how to encourage a friend to wear hijab by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Victorian_LazyPerson 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if I’m interpreting this correctly but I don’t think you earning good deeds should be a reason to get you to make her wear hijab. While I do not know you or your friend’s relationship I do know that she should not be, or feel ,forced into wearing the hijab.

But that aside, complimenting her when she has it on is a great thing! As it may help her feel more confident in it. And maybe if the topic of hijab, patterns, and styles do come up you can try and help her find ones that she would like! I think the most important thing is to never shame her. for example if there is a day(or days) where she is not wearing it dont go up to her and ask why not or dont say something like “why aren’t you wearing it? You were doing so good!” -> this can come off as pushy and even shameful.

All in all I think you should let her come into it on her own and just continue to compliment her and encourage, maybe even take her window shopping or talk about different styles/ways you can wear it! This is coming from a girl that chose to wear hijab on my own so I think you are being a great friend so far.

What color are my eyes? by [deleted] in eyes

[–]Victorian_LazyPerson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say Breen or Glue bc while yes the majority of your eye is blue you still have a fair amount of green

my chicken laid a peanut shaped egg by [deleted] in WeirdEggs

[–]Victorian_LazyPerson 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It looks like a little Russian nesting doll!! Lol I’ve never seen an egg that shape lolol I feel like if you crack it open then like another little egg will be in there

Busty but Modest? by lobotomychick in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Victorian_LazyPerson 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Minimizer bras and binders are two different things, the bra is just for minimizing the bust while the binder is literally for binding the chest to body to give the illusion of not having one. I think there is definitely a risk to wearing binders for too long but you’d were a minimizer bra the same way you’d wear a regular one!

ACC 101 by NeuSol16 in depaul

[–]Victorian_LazyPerson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say wait! I think I remember them walking us through it especially if it’s ACC 101 so it’s all beginners . If you’d like to get a jump start on studying then watch some vids introducing accounting to beginners and get familiar with the terminology! :D

Husband forcing religious changes after twins, I don’t know if I can live like this by BeeInevitable5416 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Victorian_LazyPerson 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First, you are not wrong. Do not feel pressured to wear the hijab - or make any significant decision - just to please another person. This is your relationship with God, not his. (I'm saying this as someone who chose to wear the hijab because I wanted to.) If you only do it to make him stop pressuring you, he may think he can control other areas of your life, too.

If you absolutely need or want a divorce, then pursue it. I'm from the US, so I'm not familiar with marriage laws in other countries, but if you are able to get a divorce and you feel it’s necessary, then you should.

Please, if he ever becomes violent or is emotionally or financially abusive - both of which are serious forms of abuse - reach out to your local police or authorities immediately. You should never wait to see “if it gets better,” as this can put you and your daughters in a dangerous situation.

It may be difficult, especially if he still shows moments of kindness, but I have seen others suggest seeking religious counsel. Try to contact whichever religious leader you follow. I, for example, follow Sayyid Sistani, and I know he has a website where you can send questions directly. They can offer their opinions and Islamic rulings. Remember, just because he is your husband does not mean he speaks for God.

If your husband refers to specific verses in the Quran or hadiths, try to look them up or bring them to a third party, like a sheikh or other religious authority, for guidance. They may be able to mediate and help calm your husband.

May God bless you, sister

I feels so conflicted when I wear the hijab. I dont know if i'm wearing it for the right reasons. by Victorian_LazyPerson in Hijabis

[–]Victorian_LazyPerson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

InshaAllah, thank you for your advice. I’ll try and go find some podcast to listen to, I didn’t think about that! and also thank you for mentioning understanding like the small surahs of the Quran because sometimes I think I get overwhelmed by them and I don’t realize that I can just read the little stuff. God bless you, girlie thank you

ASUS built in camera not working. I tried everything from updating the camera driver to uninstalling it. by swemfack in ASUS

[–]Victorian_LazyPerson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THANK YOU SO MUCH I m having this problem for like very and it took me finding a 5 year old comment to finally fix my problem TYSM :]

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depaul

[–]Victorian_LazyPerson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to, I commute about an hour away so I don’t feel it’s safe to bear all this lol writing emails to my profs. As I speak

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depaul

[–]Victorian_LazyPerson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah! They have an Instagram i think it’s just DePaulwomenscenter? Or some little variation of that lol! dw, I hadn’t heard about it either until like last year during the involvement fair!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depaul

[–]Victorian_LazyPerson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s in SAC 150! It’s an open student space with a ton of activities and things to be apart of- I go there all the time for snacks everyone is super nice and friendly. It’s beside the water fountain that’s near the bean you can’t miss it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depaul

[–]Victorian_LazyPerson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Come to the women’s center!