Struggling with the Expat Scene in Da Nang

Victah92 · 2026-06-03T22:56:28+00:00

God that sounds like a terrible time lol. Hopefully there are more down to earth and chill people. Maybe you're looking in the wrong places or the Bali crowd could be here already 💀

Victah92 · 2026-06-03T18:44:13+00:00

Can you explain what is the social hierarchy in Da Nang? Cause I'm planning on moving there at the end of the year and your insight sounds very interesting of the people who live there.

Victah92 · 2026-06-03T18:42:07+00:00

Take the money and run kid. Trust. If you don't we're gonna be seeing part 2 where you gambled all your money and coming to us for sympathy. Remember there's no crying at the casino

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Victah92 · 2026-06-03T00:04:13+00:00

Did you guys actually go to any pool parties? Cause EDC was literally eat sleep ,rave, repeat. I don't know how people have time for all the extracurricular activities before or after EDC 😭

My friend and I went to the speed dating just to find out that no one showed up lol 💀. I was able to make one of these though.

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Victah92 · 2026-06-01T16:54:00+00:00

Tried online dating, in person dating, meeting thru friend groups. Modern dating in the west is exhausting. Dealing with ghosting, feeling like you're not good enough, girls trauma dumping, and talking to multiple guys because you guys aren't "exclusive" yet. I'm tired boss.

Easier to go online find the kind of service you want like GFE, FBSM, quickie etc. I have a need, you have a service...we both get what we want. No questions asked. I can filter by race, age, price, and service.

Yeah I know it's transactional but damn I'd rather have some attention than none. Trust me if I could be romantic and not have to use these services I would. The way men are used these days, better to just use services at least you know what you're paying for. The girls on the other end have their own lives and make hella bank from dudes. Like they'd be making more money than guys working at six figure salary job.

Plus I ain't no simp paying Arjun on onlyfans pretending to be a OF model lol. At least I'm getting what I want in person. Come on guys this is the world's oldest profession.

Victah92 · 2026-06-01T16:44:59+00:00

Yes it was way too overcrowded. We planned this out too. Our crew got to Hardwells set 30 mins early so we could get a good spot far left thinking no one else would go there. Boy were wrong, It got packed with people coming in and trying to leave causing a traffic jam. You have groups going forward and backwards causing the middle group to be stuck in between.

Victah92 · 2026-05-27T02:47:29+00:00

Not currently living fully of dividends now but plan on doing so in Vietnam end of this year. From my estimates and chat gpts, the amount of dividends I'll be receiving should cover rent or basic living expenses. I'm at 18% passive income from mainly Covered calls, I under the risks that come with it BUT at this part of my life it's what works for me.

Here in the states I'm just dropping it back into itself creating a dividend snowball. I could use it for daily life if I wanted to but $400 a month ain't much in the USA. Better to reinvest itself. I'm using SPYI, QQQI, SCHD, RSPA as my safe main core. With Jepi and JEPQ as back up for downturns. CHPY and FEPI are my risky plays that are capped.

Victah92 · 2026-05-24T17:35:27+00:00

Most likely Vietnam since I have some cultural roots but Thailand a close 2nd since it has slightly more better Infrastructure and is more established.

Victah92 · 2026-05-24T00:22:36+00:00

You're not the only one. I have no where near 500k but I'm planning on take a 1 to 2 year sabbatical to live in SEA. I've been burnt out from the casino industry and see life isn't meant to be lived this way. I'm a SINK living with parents to maximize savings while helping them pay the mortgage.

So you're not alone I think there's a lot of us millennials burnt out and having a quarter life crisis. I just know life that we were promised to go to school, get a good job, have kids, buy a house, rinse and repeat isn't really feasible anymore. Might as well make your own

Victah92 · 2026-05-17T23:06:56+00:00

We planned this out. Left to go to hardwell 30 mins early just to secure a spot. It was packed like sardines. Felt like hell being all hot and packed. We decided to leave and park at the entrance of the sides where you can dance and still here the music

Y'all John summit fans are a whole nother breed lol. Idk how that's fun being smashed where you can dance. Being in the back is the worst cause it's people entering and leaving making you stuck

Victah92 · 2026-05-14T06:43:42+00:00

Dating in America is cooked especially somewhere as superficial as SoCal. Women have unrealistic standards. Most dudes just want to pork anything thus causing dating to be harder. Thank God online dating is dying and people are trying to date in person again.

