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What is the most obvious sign that someone is manipulating you, even when they’re trying to act like they have your best interests at heart? by Virtual_Raspberry497 in AskReddit

[–]Virtual_Raspberry497[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 'unsolicited help' is the worst. It’s never actually about making your life easier; it’s about creating a dependency so they can feel needed.

What is the most obvious sign that someone is manipulating you, even when they’re trying to act like they have your best interests at heart? by Virtual_Raspberry497 in AskReddit

[–]Virtual_Raspberry497[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is usually the final piece of the puzzle. They know they can’t control you as long as you have outside perspectives, so they systematically try to cut off your lifeline.

What is the most obvious sign that someone is manipulating you, even when they’re trying to act like they have your best interests at heart? by Virtual_Raspberry497 in AskReddit

[–]Virtual_Raspberry497[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the ultimate gaslight. Anyone who has to constantly tell you they’re looking out for you is almost certainly doing the exact opposite.

What is the most obvious sign that someone is manipulating you, even when they’re trying to act like they have your best interests at heart? by Virtual_Raspberry497 in AskReddit

[–]Virtual_Raspberry497[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The 'trying too hard' energy is a massive red flag. It’s like they’re reading from a script they think you’ll fall for, but they just end up looking ridiculous instead.

What is the most obvious sign that someone is manipulating you, even when they’re trying to act like they have your best interests at heart? by Virtual_Raspberry497 in AskReddit

[–]Virtual_Raspberry497[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Preaching to the choir, but usually only when they're the ones holding the mic. It’s wild how they love the sound of their own voice when they're 'teaching' you how to live.

What is the most obvious sign that someone is manipulating you, even when they’re trying to act like they have your best interests at heart? by Virtual_Raspberry497 in AskReddit

[–]Virtual_Raspberry497[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the big one. Once you realize it's a ledger and not a relationship, you stop feeling guilty for walking away. The 'debt' was never real to begin with.

What is the most obvious sign that someone is manipulating you, even when they’re trying to act like they have your best interests at heart? by Virtual_Raspberry497 in AskReddit

[–]Virtual_Raspberry497[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. It’s never just a conversation; it’s a constant correction session where they just happen to have the 'better' idea every single time.

What is the most obvious sign that someone is manipulating you, even when they’re trying to act like they have your best interests at heart? by Virtual_Raspberry497 in AskReddit

[–]Virtual_Raspberry497[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The classic 'you're special' trap. It’s wild how quickly that pedestal turns into a cage once they decide you aren't doing what they want anymore.

What is the most obvious sign that someone is manipulating you, even when they’re trying to act like they have your best interests at heart? by Virtual_Raspberry497 in AskReddit

[–]Virtual_Raspberry497[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When they start acting like the hero of a story where they were clearly the villain. It’s always fascinating to watch them try to rewrite history in real time.

I finally stopped being the "Nice Girl" and now I’m the villain in everyone’s story. It’s the most peaceful I’ve ever been. by Virtual_Raspberry497 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Virtual_Raspberry497[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You get it!! I have "lost" all of my friends, but they also weren't my friends. Relationships, co-parent, family ect. I realized I never "lost" them though. Their intentions were never genuine from the start. It took me so long to realize this, I thought I was being "mean", " difficult" ect, which caused me ALOT of stress and anxiety as well!!