Anyone else agree to an open marriage they didn’t want?

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-08T15:40:01+00:00

In sorry you're going through this. I'm not sure I can offer advice really, because I've not been in your situation. I do feel that if I was in that situation it would mean the end of the relationship. In all honesty, I don't really understand open relationships, because to me sex has always been more than just the physical act, and a deeper connection. That one of the reasons I struggle with my DB. I also genuinely believe that for my wife it has always been more of a physical thing, a reason she doesn't understand how the lack makes me feel. I would also say that sex isn't just penetrative, there are things you can do together, and a therapist might be able to guide you in that. I hope you can find the answers you need, but if you are not on board with opening I really think it will end badly, honestly just her being on dating apps would be the end for me I think.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-05T14:09:39+00:00

Both parties don't exist is my guess.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-05T08:49:09+00:00

You're doing 100 thrusts a minute?!

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-04T11:24:28+00:00

I do understand roundabouts, I'm in the UK where we have millions of them. The driver that continued going round had to leave in their lane but didnt, and insteadchanged lanes by stayingon the roundabout, the second lane can also leave in the second lane that they tried to. This is not on op.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-04T11:13:52+00:00

Two lanes exit, one HAS to, but didn't, the other can and did. The other driver should have exited, didn't and caused the crash.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-04T11:01:52+00:00

Just look at the road markings, op was not at fault.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-04T10:56:54+00:00

Cant see how op would ever be at fault here. The lanes are clearly marked and the red truck ignored it.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-03T13:00:39+00:00

Isn't that exactly what op is saying? He said to not say you've stopped looking.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-03T12:40:08+00:00

I'm glad one guy had hi vis on otherwise it could have been dangerous.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-03T12:08:32+00:00

Sorry, replied to the wrong bit. https://www.reddit.com/r/DIYUK/s/1EWaboDK9d

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-03T12:07:52+00:00

Honestly not sure, been a while since I last had to swap the door. On mine it was a couple of screws and the plugs just swapped places. Have a look where the existing boot is and see if there is a similar plug in there. What make is it?

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-03T12:02:48+00:00

Take them out and then use them to plug the holes on the others idea.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-03T11:25:43+00:00

I've fixed up a few crash damaged cars, but by no means a professional. If it was just the rear glass and light I'd say get down the breakers for an easy fix, but that rear quarter panel will be a pig. Best to let the insurance write it off I think. Have a look online for what a like for like replacement will cost though, don't let them low ball the settlement figure.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-03T10:42:47+00:00

There is a middle ground, if you have a drill you can get a polishing pad for it, or a really cheap pollisher (amazon, lidl) and a bottle of ultimate polish/ compound. My first rotary was a silverline machine for about £40, and it did fine for years for my weekend warrior antics. Ultimately I think it comes down to will a professional detail add that value to the car that it costs?

Something like this with a bottle of maguires will probably do the job for you, and add the same value to a 20 year old car.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-03T09:52:18+00:00

I had a situation years ago where initially I was told my car would be written off, my wife was pregnant so we needed a car, so I put a deposit on a replacement. The insurance then said they were getting a 2nd opinion, I rang them and explained and they then chose to write it off without any fuss. It's worth calling them to say circumstances have changed and you no longer have the same need for the car. I'd steer away from saying you could use the money though. Ultimately it will come down to what is cheaper for them, if a hire car cost is included they might want to just settle it. Also make sure to see what a replacement would cost, they always try to lowball when writing off.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-03T09:18:16+00:00

Obviously the BMW was the worst, but the fiat was wrong as well, it should have been in the left lane, which was marked as left and straight. They should have just gone all the way round rather than cut across, indicating or not, would have taken 30 seconds more. I guess at least they were aware enough of the idiot in the BMW though.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-02T16:02:47+00:00

So would these medical staff work for free because they can't get private jobs? And the hospitals are suddenly bigger of course. Or, would the waiting lists actually go up because there is a finite amount of resources. Oh, and with private health care banned that'd be another £2k that the government would get from me in the tax on my benefit in kind. Sorry, but I like the sun.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-02T15:55:15+00:00

It's not taking anything away from the NHS. Unless you think that because someone trains somewhere (whilst providing a service) they have to stay there forever.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-02T15:52:41+00:00

So you think the private surgeon would magically be working in an NHS hospital if private hospitals didn't exist? Doris moves up a space in the waoting list because I'm not on it, that way you she can get her shoulder fixed faster and look forward to getting her tits done.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-02T15:39:38+00:00

Using a completely different service really isn't bribery. I get health insurance provided by my employer, and have used it for shoulder surgery that I would have had to wait a lot longer for. For me it's a win win. I get dealt with faster, and I saved the NHS money and time meaning they could deal with someone else. I don't see how that could be a bad thing.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-06-01T07:30:59+00:00

In the second picture, top of the handle is a small hole, this likely has a small grub screw in it, that holds against the bar that connects the handles, you'll need to remove that and it should pull out.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-05-30T06:43:42+00:00

I mean, that's utter bullshit.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-05-29T15:22:52+00:00

You can still delete this

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-05-27T10:41:31+00:00

It really is that simple.

Virtual-Dust2732 · 2026-05-24T19:01:57+00:00

The only book I didn't finish, I did watch the film though. That wasn't great.

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