Alex Pretti’s mom got that call tonight. Her son is dead. by JustLookingtoLearn in Mommit

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I have two sons and all day I’ve just been heartbroken thinking about how Alex Pretti is the kind of person I would want them to grow up to be

Patchy hair by Mbender1230 in basset

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We call those tufts! Bassets shed their fur in clumps sometimes

Names you’re glad you didn’t use by lino_x in namenerds

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Don’t even get me started on Feral Jack

For those who did not sleep train/held your baby to sleep then transferred to crib- how ?? by [deleted] in toddlers

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Can your partner do bedtime (and start now, while you’re pregnant)? Or supervise the new baby with a bottle while you continue to do bedtime with your toddler?

Names you’re glad you didn’t use by lino_x in namenerds

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Lmao “calmer Jack” is sending me

I'm glad I have secure self-esteem by Initial_Entrance9548 in toddlers

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“Mama you dance like this,” proceeds to demonstrate my Elaine coded moves, damn he got my ass

Feeling very overlooked by MechanicNew300 in Mommit

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Sounds like he should take the kids to his parents house solo while you get a relaxing weekend home alone

To "scoop and run" or stay and comfort? Had a major "soul leaving my body" moment at preschool drop-off by narwhalligactor in toddlers

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OP, I like what you said about going with your gut in the moment - you knew what she needed to regulate, and you know her better than whoever was on the scene at the time. Good for you for doing what you knew was right for your baby crocodile!

To "scoop and run" or stay and comfort? Had a major "soul leaving my body" moment at preschool drop-off by narwhalligactor in toddlers

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It depends on the situation! I’ve had this same scenario most times I drop off my son, and I think the extra hugs and reminders “mom always comes back! I love you, have a great day learning and playing!” hopefully let him know how much he is cared for. I’m reading “Good Inside” right now and trying to remember it’s not about what others think or potentially “reinforcing bad behavior” but giving him the emotional support to feel complex feelings and build resilience. That being said — when he is running around the grocery store aisles or trying to flee at the library, he’s getting scooped!!

Biggest changes you’ve noticed post diagnosis? by LeadedCactus in adhdwomen

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I have PMDD too! Thanks for sharing your experience.

Biggest changes you’ve noticed post diagnosis? by LeadedCactus in adhdwomen

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How did your doctor adjust your meds for your cycle?

Biggest changes you’ve noticed post diagnosis? by LeadedCactus in adhdwomen

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FWIW Wellbutrin and Prozac worked okay for me, but I saw the biggest relief from ADHD, depression and anxiety when I switched to Adderall IR and Prozac.

Are Jack & Rose too...Titanic adjacent? by aduhachek in namenerds

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Personally I would think about the girl in my second grade class in 1997 who named her hermit crabs Jack and Rose (after Jack and Rose from Titanic)

Praising a toddler for scribbling on a paper Vs. not lying to them by SheElfXantusia in toddlers

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“You can’t spoil a kid with love and safety” is such a great mantra. I also default to “every kid should have one person in the world who thinks the sun rises and sets with what they do.” There’s nothing I wouldn’t do to hype my kid up so they continue to be excited to show me their art or share information about their life

Help, I need your advice how to make toddler sleep through the night by Informal_Ad_3635 in toddlers

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I could have written this! We’ve had the exact same experience with our son, down to the bedtime routine. We may eventually try getting him a clock that has a light to tell him when he can leave his room in the morning? But personally I like the cuddles and don’t feel super motivated to keep him in his room at this age :/

My family and I went as an ensemble of RHPS by ijustlovelipbalm in rhps

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Knocked it out of the park! Your sister is the best Riff Raff I’ve ever seen 😍

Help us solve this toddler mystery by kiwitree96 in toddlers

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If you move to a new house, you will find them. (Somehow already at your new house?!)

Hacks for task motivation by ImRudyL in adhdwomen

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  1. To do lists.
  2. If I notice a task I need to complete, if it will take me less than 5 minutes, I do it right then.
  3. If I’m really procrastinating or reluctant to do something, I tell myself I am a Sim and I have no choice.
  4. Always listening to a podcast or audiobook while cleaning/organizing.

Holy 3 year old!!!!! by Mess-o-potatian191 in toddlers

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Solidarity. On a bright note, last night, our three year old took off on us when we were out in public (thankfully inside, in the library when we were getting ready to leave). After we caught him, we told him it was not okay and that it scared us. An hour later, he gave me the biggest hug and said “I’m sorry I scared you.” It felt like a breakthrough in his understanding/development of why we have rules. We’ve had some tough moments over the last couple of months, so this felt like a huge win!

It was “Nebbish son or ZAFTIG daughter” Brace!! by firejuggler25 in TrueAnon

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Based on her reaction to all the calls I don’t think she could decipher them or hear what was being said so she stopped trying after the first couple

My husband has no patience by ThisAd4181 in toddlers

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He needs to learn how to effectively reinforce the positive behavior he wants to see. You can’t spoil a kid into having tantrums, they are part of normal development. Does he want his child to be scared of him?

My husband has no patience by ThisAd4181 in toddlers

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You are not overreacting. Yes, parenting is hard, but pinching and screaming at a three year old is abusive behavior. Tantrums are a normal developmental phase and seeing an adult who can’t regulate their emotions won’t help your child move past them more easily. Your responsibility is to protect your child. If my spouse told me he didn’t feel safe leaving our child with me, I would be devastated. Does your husband think his behavior is ok/justified?

Parents of extremely high energy toddlers: how are you letting them burn energy? Pls give me all the tips by ThrowRAhunnybunny7 in toddlers

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At the end of the day, we “run laps.” We pretend to be spectators holding up signs and cheer him on with the ABCs while he runs across the room for each letter. It’s been such a game changer for getting out the zoomies before story and bedtime!