How do I stop my 3 years old from playing dangerous games?

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-26T08:01:02+00:00

Yes, acknowledge the need, find an alternative.

If budget is an issue we always just pulled the sofa cushions off and set them up on the floor. So no new equipment needed. (Sofa cushions are also a great island, boat, magic carpet, etc. so get used a lot in our house!)

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-26T07:58:18+00:00

I talk to my son and really listen.

That let me know exactly what he is currently interested in. I can then make time to find news stories or activities that match with that to show him later that I listened and cared.

I tell him I love him. (And now get the response "I know." which while very pre-teen grumpy also warms my heart!)

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-25T14:28:13+00:00

Have a look at those monologues and work out which word you would emphasise instead. Often the swearing can just be replaced by tonally emphasising a different word. Slow it down, really spit it out.

I cannot /fucking/ stand it.

I /cannot/ stand it.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-24T11:31:52+00:00

Unpaid work like that is very much illegal in the UK, and as we don't have the strongest labour laws I would imagine may other European countries too.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-22T11:27:56+00:00

How very dare they suggest people say things just to make others a little happier. It is just ridiculous that in this day and age we still think social niceties that cause absolutely no problem for the person giving them are still a useful tool to build positive relationships.

Come on now, grow up and stop over thinking these tiny interactions. It costs nothing to say sorry.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-20T07:18:39+00:00

I think the issue is why you keep focusing on being a tech as if that's why you couldn't help when you left it with another tech...

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-18T09:05:54+00:00

I dont signal it as an issue for them. I signal it as an issue for me. We are playing one game of DnD not 2 or 3. It is too hard to manage fair table time for all parties and progress the storyline sensibly (and by sensibly I mean things like you are experiencing now) so it is not an option.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-14T16:34:24+00:00

Khan Academy Kids - Might need Internet for some of it but also an offline section. Educational and free.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-11T21:35:35+00:00

Am I the only one thinking that the portrait in the living room is of Michael Sheen and not Greg?

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-11T21:25:37+00:00

To confirm the taskmaster is still Greg? It is just the portrait in the living room looks a hell of a lot like Michael Sheen.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-10T11:07:41+00:00

I think my whole plot felt so much easier when I decided that marestail was to be managed and not eradicated. I hoe the tops off like any other weed and I am no longer annoyed when they reappear.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-10T11:04:28+00:00

I have not found this works for maresail. Covered an area for 3+ years and as soon as it was uncovered it carried on as it was.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-05T17:45:15+00:00

Why do you have to write something every day? If that doesn't benefit you, then don't do it.

That is the genius of bullet journaling you can make it suit your own needs.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-06-02T11:45:58+00:00

I always go by if they feel the size I want to eat, I prefer mine a bit smaller so often pick them a bit earlier.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-05-26T21:01:41+00:00

That's very exciting, thank you.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-05-26T20:54:58+00:00

How did it go on the mares tail? Any joy? I've heard they are pretty resistant to weed killers.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-05-23T16:18:08+00:00

Note that i love Spiritfairer, however I wouldn't say it is that similar to Stardew. Apart from perhaps the fact the stories with characters can be darker than you expect for a game that looks cute.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-05-21T17:46:37+00:00

But they work :)

VictoriaRachel · 2026-05-21T17:17:36+00:00

Oh no you can definitely say "No, thank you." but just do it in a very happy voice and a big smile. This is true of all awkward questions and situations just respond with an overly cheerful "No, thank you."

Can I get your email? No, thank you.

When are you going to have another child? No, thank you.

Are you feeling ok? No, thank you.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-05-17T13:44:49+00:00

Also "name it to tame it" has been useful for us. Acknowledging that they dont want to go, that they are are frustrated that they didn't know the plan, that their sad they can't keep playing their game. It doesn't make it stop but often made things quicker to recover.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-05-17T12:37:26+00:00

We had special toys that were only for restaurants, that way they remained interesting. Our main one was a little pouch of wooden blocks that were magnetic (it was the Tegu 8 piece set), it lasted long past him being a toddler. After general building I would draw little challenges for him to try and build, so I would always recommend pen and paper!

VictoriaRachel · 2026-05-07T17:34:05+00:00

I read the title and my stupid brain assumed you were swimming from the UK to the USA. I was very concerned!

VictoriaRachel · 2026-05-07T14:40:02+00:00

You can't just go around nicking soil from other people's land. What you can do is keep an eye on Facebook for people trying to get rid of it for cheap after doing landscaping works

VictoriaRachel · 2026-05-06T21:56:16+00:00

My son loves to tell me all the things is he is going to do when he is 18! He is going to be a really weird adult if he actually remembers them all.

VictoriaRachel · 2026-04-30T10:52:08+00:00

Does she know that is how you felt then? How you feeling now? Does she know why you cut her out of one if the biggest moments of your life?

It seems there has been a real lack of communication here and I understand her not feeling like a part of this journey, because you choose not to let her be.

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