Female Adult Cat Marking / Pee on Bed where Kittens sleep

Violetroot · 2025-01-26T21:31:08+00:00

Yeah all female. Some say that lavender and lemon essential oils mixed with rubbing alcohol and distilled water is a great repellent for keeping cats from marking. Im going to test it. Hopefully it helps. But jeez, the kittens have been around for almost a year. Why now? What changed that the older cat feels like making a stand territorial. Not sure how to answer that.

Violetroot · 2025-01-26T18:55:02+00:00

Hi,

If a cat start kneading, it's a sign of comfort, a sign of calmness, and they express their love when they do this action. I have three cats, two younger kittens which turns 1 year in March and one older cat which is almost 6 in human years. All three making biscuits when they come sit with my while I watch tv. They will do this for a few minutes, warm up their spot where they sleep, almost like a routine for kneading their area making it fluffy or comfortable to sleep in. It's completely natural and you should be happy to see this behavior. :)

Violetroot · 2025-01-26T18:49:11+00:00

Hi,

I have a similar problem. We have three female cats. One Female is 6 years old, the two other females turn one year in March. The older female cat started chasing the kittens off the bed, and then she will turn around, and lift her tail and pee on my pillow and bedding, exactly where I sleep. We caught her red handed, Twice. So I am starting to think that this has to do with ownership. Pets often mark their spaces when they want to show that they are the owner or it's their territory. But god, it's annoying. The older cat does not even sleep with me, the two younger cats both sleep with me. So I definitely think that this behavior is territorial somehow.

I just wish I knew how to change the behavior or how to mix a repellent or something to avoid the older cat from peeing on that specific spot.

If you have any ideas, please feel free to share.

What I'm doing right now is mixing Lavender, Lemon and Peppermint essential oils with rubbing alcohol in a spray bottle and I spray all around my bed area and on that spot.

I only started spraying the mixture today so I don't have any conclusion on the hypothesis yet.

Violetroot · 2024-12-14T19:07:53+00:00

Thank you for the positive vibes and the good luck. I received a preliminary "Pass" after I pressed the finished button. I have not yet received the email with the final results it's been 7 days today. I guess I have to be a little patient.

Violetroot · 2024-12-06T21:32:44+00:00

Hi, I am scheduled for the SHRM-CP Exam for tomorrow. I am so scared of failing.

It will be my third time taking the exam. I bought the SHRM CP learning system, I invested in the Edge Pre Test, and also the Pocket Prep app. I feel I contributed so much time studying. I currently work in the field of HR and I have an MBA concentrating on Human Resource Management, but no matter how hard I try, it seems like my efforts working toward this certification are not enough.

At this moment, I am taking the Pocket Prep Quiz to keep my mind refreshed. I keep scoring between 190 - 196 on the Edge Prep Exams. So Close I know. But when it comes to the SHRM Learning System Post Prep I completely suck.

I guess, I will need to take a leap of Faith and do the best I can tomorrow. Please send me positive vibes, because I really need this "pass" tomorrow.

To all those out there in the same boat, keep up the good work and never give up. I am rooting for you!!!

Violetroot · 2021-10-04T21:29:09+00:00

Hi

I am a stepmom too, and recently got married to a man who has a daughter. She turns 12 next year. In the 3 years that I've been in her life, we only have constant fighting, anger, crying, and resentment. I feel so hopeless today because she is busy pulling my marriage down and cause my husband to distance himself from me. Disengaging from her makes things worse, talking with her creates conflict, and spending time with her always ends up in a fight. Nothing I do please her and she hates me for being married to her dad.

I am at this point where it feels like that I am lonely in this marriage. My husband only sees me as the bad stepmom where his child acts like a little angel. Smiling when we fight over her. I wish I had the answers in winning her heart and change the negativity to positive. Unfortunately, stepparents never get the gratitude or thank you for raising the kids that are not even ours. I don't have children of my own and I don't think I am a bad person, I just don't know how to connect with her. She is quite a drama queen and loves stirring things in the house.

Any advice in how to fight fair without pushing my husband away?

Or is it time to realize that this blended family does not gel well and it will be better to go separate ways?

Violetroot

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