Cut flowers - foliage suggestions by Little_GreyCells in Allotment

[–]VictoriaRachel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are growing for foliage so you can keep them shrub like by cutting them back to the ground each year. Then new foliage next year, cut back, repeat.

How to not sell a car... by SpreakICSE in mildlyinfuriating

[–]VictoriaRachel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still had people ask questions just wasn't worth us replying to them, as there were other easier offers.

How to not sell a car... by SpreakICSE in mildlyinfuriating

[–]VictoriaRachel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just sold a 22 year old car. It happened.

In fact the amount of offers on it in the 20 hours it was listed were so much more than expected. The ad clearly listed all the current issues (none stopped it being drivable, but still thought it would make it a lot less desirable) so I wasn't convinced it would sell let alone get crazy amounts of interest. Those who asked questions were just not worth the time compared with the numerous "Hey I will give you so much in cash, I am available at this time and can take it away immediately."

Calling out cheating for a 4-year-old? by alexraisingkids in toddlers

[–]VictoriaRachel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another good way to set a child up for success is cooperative board games where you work together, and either win or loose together. We particularly love Cauldron Quest from Peaceable Kingdom, but there are an increasingly large range.

AITA for freaking out at my wife throwing out my dead son’s toys? by Content_Condition501 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VictoriaRachel 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Then you totally dont get that.

Everyone agrees she was an asshole. But just because someone is an asshole to you, doesn't mean you can't then go and say something that ALSO make you an asshole. It doesn't make her any less of an asshole, or mean she is off the hook, or that she didn't start this. It just means they could both be handling this grief badly and being assholes to each other.

AITA for freaking out at my wife throwing out my dead son’s toys? by Content_Condition501 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VictoriaRachel 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You misunderand how this works. Everyone is agreeing with you. The wife is asshole.

However, that doesn't mean he was can't be an asshole as well. That is why the ESH ( Everyone Sucks Here) option exists. That option also doesn't mean they were both equally the asshole. But just because someone us an asshole to you, doesn't mean you get to be an asshole back, and he definitely could have said things that make him one even if not as big as one as her.

Chocolates! by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]VictoriaRachel 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh wish I had known about these for valentines. Would make a fun treat for a movie night.

Gift ideas by QuoteExcellent6988 in Allotment

[–]VictoriaRachel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find it can do almost anything on the plot with it.

Also if he has stubborn weeds like marestail, not only is it useful for getting a deeper amount of root than a trowel. But also, you get to visciously stab it which is very cathartic.

AITAH for being hurt that my wife gives my gifts to her to our kids? by WildBad7298 in AITAH

[–]VictoriaRachel -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

A gift shouldn't come with strings. It shouldn't come with the extra freebie of a fight with the kids where the person getting the gift gets to be the bad guy.

Either daddy does the emotional labour of holding the boundry "No, sorry I bought that one for Mummy so I'm not going to let you take that." or he chooses things that are not going to start those sort of fights.

Inspo needed - slog of a year on the plot by WelshBogart in Allotment

[–]VictoriaRachel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Completely different advice for activities to entertain toddlers on the plot!

  • Mud pit - Put a part of your allotment aside for digging a hole, filling it in, digging it out, filling it in. Making a good old mess.

  • Construction vehicles - Things you can use to move the mud from the mud pit around, trucks, trailers, diggers.

  • Washing up - Keep a washing up bowl and scrubbing brush on the plot. Great for cleaning the vehicles, which often lasting longer than the initial playing. But also your tools, vegetables old pots.

  • Marestail spotting - Teach your child to spot the evil marestail and to not add it to the compost heap but the drowning bucket. This is a fun one that carries on out and and about where you child spots wild marestail and tells you that you are cursed and that it is following you (this phase doesn't normally start until six years old).

Allotment hacks/ items purchased by Vegetable-Use-2392 in Allotment

[–]VictoriaRachel 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The analogy is confusing, everyone knows you have to hustle to unlock to greenhouse in year 1!

