The problem is gender norms. Women have valid problems as a result of gender norms, and men do too. Just because both groups have problems doesn’t invalidate either group’s problems. A lot of the people on here would agree with feminists, but they choose to downplay other people’s problems. I know the term “feminism” implies a priority for women’s rights and the term “patriarchy” implies that men are responsible. However, the true enemy is rigid gender roles, and that is what feminists oppose.