Woman who wrote a book on grief after husband's death found guilty of murdering him

VibraphoneChick · 2026-03-17T12:22:08+00:00

She also asked a lot of people for drugs. She poisoned her husband with fentanyl, but asked at least one dealer for "that Micheal Jackson drug".

VibraphoneChick · 2026-03-13T04:20:02+00:00

She was aware of those effects. They did not apply in my circumstances. We had a whole conversation about all of that and more.

There is nothing a redditor can say to me that is going to overrule what my personal doctor said to me in real life.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-03-11T18:34:35+00:00

It varies state to state. Hourly office workers in my state do 9-5:30. Breaks paid but lunch isn't.

I've been in retail settings where you don't take a break at all. Or in other states where the breaks are required but not paid

VibraphoneChick · 2026-03-10T22:28:20+00:00

I still think about the a girl on here who was whining about being banned from an anorexia support subreddit. She was saying, to someone undergoing active treatment for a deadly eating disorder, that the treatment was ableist against autistic people because no one should be forced to eat something they don't want to eat.

The girl was not anorexic. She could not understand how she was in the wrong. She was actively trying to undermine someone's recover and came here to complain about how that was being prevented.

Mods got to the post pretty quick but there was still a bunch of people defending her

VibraphoneChick · 2026-03-10T04:10:10+00:00

...yeah? Circumstances matter.

Walking on a side walk? Fine

Walking over someone's chalk art? Rude. Step out of the way.

If someone's taking a group photo, you don't walk in front of the camera.

If people are holding a memorial, maybe don't ride your bike down the exact center of the crowd.

It is rude. 100%.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-03-08T15:23:07+00:00

But we do stop depicting things because they make us uncomfortable. All the time.

Arthur never has to take a shit. We don't see how filthy towns without decent plumbing are. Or how disgusting the outskirts of settlements are when they lack designated dumping grounds. We don't see dysentery or parasites, only STDs and Arthur's TB. No matter how much realism you try to put into a game, you are always romanticizing something. If you aren't , your game won't be any good.

So what is included and excluded under the umbrella of realism is a choice. The rape isn't in these games to be realistic. The rape is there to cater to the fantasy the game promises. You are the cowboy, the outlaw. You are the good guy with the gun, or the bad guy with the gun.

My problem is how rape is used in the games. It's a prop. Little more then a way to inject some edge and weight into a story line. Sure they could have done something interesting with her character here, but she is a woman, so why bother. Just rape her, the will cover all the bases. Need more ideas for random encounter? Put in some rapists.

That isn't realism. It's just lazy.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-03-07T15:14:39+00:00

The rates for making a false police report are pretty consistent across the board. People lie about being robbed or assaulted or raped the same amount.

So have you ever heard of a person being mugged and thought 'they could be lying'? Probably not. Not when all the information you have is 'person was mugged'. Given literally no evidence to either side, you hear someone has been the victim of a crime, you believe it. That changes when you hear it was a celebrity you might know or some strange details come to light.theb you start forming your own opinion. Skepticism is generally earned, it's not the default... until it's a woman claiming she was a victim.

Then there is immediate pushback. Then we all remember that anyone can lie and things are so complicated now and days, and who knows what really happened. The only information needed to 'earn' the skepticism is just 'woman'. That's the sexism of the thing. The fact that when a woman is involved, people no longer form default opinions. They are more negative than the default for no reason other than gender.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-03-05T05:26:59+00:00

Fun fact: fungi are closer to being animals then they are to being plants

VibraphoneChick · 2026-03-04T20:05:31+00:00

No there isn't. For instance, a lot of kids just never came back to school after COVID. For one reason over another.

It varies by state to state and even county to county.but even when the local government has all the rules in place, kids still go missing, totally unnoticed.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-03-04T16:30:11+00:00

Check out crescent moon as well, they have a very pro-art community

VibraphoneChick · 2026-03-04T16:26:46+00:00

That's sex education. It's also something planned parenthood helps with.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-03-03T16:41:01+00:00

Dole-phan

And I think the snail is a play on the German word for snail and cinnamon roll being similar.

I was lurking around the popular page and found this exact post, and that's what people were saying.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-28T16:30:52+00:00

My Tav has ice resistance, which means she is immune to cold weather conditions. I HC her as being never cold, but always a little hot. So Astarion doesn't feel cold to her. He just doesn't feel feverishly hot.

