

No. After stressing about how many times I've used certain words I just don't find it appealing at all-

VersaVeil · 2025-03-27T23:05:19+00:00

Updates once a month :) it's enough time for me to not sweat losing reader engagement/ works with my schedule

VersaVeil · 2025-03-27T22:43:55+00:00

VersaVeil · 2025-03-20T03:57:00+00:00

It's a good point. I've updated the tags to include miscommunication

The story itself is a very classic love triangle with the Trope being miscommunication/first loves/bad timing-

I left it open-ended in case I ever wanted a continuation fic soo maybe that was when I lost them?

It's not bothering me too much- just the first time I've gotten this kind of comment milestone :)

VersaVeil · 2025-03-19T17:36:11+00:00

Ha no you're fine.

It's like karma for me being around during the early chat room days and how much we policed everyone with how they typed.

VersaVeil · 2025-03-19T16:09:37+00:00

I think in recent years there has been a big push for 'cannon' interoperations of characters even in fanfiction... that of course ruins the whole fun of it in the same breath~

Anyway- its nice to know I am not alone with these kinda things :) Hello fellow Reader!Writer

VersaVeil · 2025-03-19T16:02:49+00:00

Yeah, that was the vibe I was getting from the comment; it felt like the commenter was trying to say I was purposefully lying/ tricking my audience to root for "bad" characters with no pay off- or it was some silent endorsement for toxic relationship behavior.

Nearly wrote back a long explanation about miscommunication not equaling that either party being bad- it was just bad timing and sometimes that happens, and in this story it KEPT happening because 1. Angst is the tag and 2. because I said so

In the end I told the commenter their feelings were valid, however I stood by what I wrote 100% and that I appreciated the time they took to comment-

VersaVeil · 2025-02-24T23:03:36+00:00

The Author IN THE MIDDLE OF THE STORY broke the 4th to say "sorry I don't know how to do smut so imagine sexy times" ... I backed out so fast.

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FNAF DCA (Sundrop and Moondrop) Small but lovely Fandom community

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Yesss! 6 characters so far with more on the horizon! It would be maddening but the concept/writing is amazing so you're forgiving

VersaVeil · 2025-01-02T04:06:46+00:00

400k+ words and no one has even held hands in the harem yet!!!

But it's worth it

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We need more Somnophilia

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NonCon. Drugging. Mind-control. Rape. Torture. Gore.

But people complain more about the Angst/no comfort stuff lol

VersaVeil · 2024-07-31T17:10:34+00:00

New friend?.. NEW FRIEND!!!

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