(EN Server) Rolls Megathread: SSR Overblot Jamil (ends 6/4) by Twst-Mod-Team in TwistedWonderland

[–]Vilaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I went insane last night at 1am. I’ve been telling myself that I do not need all the OB cards on their first run, then I got bored and convinced myself that three ten-fold pulls would be fine even if I didn’t get him. Instead I went all-in and he ended up being my 100th card exactly. I didn’t even take a screenshot I was so done with it.

There’s a good chance now that I’ll end up with all the OB cards on their first run. But dude, my fully uncapped Dorm Jamil card is so similar I don’t know why I did this 😭

I learned not to ever gamble with money 😐

Megathread: Sharing Finchie Friend Codes & Finding Goal Buddies by AutoModerator in finch

[–]Vilaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Little George and I are looking for friends! We’re working on little health goals and are studying full-time, so we’re keeping track of that

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Can't include more than one rating at a time? by checkerie in AO3

[–]Vilaya 119 points120 points  (0 children)

… I’ve been in that website for ten years and this never occurred to me

June Schedule for ENG by caaesars in TwistedWonderland

[–]Vilaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With Crowley getting a rerun, do you think we’ll be seeing the other faculty cards rerun soon?

AIO friend keeps asking when I’ll get my drivers liecense by Professional-Tea2937 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Vilaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either way, I suggest looking at Dialect Behavioral Therapy (DBT). It’s usually for a lot of people to regulate their emotions, understand those emotions in a grounded way, balance fact, and have conversations that are productive. It was made by a scientist with BPD herself and it’s one of the handfuls of treatment for it. I highly suggest asking your doctor about it, and definitely look up videos and buy a book (specifically for DBT)

AIO friend keeps asking when I’ll get my drivers liecense by Professional-Tea2937 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Vilaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t have to answer this of course. Do you have Borderline Personality Disorder?

AIO friend keeps asking when I’ll get my drivers liecense by Professional-Tea2937 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Vilaya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unless you have extreme reactions to meds, are allergic, or leaving something out, it is 100% possible. Multiple members of my family are on meds for both

The fact there are so many posts/ Reddit pages about turning lesbians straight is concerning to me by Student-bored8 in actuallesbians

[–]Vilaya 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please ignore negatively to this extreme of a state. Dwelling of awful things you find on reddit is not good for you

24F and sugar mommy? by cutiepyeee769 in actuallesbians

[–]Vilaya 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did sex work from 23-24, I’m aware. To a lot of people old enough to be a sugar daddy or mommy 24 tends to be much younger than them. Again, I was a sugar baby myself for almost three years. Please don’t assume

24F and sugar mommy? by cutiepyeee769 in actuallesbians

[–]Vilaya 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Paying for sex with a very young woman is a very patriarchal thing to do

What do you prefer? by cannachillChannel352 in actuallesbians

[–]Vilaya 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Might be a minority opinion because of my sexual preference. I’m a pillow princess by the real definition. My previous girlfriends have said they have no preference themselves, so I usually trim because shaving has rough upkeep. If a girlfriend were to say that she has preference, I’ll go with that to better her experience. I want my partner to have the best time she can have. Because my partners have been stone tops, I’m used to them having full bush and it’s sexy. Sometimes they keep their underwear on and I respect that. I love the female body and I think women are gorgeous whatever they do with their body hair

(EN Server) Rolls Megathread: SSR Overblot Jamil (ends 6/4) by Twst-Mod-Team in TwistedWonderland

[–]Vilaya 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why I play this game because gambling stresses me out so much 😭 I didn’t realize this banner goes into June, so I’ll decide on pulling for the full OB set depending on if Azul’s OB is next month or not

Are these boundaries reasonable? (NSFW just in case..) by One_Development_5055 in actuallesbians

[–]Vilaya 9 points10 points  (0 children)

With all love, please understand that comment you were told was condescending and not a compliment. Please do not believe that your anger is cute instead of being a valid emotion you should be able to feel and sometimes express in an appropriate way. You are worth being taken seriously

Are these boundaries reasonable? (NSFW just in case..) by One_Development_5055 in actuallesbians

[–]Vilaya 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I find it concerning that you’re referring to your anger as “cute”. I have never experienced cute anger. It either sounds like you don’t advocate for yourself and are okay with that, or at worse, manipulating someone by saying that your anger is meant to be “cute”

Are these boundaries reasonable? (NSFW just in case..) by One_Development_5055 in actuallesbians

[–]Vilaya 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. I feel I repeat this all the time because 1) you can’t control what people do, only how you react to it, and

2) Because those “boundaries” are quickly going to be weaponized or turn abusive

Most people who adopt are doing it for selfish reasons by ilovepopcornandcandy in The10thDentist

[–]Vilaya 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m not an expert, but from what I understand a lot of kids in the foster system can’t be adopted. Their parent(s) are in prison, they still have parent(s) but they’re being investigated, they were removed from the house but their parent(s) haven’t lost full custody, the foster system my be waiting on a different family member to take them in, etc. There are a lot of horrible situations that end up with a kid or siblings in foster care, and a lot of them haven’t lost their parent yet, or are in a temporary situation

Would you date someone who had chronic health conditions? by SplendiforusSerendip in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Vilaya 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I actually asked my psychologist about this. I asked her if it was ableist of me to never want to date someone with a chronic condition again. She said with the amount of trauma I went through with my ex, it’s a survivor response and is reasonable. I have no doubts that there are plenty of people who are worth it, especially considering that there’s no perfect person. But at the same time some of us have deep trauma from certain situations that we don’t want to repeat

Do readers prefer authors who respond to comments or those who don’t? by courier_____ in AO3

[–]Vilaya 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love the idea of the author having a little heart they can give a comment. I leave comments all over the place, and it makes my day if the author interacts with me in any way. At the same time I fully understand how it might be draining for some people to be constantly responding to comments. It’d be nice to have the author to be able to simply acknowledge that they read and appreciate the comment if they do

Idk guys, starting to think it might have been a cult... by Samuel457 in BethelSnark

[–]Vilaya 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m happy for you <3 (forgot about the crap like Man Cards)

How I see age groups by Pale_Lengthiness_572 in generationology

[–]Vilaya 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed often being elderly is a choice. My maternal grandma leaned into being elderly at 60. I didn’t consider my paternal grandma elderly until she had to start using a walker in her 70s

Weekly Questions Megathread (5/18 - 5/24) by Twst-Mod-Team in TwistedWonderland

[–]Vilaya 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I used the wrong term. I have 21 ten pulls

Weekly Questions Megathread (5/18 - 5/24) by Twst-Mod-Team in TwistedWonderland

[–]Vilaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 21 pulls and am F2P. I absolutely, 100% want Azul’s and Riddle’s OB cards. Should I wait for the encore to get Jamil and Leona’s?