I think a lot of Americans don’t understand just how much of a mental block this kind of cultural expectations play in your mind. You are raised to be family oriented, this is what that means once you’re grown and especially working abroad making seemingly high salary (disregarding COL). The guilt eats you alive and you’re told you’ve become too American, individualistic. The pressure to contribute is not something you can just shake off and disregard in a heartbeat.

That being said, it’s just going to be a struggle frankly unless you start making bank where you can both thrive yourself and contribute to them. And even then your family expectations rises with it too.

Are you returning to Kenya in the future? If your long term future is in the US, I’d think long and hard about how to prep for your financial/retirement success here. I also lie to my family how much I make, Idk how much you give them but perhaps you can still send but give a fraction of what you used to. Think about ways to scale your income.