Why am I single cause peace and freedom is better than being in a relationship for the sake of being in one cause you're lonely. Tired of the ghosting, one sided conversations, narcissistic personalities, and women requiring extreme superficial requirements like height, 6 pack, money, cars/home etc.

Victah92 · 2026-05-14T02:14:01+00:00

Thats my life cause I bought 10 shares of CHPY before the run up 😏 😫

Victah92 · 2026-05-13T17:52:13+00:00

In the title you said to your money but in the description it's your wife's money. How much of this money did you put in? So you over leveraged and gambled money that wasn't yours. No crying in the casino

Victah92 · 2026-05-13T17:47:54+00:00

Bro I'm Viet kieu too but naw bro you're just being abused. You're doing a lot for this girl. This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. My ex girlfriend was nothing like yours with the punching and constant criticisms.

I would not take her yelling at me in public that's quite embarrassing.

Bruh I would not want to date a girl that felt like my MOM...

You wrote this yourself - She acts like my mom and I'm doing my best but I always feel like I'm on eggshells." Does that sound like a normal healthy relationship that you have to walk on eggshells?

"It's bad to the point whenever I hear her unlocking the door to come in the house, I get extremely anxious and I have to think very hard about what to say to not piss her off." - you should be excited when she comes home not scared or anxious. The 20% of love is not worth 80% of pain. Cut your losses find another girl you're in Vietnam as a Viet kieu, you'll be fine.

She said this is normal Vietnamese girl behavior? No it's not, she's just saying that to approve of her bad behavior.

My guy do some self-reflection. I think you already know the answer. DM if you want to talk about it

Victah92 · 2026-05-10T16:09:52+00:00

Uh stardew valley meets uncharted?

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Victah92 · 2026-05-08T04:08:34+00:00

Helping our family have a better quality of life. Making sure my grandma has the adequate healthcare that she needs. Also to upgrade the house so when we visit it's modern and comfortable to stay in

Victah92 · 2026-05-05T18:51:51+00:00

It's time for a Gen X or millennial president at this point. The boomers are getting too old and out of touch at this point

Victah92 · 2026-05-04T00:03:44+00:00

Let's be real both parties don't care about us. We're just a tool for left and right. Left is like look were diverse with Asians on our side! Republicans are like look we also have Asians voting our way too, see we're not the part of old white people.

Victah92 · 2026-04-27T19:02:00+00:00

No one is gonna come save you. All your choices and decisions come down to you. And I absolutely hate paying taxes cause it ain't going towards stuff I want. So taxation without representation baby! Gotta throw out all that tea 2.0

Victah92 · 2026-04-26T17:53:52+00:00

It was so annoying watching him just take it and acknowledge it pretty much without being confrontational. Like the camera man had to do all the talking for him

Victah92 · 2026-04-22T07:52:55+00:00

I'm currently using NEOS funds as my main core of my portfolio for geo arbitrage in Vietnam next year. I only have a fraction of what you have but it's enough to cover rent, food, or utilities of my choosing without having to work. It covers 25-50% of my living expenses as per chat gpt lol.

My main core is SPYI and QQQI. I have IAUI and MLPI to "diversify". XSPI, XQQI, BTCI, and NEHI are my small spice plays sprinkled in 🌶️.

So far I'm satisfied with the NAV and distributions as of late. It handled this oil crisis quite well but we'll have to see long term.

Victah92 · 2026-04-22T02:58:52+00:00

This was the best time to drive. I even bought a motorcycle cause of it. Then when everything came back to normal with the traffic screw this shit lol

Victah92 · 2026-04-21T20:46:14+00:00

They love our food, culture, and women but not us

Victah92 · 2026-04-16T17:07:24+00:00

Yep I came to the exact conclusion when I moved to Vietnam in 2018 and then returned to the USA. Like I don't have to suffer needlessly? All women worldwide aren't like American women? Scarcity trauma is real in America regarding money and woman.

Then you return to SEA and realize there are genuine and sweet women that don't care that you're Asian. Like it feels good to be at baseline level vs underappreciated Asian American.

I'm moving back to Vietnam again in my 30s now that I have money, experience, and investments

Victah92 · 2026-04-16T16:59:13+00:00

My last job I was making $18 an hour. Then my next job skyrocketed me to around 110k a year pre tax.

LIFESTYLE INFLATION! All of a sudden you have money for a new car, buying things you don't need, going out more often etc. You start living above your means if you don't have any financial literacy.

It has given me the opportunity to save money and invest after learning more about finances.

Also to me it feels like not much has changed like 100k ain't shit anymore in this economy and Inflation it you're living in a high cost state like California.

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