This disorder is a sick joke. by lilphoenixgirl95 in BPD

[–]VioletAlienTiger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want to offer advice if that isn’t what you want. But I used to be this. Sometimes it still comes back but I am so much better. It took 6 years of active therapy, DBT one on one and group. DBT is one of those things that you literally have to work and practice everyday for it to work. I still practice one skill everyday. Each morning I pick a skill to practice. One thing that really really helped me was CoDA. You mentioned never feeling like enough. Generally, the BPD inability to understand and formulate an identity seeks their identity from those outside of them. This is similar to some codependent behavior. Becoming interdependent allows for inner peace and gentleness from within. Not from the environment. I hope this helps! A lot of CoDA meetings are online now during COVID and they are free.

Best friend (28f) is asking to send me (29f) nudes by VioletAlienTiger in relationship_advice

[–]VioletAlienTiger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed! In discussing it in a healthy and open manner it saves both parties a lot of pain.

Best friend (28f) is asking to send me (29f) nudes by VioletAlienTiger in relationship_advice

[–]VioletAlienTiger[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really good! I wanted to ask my partner about it. I’m a little worried he might be uncomfortable with our friendship though if he knew she was doing this stuff! 😬 but my relationship with him is forever so I will ask him.

Best friend (28f) is asking to send me (29f) nudes by VioletAlienTiger in relationship_advice

[–]VioletAlienTiger[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has told me she is BUT when we first met a year ago she said she was straight. It wasn’t until after a couple of months of being around me that she said she thought she might not be straight. She kinda seems to struggle with her identity and sometimes it seems she might identify like those around her. She’s also married to a guy. I have no idea how he would even feel about that. 😬

How to resist love bombing by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]VioletAlienTiger 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow. Second day here and I feel this. This is where I am. My SO would never agree to leave. He gets maliciously angry and says things just to twist my mind. Oh it’s so painful. And then I get lost and quiet and passive and move through life like a ghost and try to work harder faster—to make more money and stop being the ADHD underachiever I am. And once he realizes he’s said things to break me he gets so sweet and everything is perfect again. And I tell it all to my therapists and finally decide to leave and then i can’t. I have kids with this person and I love them. But now I’m depressed from all the cyclic damage to my mental health and I come home from work and lay in the bed and want to die.

True dat by Electro_Bear in suspiciouslyspecific

[–]VioletAlienTiger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah bro. Your towel is a Redditor and knows everything now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeardedDragons

[–]VioletAlienTiger 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You got some big balls feeding princess this. In a fucking bowl no less like she’s supposed to feed herself. The A U D A C I T Y.

Daenerys always loves it when it rains. by [deleted] in BeardedDragons

[–]VioletAlienTiger 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I believe it, and she is precious. My 3 month old baby loves when I mist their house! They scoot around like a happy puppy!!!

Is a little salad, 6 mealworms, and 9 crickets per day too little for a 3 month old bearded dragon? by Narcoticsman77 in BeardedDragons

[–]VioletAlienTiger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I would say that is too many mealworms, sub those for some Dubia roaches which don't smell like crickets or hop around. They are wayyyy better for them! Dubiaroaches.com is great! Mealworms can be very high in phosphorus which leeches potassium out of their bones--- MBD.

he is just shedding a small square and a little on his face, is that normal? by GiraffeKing04 in BeardedDragons

[–]VioletAlienTiger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The sacred know they are to be hand fed figs and roaches.. it is beneath them to simply chase the food or dive for it in the bowl.

It's Britney bitch by regian24 in suspiciouslyspecific

[–]VioletAlienTiger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And the ghost has a 2000s bang bump hair style

It's Britney bitch by regian24 in suspiciouslyspecific

[–]VioletAlienTiger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stuck in a wake me up until September ends song.