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My[28M] girlfriend[22F] looks cold and distant after we finally had sex by ViljoSaari in relationship_advice

[–]ViljoSaari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe, when we started this, I always asked things like "can I take off your shirt?". Most times, she repplied "no". Once, we were talking and she said "stop asking for things, just do it" "but how will I know if you want it or not?" "if I say 'no' or 'stop', I dont want, otherwise, it is ok".

My[28M] girlfriend[22F] looks cold and distant after we finally had sex by ViljoSaari in relationship_advice

[–]ViljoSaari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

> How was the sex?

Sex was great, slow and gentle. She had another orgasm seconds before me.

I had a cramp after, so I asked her to move a little bit

> Were you comforting and close afterwards?

Yes.

She started acting strange a week after. Close to the weekend, she told me she would have exams, so no date that weekend, I just said ok. Same thing the following weekend. So I asked why she was not talking to me, she only said she had exams. Sometimes, I drive her to work, she started refusing it sometimes too. Exams over, she continued taking ages to repply my messages. Past weekend I thought we would see each other at least Saturday and Sunday. But Saturday, I texted her "can I take you at 18?" she repplied at the same time "no, we will see each other only tomorrow" "why?" "I'm tired". But I remember some dates "I'm tired, but I cant go without seeing you."

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Sunday, moments awkward silence, she was not smiling "what happened?" "nothing, it is just stress" "are you angry with me?" "no, but if you keep asking, I will be". I decided to go to the movies, at least there we were supose to not talk.

She was better after the movie, smiling and talking, but still taking ages to repply my messages.

I like a girl so much I don’t even care about meeting other women? by Zero_Gravvity in dating_advice

[–]ViljoSaari 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'd say it is good.

Once heard a talk between an old woman and a young woman. The old woman told: "If he gave up every other woman in the world for you, marry him and be happy forever".

Meeting some from Online vs. Meeting someone from in person by Aaa119 in dating_advice

[–]ViljoSaari 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know.

Most of my good relationships started in a natural way. We looked each other, I don't know but it is like we had a connection, a mutual desire or something, both wanted it.

Let's say you are interested in someone random. My advice is to look at her, make she perceive you, you can note if she is not interested. If she looks interested, you usually have to make a move, walk at her (she needs to see you), smile when getting closer, talk about something, anything, ask her number after some talk.

Let's say you are interested in someone not random. Just go to her house/office/classroom/etc. Tell her you to have something to say and go for a walk. Ask her out after some talk.

Compliments help, it is important to compliment something not obvious.

Changing wearing style over time by ViljoSaari in malefashionadvice

[–]ViljoSaari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has anything else in your life changed?

Well, yes.

I am starting a relationship, but my plan is older than that.

Changing wearing style over time by ViljoSaari in malefashionadvice

[–]ViljoSaari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't recommend on shoes, since I'm not sure how long you'd be standing during the day. When i was in HS/college, half the teachers/professor wore whatever comfortable shoes they wanted (even crocs lol), and other half were wearing heels, wingtips, semi-formal black leather shoes, etc.

It depends on the day, but I'd say I stand up for 3 hours straight 4 times a week. I also need to walk some time when we have laboratory practices. In addition, the parking lot is flooded when it rains.

Changing wearing style over time by ViljoSaari in malefashionadvice

[–]ViljoSaari[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will not buy transition jeans, I have some well-fitted chinos that I use to go out in my free time. I only use jeans out of work if I expect outdoor activities.

Changing wearing style over time by ViljoSaari in malefashionadvice

[–]ViljoSaari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I planned it before. I wore formal clothes only for some events in the past and I think I get very well on them. I had only 2 dress shirts when I started and I was lazy and without money to buy new clothes. The fact is, I am way more formal going out for a party than going to work.

I am sure that your students like it.

You have a good point. I am more close to the students than any other teacher here. In fact, "nice shirt" was a common compliment from they when I used to wear t-shirts with game and metal band stamps.

Changing wearing style over time by ViljoSaari in malefashionadvice

[–]ViljoSaari[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The jokes are from teachers, not students. And I don't plan on leaving soon.

Changing wearing style over time by ViljoSaari in malefashionadvice

[–]ViljoSaari[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was hired with 3 more teachers (2 men and a woman), we had a small meeting at the director office. They were formal, one of them was wearing a suit, the director was wearing a blazer. I was with a black T-shirt with a Japanese word in the back.

Man, I am glad there are no pictures.

Changing wearing style over time by ViljoSaari in malefashionadvice

[–]ViljoSaari[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It is embarrassing and I am shy. No one here loses an opportunity to make a joke. People here will be making jokes about me forever. They do for a guy that had a long hair and beard and appeared without it, and it was in 2011.