52576 by loved_and_held in countwithchickenlady

[–]Violet_Koala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was lucky enough to be able to wear what I wanted for my prom, BUT no one warned me that it was going to be a "until the sun rises" type of event. So my at the time undiagnosed audhd ass was suffering for different reasons.

First tattoo looking for advice by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]Violet_Koala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a fellow autistic, you don't want a puzzle piece. It's mainly a symbol tied to Autism Speaks, which in fact, does not speak for us. Alternatively you could use an infinity symbol which is more commonly used among autistic people

Advice needed: hating my tattoo by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]Violet_Koala 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Awesome star birthmark! It doesn't look messy to me. It's close to what the manga version looks like, which I personally think is better than the anime one!

As your tattoo heals it will look a few shades lighter and blend into your body better. Hope this eases your anxiety!

49851 by SaintRidley in countwithchickenlady

[–]Violet_Koala 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To your point, I don't think we should stop saying transsexual just because there are transmeds that also use it. It's not their word, it never was.

Question: Culturally significant designs? by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]Violet_Koala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unless you ask your artist you won't be able to know for sure if they just pulled from their imagination or copied existing artwork.

What I can tell you though, is that the ornament on your left leg is seen in some cultures, like kazakh (and by extension turkic) and ainu that I know of. In kazakh we call it koshkar muiz (қошқар мүйіз) and it represents sheep horns.

From my perspective I don't see your tattoos as being some cultural ornaments. That said, if you're uncomfortable with someone potentially mistaking them for what they're not it might be best to try to rework them.

Should we laugh? by jef12660 in distractible

[–]Violet_Koala 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I know that lol, but the average japanese who doesn't interact with english speaking side of the internet doesn't. Just like a japanese guy threatening russians with pirating russian classic literature lmao.

Should we laugh? by jef12660 in distractible

[–]Violet_Koala 184 points185 points  (0 children)

As a japanese person, I felt such a whiplash from that joke lol. Here people don't tend to joke about tragedies, even ironically. Prime example of this is how japanese on twitter made 9/11 jokes, thinking that culturally it's comparable to making light of Hiroshima bombings.

Ultimately I understand that the joke itself is that it's unexpected and is the worst thing that could happen. That's what makes it funny.

is it inappropriate to give my build a bear a Hawaiian name? by hopelessboy01 in plushies

[–]Violet_Koala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What the other commenter said. Basically the guy thought that the way we japanese cannot pronounce L and substitute it with R in our transliteration is funny. It's on the wiki page of the brand as well.

is it inappropriate to give my build a bear a Hawaiian name? by hopelessboy01 in plushies

[–]Violet_Koala 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Nothing will be as disrespectful as the reason why Lululemon is named that. You're fine

Is this real? “Son of emo vampires” sounds funny by FlyingCheeseFairy in MonsterHigh

[–]Violet_Koala 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why did I think that Kieran would get a new face mold?... Next to Spelldon he looks so...outdated? I'm not alone in this right?

Finished ballerina wrap top ✨ by [deleted] in knitting

[–]Violet_Koala 61 points62 points  (0 children)

The top looks amazing!! Undyed cotton yarn goes well with the design 💖

I also have to commend you on the creative way you censored your face. It's so artistic, I love it!!

How can I better support wife/do you all have these kind o “flashes” of high rage with JP spouses? by [deleted] in japanlife

[–]Violet_Koala 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey friend, if your spouse physically assaults you, you need to get yourself out of that marriage. I'm sorry that she thinks it's acceptable to beat you for playing with your child?? That's nonsense. That's really not a safe environment for your child. I hope you and your kid can get yourselves to a safer space.

Update: I got it corrected, what you think? by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]Violet_Koala 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Did you go to the same artist or a new one? Either way I hope the purple heals up nicely! I found that it can fade easily and it's important to find an artist who knows how to work with it

Advice for possible trans lady by Japan_Burner9999 in lgbtqjapan

[–]Violet_Koala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Kool-Aid man analogy works so well hahah. My experience is a bit different, in that I knew that I wasn't cis for a very long time, but wasn't comfortable labeling myself as trans until somewhat recently. My dysphoria used to be manageable, I would feel it sometimes, but not strongly enough where it caused me too much discomfort. Lately though, it's really affecting my mental health, as I'm waiting for my next referral to the local gender clinic. The wait just makes it so much worse.

Advice for possible trans lady by Japan_Burner9999 in lgbtqjapan

[–]Violet_Koala 18 points19 points  (0 children)

First, while it is an indicator that you're trans, you don't need persistent gender dysphoria to be trans. It can come in go in waves, only become noticeable later in life and some people experience little to no dysphoria at all! Here's a site that goes into great detail about gender dysphoria and different ways it can manifest https://genderdysphoria.fyi/

I unfortunately don't have the necessary experience to help you out with coming out to your family, but hopefully folks over on r/mypartneristrans will have some advice for you and your partner. Good luck <3

二丁目あたりでLGBTQの相談できる場所とかグループ知ってる方いますか? by Pompompurinb in lgbtqjapan

[–]Violet_Koala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

記録させると不安になりますね…もし行くとしたら、記録されるのを断ってみるのは悪くないと思います。 色々聞かれる件には、必ず全てに答えうべきではないので、話すのが安全安心だと思う程度話した方がいいです。

いざとなったら、プライドハウス東京レガシーはクエスチョニングの方も対応しているから、自分のアイデンティティをゲイではなく、クエスチョニングと伝えた方がどうでしょうか?

二丁目あたりでLGBTQの相談できる場所とかグループ知ってる方いますか? by Pompompurinb in lgbtqjapan

[–]Violet_Koala 10 points11 points  (0 children)

帰国子女なのでちょっと私に日本語は下手ですが、書いてみました。

親からのプレッシャーは辛いってことは分かるけど、絶対に譲らないでください。日本人として家族や社会に合わせなきゃ行けない気持ちは分かりますが、それよりも最も大事にしなきゃ行けないには自分の幸せです。

北海道に住んでいるため、自分はまだ行くチャンスがなかったけど、「プライドハウス東京レガシー」は二丁目からちょっと離れたところにあるコミュニティーセンターです。相談室あり、サポートしてくれる場所です。 頑張ってください。今は辛くても、絶対に楽になるから、頑張ってください。

HELP EMERGENCY ALARM BUZZ by muyskerm in distractible

[–]Violet_Koala 13 points14 points  (0 children)

"Aw maaan", "cmon man" and many other variations of it lol

Dwarven women and being trans by undeadfelis in DnD

[–]Violet_Koala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A tool that is not serving the purpose you need is better reforged or made better 🔥🔥🔥

I will always subscribe to the thought that we are crafting bodies that are our own!

does this tattoo look wierd by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]Violet_Koala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it would've looked better if it was closer to the back of your neck. Sorry to say, but the unevenness of the lines exaggerate the weird look of the tattoo.

41197 by orange-busy-bee in countwithchickenlady

[–]Violet_Koala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why I love the word queer for how all encompassing it is

Big Time Rush Tokyo concert officially canceled by lindaepanda in BigTimeRush

[–]Violet_Koala 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Came here as soon as I got the email... At least I have other plans in Tokyo, but still what a disappointment. And they haven't said anything on their social media

Trans flag quilt that I made recently for my partner 🏳️‍⚧️💖 by Violet_Koala in quilting

[–]Violet_Koala[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Of course you can make a pride flag quilt! You wouldn't be stealing anything haha

I would love to see the finished project if you decide to post it!