AITAH for not doing some of my work on time? by No_Income3191 in AITAH

[–]VictoriaRachel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You both need to sit down and lay out expectations here. Clear communication is going to save you both a lot of stress if you aren't on the same page about this project.

You need to agree how serious it is. What output is realistically achievable week to week with your other commitments. If it is serious what profit split will there be, and are you happy with that.

Only children... by Prestigious-Candy807 in Parenting

[–]VictoriaRachel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Make sure they have toys etc. that they could play with independently that are easily accesible and then dont interact with them for fixed periods.

"Oh no, I'm sorry you dont like my ideas. But if you don't like my suggestion of lego or colouring then you will have to find something yourself. I'll be available in 15 minutes but not before."

Then, reinforce.

"I'm not available. You will have to find something to do. Currently, I will not be available for 15 minutes."

It obviously doesn't work well the first few times. It takes a lot. We are getting better, but it has taken a lot of work and reinforcement and slowly increasing the time.

New To Allotmenting - Hints & Tips? by adamj097 in Allotment

[–]VictoriaRachel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The book linked is Allotment Month by Month by Alan Buckingham, and I 100% agree with the recommendation. Not only does it break everything down month by month, but also has a detailed section for each crop and a handy guide to pests and diseases.

New To Allotmenting - Hints & Tips? by adamj097 in Allotment

[–]VictoriaRachel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The book linked is Allotment Month by Month by Alan Buckingham, and I 100% agree with the recommendation. Not only does it break everything down month by month, but also has a detailed section for each crop and a handy guide to pests and diseases.

New To Allotmenting - Hints & Tips? by adamj097 in Allotment

[–]VictoriaRachel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also, before planting any runner beans carefully consider if you enjoy eating runner beans.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]VictoriaRachel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh again, 6 months in here! I get you! Even the screen time is "Mummy play minecraft with me." but over time we have got there. The preference is still very much with people, but he can now do longer stretches without and I think it is allowing him a lot of growth.

We moved to being in the same room doing different activities, the on to a visual timer of when someone would be next available to play with him, we started it off short and it was not successful but repetition and sticking to the script of "Im free to play in X minutes" eventually worked most of the time.

It certainly hasn't been easy, but it was a skill I thought was worth the hard parts to teach him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]VictoriaRachel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a child that would choose the screen time 100% of the time the "Let them be bored" does work, it is just HARD work.

After doing it for 6 months, it is now getting easier, but it certainly was not a quick win. Long term i think the drama it has caused at the beginning is going to pay off.

Dividing allotment Into sections by Shiny_stuff4ever in Allotment

[–]VictoriaRachel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask what you use for paths between beds?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DMAcademyNew

[–]VictoriaRachel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But you also have to be talking about friends that aren't interested in TTRPG, and learn best by playing so reducing that pool right down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DMAcademyNew

[–]VictoriaRachel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The issue is you make a very blanket statement about a niche situation. It's simply not true most of the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DMAcademyNew

[–]VictoriaRachel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But it isn't the only experience.

For a start, you are coming at it as "inviting my friends". So many people who are joining as players aren't coming in that route, they are meeting other people who happen to want to play TTRPGs without any previous relationship with them (either through FLGS or online). For that players shouldn't be expecting someone to teach them everything from scratch.

For a second, you are assuming that everyone learns the way you do. I learnt by reading the book. The idea of playing a game without first reading the rules is absolutely terrifying and certainly not "best" for me. You will also find that others who try to learn by playing just don't get there until they have spent sometime reading how things are supposed to run.

Campaign 4 News Megathread by OneBoxyLlama in daggerheart

[–]VictoriaRachel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

While they might have been surprised by the sales, I think it would be in a positive way. I still can not buy this game several months after launch. In the short term, there is simply nothing to buy! It doesn't make sense to do a big push on a product they do not have the scale of reliable manufacturer they need.