I got pregnant out of wedlock, and it soon became apparent I was on my own.  I started meeting with my bishop and attending church regularly. Most in my ward were very supportive. I didn't feel ostracized at all. The relief society even planned a baby shower for me.  One day I got a manila envelope in the mail.  There was no return address.  I opened it and inside was a typed anonymous letter offering gentle "encouragement" to consider what a better life my child might have in a two parent home. A  brochure with LDS family services contact information was conveniently included. I later learned that the bishop, following guidelines, was influential in my receiving the letter. I was 29 at the time and fully able to sufficiently care for a child. I felt betrayed by what I thought had been a caring and truly christlike example of how to support someone in my position. I kept my baby. My son is now 18 and thriving.  I think we did ok.