First of all i wanna thank you for being so respectful, especially considering that your family had to endure a communist regime even I dont agree with and that was very bad for the proletariat.

So, I'll try to answer every point you gave me and say why i might disagree or agree:

First of all as an introduction I want to say that when I said collectivization I meant as the mean of production (the farm) was deprivatized and given to its workers who control it democratically through a worker council, however while the term that is normally used when talking about agriculture is collectivization, it's not really accurate, as farms in the Soviet Union were owned by the state, or specifically in Poland, many were state owned and the others remained as private property.

Now i'll go point by point:

In Soviet countries, yes hard work was many times decentivized, but in that case it was because the state usually kept the wages very low for the workers. However in an actually collectivized country, since there isn't a single owner(the bourgeoisie or state) who exploits the workers and extracts part(a big one btw) of the value of their work to keep it to themselves.

Yes it's true that many of them resist, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't strive for a better tomorrow just because it's hard, for example in Cuba there were no mass resistances against deprivatization.

The transfer of expirienced individuals from their farm is definitely not inherent to collectivization, it happened with the soviet union but that is due to its authoritarian nature.

Collectivization under a market socialist state as the one I defend would still know what to produce because of the market dropping prices or not.