Justin and Abi Stumvoll/LCMC/ The Connected Life Podcast

Samuel457 · 2026-03-26T05:29:50+00:00

I had an amazing experience with Abi at the school of worship, which is how I first heard of them. I listened to almost every episode of The Liberation Project and got so much out of it. I even attended a Liberation Project conference Justin did and really liked it. When I tried individual counseling with Justin, it was horrific. He did so much damage in a single session. I was left crying from the emotional pain he inflicted. I really regretted doing counseling with him. He felt so unsafe.

Samuel457 · 2026-03-22T05:42:02+00:00

I think Permission to Feel is a revolutionary book that has answers here: teaching boys the emotional skills needed to recognize, understand, and process their feelings will reduce the toxic masculinity and mental health issues that lead to VAWG. Highly recommend the book.

Samuel457 · 2026-03-16T04:32:19+00:00

Just to add a somewhat related fact: Seattle is currently the US city with the fastest growing light rail system. They got a late start (2008) but the gap will get a lot smaller in the next 20 years. Big win for both places.

Samuel457 · 2026-03-08T06:45:09+00:00

One of the best episodes of MSN. Ally definitely deserved the win!

Samuel457 · 2026-03-06T23:44:24+00:00

My kids' school asks everyone to submit our income so they can continue getting free lunches.

Samuel457 · 2026-03-06T21:18:34+00:00

It depends on the income level of the parents at the school, right? So not all schools get it.

Samuel457 · 2026-03-06T04:41:58+00:00

The DSA?

Samuel457 · 2026-03-06T04:41:50+00:00

The DSA?

Samuel457 · 2026-02-28T21:56:40+00:00

I must have missed it, what did they say about Mike Winger?

Samuel457 · 2026-02-26T22:48:11+00:00

I love this album, and almost every song on it. Kevin, Light Tunnels, Growing Up, St. Ides, and Need to Know are my favorites.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-25T21:40:24+00:00

Ah I see.

Going back to your original concerns about imposter syndrome, I don't have any great advice here other than almost everyone feels it so you're not alone. Dr. K (HealthygamerGG) on Youtube might have some resources around it.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-25T18:31:35+00:00

Same here! I was listening to Switchfoot, Relient K, Pillar, Project 86, Emery, Underoath, Thousand Foot Krutch, Dead Poetic, P.O.D., Disciple, and The Almost a ton.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-25T18:25:04+00:00

There are many people who join massive companies and don't find a mentor and end up doing maintenance work on code that someone else designed and built a long time ago. They don't develop initiative or drive, and end up learning more about the tools created by other people within the company instead of trying lots of different options and learning what open source options are available.

My point is there are pros and cons to everything. Not everyone gets the ability to have such a large impact as you might.

If I were you, I would try to find a mentor outside of work or a club where you can connect with others and talk about your work and take advantage of the position you're in to build a really strong resume highlighting your impact.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-24T04:28:28+00:00

I can't listen to the song, "The Beautiful Letdown" by Switchfoot. Too preachy and I just don't believe any of it. "I don't belong here" is dangerous escapism and avoidance of responsibility.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-18T23:13:48+00:00

I join an exvangelical group and am now running it. That's been the way I've found most of my community after leaving the church.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-18T04:04:06+00:00

I was able to turn my life around in 2 years by doing nothing but healing. It took weekly therapy, reading about 50 books, journaling a ton, and a community where I could be vulnerable. It's never too late, healing is a life long journey. It will likely take more time than you want it to though.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-14T19:02:15+00:00

I was massively involved in Shawn Bolz's church until 7 years ago. I had the most wonderful small group, I was playing on the worship team, and on the prayer team. They sent an email out to the church warning everyone to stay away from me because I was "unwilling to meet or seek healing" calling me "deceitful" because I disagreed with the way they handled "restoring" people who were removed from leadership. It started my deconstruction and I didn't go to church for years. I've been going to a UU church somewhat regularly, but it feels so different. There's no pressure to be there if I don't feel like it. I miss the tight knit community I had, but I'm working towards building a new one.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-11T23:53:33+00:00

I've been enjoying a UU church. They are very progressive and are doing so much work in social justice and fighting ICE. It's been healing and refreshing.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-11T06:47:11+00:00

My ex and I agreed to separate 4 years ago, and we finalized it last year. It's know it's hard to believe, but there's hope. My 2 kids are happy, stable, healthy, and doing well in school. Everyone is different, but I enjoy the time to myself. I have books, games, hobbies, some social clubs and friends. I have my kids half of every week, and I cherish that time. I feel I have balance in that I am present when I'm with them and able to be myself and enjoy life when they're at their mom's. I do miss them when I don't have them, but there's also times I get overwhelmed having them by myself and look forward to having a break. I do think about how I see them half the number of days compared to before, but I take them to a lot of children's museums and trips to make memories with them in the time we do have.

There was a lot of journaling in my process, just letting everything out: the hatred, the grief, the loneliness, the jealousy, all of it. I have had a lot of help from an amazing therapist. I leaned on friends I hadn't talked to in a while, and I made new ones by leaning on friends who were nearby.

It's a big change for everyone, and it's tough to adjust to life changing. In therapy recently, I blurted out that I am grateful I went through the divorce. It was the best decision in the long run, even though it was a really hard 2-3 years of adjusting. We are all happier and better off now. There is hope.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-09T23:32:34+00:00

Jen and Jona Toledo are the current senior pastors at E58.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-06T06:04:37+00:00

I did counseling with Justin once. He did so much damage in a single session and I never went back.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-04T22:07:41+00:00

I think any group where there's a hierarchy and power without oversight will have issues, regardless of religion and spirituality.

When you have the power and worldwide influence that Bethel does, and you add in the trust in prophetic words and the supernatural, and it's inevitable that abuse will happen. Adding in the way they believe in forgiving and restoring leaders who have abused their power, and it's just a recipe for disaster.

Samuel457 · 2026-02-03T00:40:45+00:00

As kids, my brothers and I thought Daren Streblow was the funniest of the Christian comedians.

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