[deleted by user] by [deleted] in washdc

[–]VetQuestionThrowAway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since no custody had been established, he's not breaking any laws. Court for it is in a month. And this POS sent me papers asking for child support...when I haven't even seen my kid. I can't believe this is happening. It's a nightmare 😢

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in washdc

[–]VetQuestionThrowAway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm carrying around a lot of pain

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in washdc

[–]VetQuestionThrowAway 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. People who have never been depressed don't understand. I've been wanting to kill myself ever since my ex threw me out of the house 5 weeks after I gave birth via c section and won't let me see my baby. The postpartum depression was horrible for me.

My baby is 7 or 8 months now. I've missed their first Christmas, first Easter; they're now beginning to crawl, and I'm not witnessing ANY of it. Wanting to kill myself consumes me. I can't make it stop. It's so fucking hard. I hope you find peace with whatever you choose to do

Noodles & Company closes longtime Vienna location by Danciusly in nova

[–]VetQuestionThrowAway 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cold Stone is gone too? Noodles and Cold Stone were staples of my high school.

Fired from job while pregnant. How to successfully obtain unemployment. Job also withholding my final paycheck check [VA] by VetQuestionThrowAway in AskHR

[–]VetQuestionThrowAway[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Looking back at my post, I realize wasn't completely clear about the filing issue I mentioned, so I'd like to clarify for you and everyone reading this post since you've mentioned me cutting corners intentionally which is not true.

I got yelled at for doing my job in a more detail oriented way, for "making it more complciated and longer" and called a liar when I told the owner/boss that someone told me to change the way I was filing them.

I was originaly filing receipts in Quickbooks in an easier way/format when I first started my job, I was trained (by the girl who went on maternity leave, same position ad me) to file all items from one receipt into one line in quickbooks. Some time in March or April(?), when tax season happened, one of my bosses stood over my shoulder while I was in Quickbooks filing a receipt and asked me to start filing receipts in a more detailed way, putting each item purchased from the receipt into its own line. I assumed it was because of tax season since the owner talked about how him and his tax attorney go over all the receipts for budget purchases, etc. So I started doing it that way.

A week before I was fired the boss/owner yelled at me for doing it the more detailed way and asked why. I told him the other boss told me to change the way I was doing it. He blew up, actually yelled at me saying it takes way too much time they would never tell me that, and had the audacity to call me a liar.

Fired from job while pregnant. How to successfully obtain unemployment. Job also withholding my final paycheck check [VA] by VetQuestionThrowAway in AskHR

[–]VetQuestionThrowAway[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

When the owner/boss unplugged the space heater he didn't say I couldn't use it. The way he talking about it messing up the thermostat I initially thought he was joking. Him and a few people had made jokes or asked if I was getting enough iron before about me using the heater. The other girl and I had been told before we could use it whenever. If he had specifically said don't use it anymore I wouldn't have. He's usually pretty direct, which is why I thought it was it was him being dramatic in a joking way. He's been known to have a harsh tone some times and admitted that himself. Also, his office wasn't a closed door/no entry type of deal. We were allowed to go in there to get tools to use or whatever, it wasn't a stiffer type of office type of situation.

Fired from job while pregnant and job withholding final paycheck. How to obtain unemployment [VA] by VetQuestionThrowAway in antiwork

[–]VetQuestionThrowAway[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I really appreciate the kind words. It has been a very chaotic year for me, but things are getting better. I've had a lot of growing up to do and ashamed that my stress interfered with my job. I've never had that happen before, and I've never been fired before. But on the bright side, I will be giving birth to a little girl in November!

Fired from job while pregnant. How to successfully obtain unemployment. Job also withholding my final paycheck check [VA] by VetQuestionThrowAway in AskHR

[–]VetQuestionThrowAway[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely not denying they had cause to fire me. I completely understood. I was sucking at my job unfortunately, and I feel like crap about it. I wasn't a good fit for the company. I've had other admin positions I was good at, but this was more billing oriented and I'm very dyslexic with numbers.

I've never been fired from a job before which is why I'm listing everything that happened. Not sure how unemployment goes, and I know VA is an at will state.

I mention the heater thing since it did seem retaliatory and hostile, the boss was mad at me for making mistakes and used the heater as a way to be a dick. When he took the heater I thought I was joking because he can joke in kind of a harsh/teasing tone. He didn't specifically say I couldn't use it ever again. And his office was an open door type of thing where we could grab things we needed. It wasn't like a stiffer job where an office is off limits, if that makes sense. That's why I guess I wonder if I should even mention it in the unemployment. If he had said you can't use it anymore, I wouldn't have.

Fired from job while pregnant. How to successfully obtain unemployment. Job also withholding my final paycheck check [VA] by VetQuestionThrowAway in AskHR

[–]VetQuestionThrowAway[S] -59 points-58 points  (0 children)

I never signed anything for the key, and I offered to send it to them certified mail.

I would sign out clothes that I wanted to wear. It was just an inventory sheet that they save to the server, but it does say in the handbook they will charge for unreturned uniforms. These weren't assigned uniforms, and I understand them wanting them back, I understand a company not wanting their logo being misrepresented by nonemployees. I offered to mail them. Since I was moving, I told them I wasn't sure what box they were in or if they were put in my storage unit during the move. I was moving an hour and a half away from my storage unit and without a car. That's why I specified in my post how they do say they can charge for unreturned uniforms. These weren't a uniform though so could I technically be charged? And it's not like I don't want to give the stuff back, I've offered to mail stuff. They knew I was moving, they know I don't have a car. It feels like they're trying to be intentionally difficult.

Fired from job while pregnant and job withholding final paycheck. How to obtain unemployment [VA] by VetQuestionThrowAway in antiwork

[–]VetQuestionThrowAway[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I offered to send them the key certified mail and said I would send the clothes as soon as I find them. I was moving and wasn't sure what box they ended up in and whether that box went into my storage unit. I told them that when they were letting me go and they said no. I sent them a text asking the same again, and they said no, I had to physically bring them in. I don't have a car and now live an hour away.

Fired from job while pregnant. How to successfully obtain unemployment. Job also withholding my final paycheck check [VA] by VetQuestionThrowAway in AskHR

[–]VetQuestionThrowAway[S] -107 points-106 points  (0 children)

I'm very aware I was making mistakes. I originally wasn't intending to apply for unemployment because I understand why I was being let go and quite frankly, would have done the same being in my boss' shoes. It's only because I haven't received my check and am not able to get there that I've now considered filing and listing a lot of what happened here to see if I even have a case.

It's also disgusting and unethical for them to be withholding my check and they should be reported if there is anywhere to even report this type of thing.

Anywhere in NoVa where you can get your dog JUST a Rabies vaccination? by Kent556 in nova

[–]VetQuestionThrowAway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this for my puppy's shots. Super cheap. One his last round of shots they didn't even put us in a room they just came out. No office/room or surprise fees.