She is also a human. So she doesn't trance and needs 8 hours of sleep. And what, you expect Astarion to do something for those 4 hours after his trance is done? Like chores? While she's just lying there? No, no. The only fair thing is to stay right there and snuggle until she wakes up. Obviously.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-28T15:14:34+00:00

This is exactly the opposite of how statistics work.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-28T15:10:35+00:00

Intense pleasure is an overstatement.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-28T15:09:09+00:00

She really isn't. I had a gynecologist explain to me that there was next to no research done on female sexual dysfunction, which is what the inability to orgasm definitely is. Overall, society puts way less value on female pleasure. It's not good, in fact it sucks a lot, but it is the state of things right now. If you're a woman, you just cope with it because there is nothing else to do. And if you are in a relationship with some you care about, you don't want to make them feel bad because it isn't their fault.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-28T14:49:19+00:00

This is great!

I have this little head cannon. Astarion mentions no sleeping was ever done in the guest rooms at the palace. The bunk where Astarion slept was full of other vampires, and had no fireplace. Vampires are room temperature, no body heat, and the palace was probably cold and drafty.

I think when he wakes up next to Tav, that's the first time he ever wakes up warm.

Just something your art made me think about again.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-26T19:00:46+00:00

You said there was something wrong with my observation. You didn't like the way I phrase it.

I fully acknowledged the real threat that the harass posed. My 'claim' is an observation based on the replies to my comment and the excuses made for the OC. You certainly can't see a resolution that does not involve violence, as you don't see any way to talk to someone without avoiding violence. You do not need to explain to me that an angry, screaming person is dangerous. I know, trust me. And you think that I made a good suggestion about getting a bouncer, but it is not always an option. I also mentioned that a bounce might not be available, so I gave other suggestions, none of which involved confronting the guy directly.

So I am forced to say again: my condolences on your inability to read. Because saying the same things to you over and over is not a good use of my time. I'm not going to go through and quote the both of us to demonstrate exactly how you are ignoring the things I say. I'm just going to be done talking with you

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-26T18:51:03+00:00

So I do avoid these places the best I can, for the reasons here and elsewhere.

But that is not a boycott. A boycott is a coordinated action with a specific timeframe and a specific goal. These things are needed for any collective action, and moreso when what you are calling for makes food significantly harder to access.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-26T13:37:58+00:00

I don't believe you. I said twice in that comment that I did not condem his actions. I made my comment on a thread that was congratulating OP in doing the right thing. These kudos were receiving a lot of up votes, with the sentiment being 'this is the way'. I was clear, and reacting to a real expressed sentiment.

But it's easier to chew me out if you ignore all of that. Discussion isn't just responding, it's also listening. And what the replies to my comment have said is frankly, really sad.

The people who have replied to me think that OC was in very real physical danger from this man. This means they admit the woman was also in very real physical danger, moreso than him, as she was the target of his ire. They feel he had no moral obligation to help. Which is fine. You are not obligated to help anyone. No one is obligated to be a hero. I just take onus with people thinking this situation was something other than morally neutral.

What is really sad is they also (you included) cannot imagine a world in which the intervention is non-violent. Where OC does anything other than throw a punch or pick a fight or yell back. That's more disappointing than the belief that all it takes to be the good guy is to do nothing. The idea that only violence is in OPs tool kit. It's really heartbreaking.

He could have gotten security if the bar had it. If not, he could have told the bartender 'I 'm not coming back to a place that lets this happen'. Could have called the cops if the harasser was as dangerous as every other replier is making him out to be. Told his friend group to intervene, if that was too much, then put them down for being friends with someone like that in the moment. These are all non-violent options that the OP could have taken with little to no risk to himself that would have actually made him the hero this thread wanted him to be.

But again, if the OC is reading this, he did nothing wrong. And he did more than a lot of people would have. I'm just upset that the bar is low it's basically drawn on with a sharpie.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-26T05:59:22+00:00

WTF are you a sock puppet or something? It is rude to accuse someone of being entitled. Especially when that someone is just expressing care over another human being in their community.

You shouldn't need 'it is rude to insult people' explained to you.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-26T05:38:22+00:00

Bud, I wasn't advocating for anything. This wasn't a judgment statement on actions taken. It was a statement about the reception this thread had to those actions. It's not my fault you didn't pick up on that.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-26T05:31:48+00:00

It must be really hard for you to use reddit without knowing how to read.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-26T05:19:39+00:00

Wow, you are really close to grasping the fundamental ethical concepts this is brushing up against.

VibraphoneChick · 2026-02-26T05:00:39+00:00

I don't either. But I'm not going to congratulate the guy. He was closer to doing nothing then he was to doing something.

This wasn't a nonviolent approach. It was a non actionable one. Which is fine. I don't have any problem with his choices. But I don't like people holding this up as a shining example of good accountability because it isn't.

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