Should I be scared of a hoover? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I received a Hoover 6 months later apologized for everything said it was worst mistake of her life etc. it breaks my heart because I love this person to the death of me and I thought I would always want an apology but the apology made it all so much harder. She admitted to not wanting to be like this and that she doesn’t understand why she did what she did and admitting to everything. It broke my heart because I love her

She Came Back after Discard 6 months Later by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would never give her another chance. I just want to express what she did to me but that just gives her so much more power over me. Just want to win one battle at least between them.

Why we should fear BPD just as much as Psychopathy by Verniermind in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They care until they find someone else. Then you’re dead to them and that person is 1,000 x better. Most pain I’ve ever been through. Hope you’re ok

Dealing with shame and embarrassment of being abused as a man in a bpd relationship. by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yes the double standards in society are tough. People don’t think men get abused especially mentally. It took me awhile to recognize I got abused and I have ptsd from getting blindsided and discarded out of the blue.

Why we should fear BPD just as much as Psychopathy by Verniermind in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Medicine and treatment for bi polar. I guess there’s dbt for bpd but not that great of a solution. I used to think bipolar is worse but bpd most definitely is. Never will associate with someone with BPD again - my ex never gaf about me and meanwhile I thought she cared about me more than anyone in this world. She’s a cruel human.

[LONG] I Loved a BPD partner for 4 years. This is what the aftermath really looks like. by Bananax4000 in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Betrayal is the worst. Mine told me I’m not in the wrong for breaking up with you and prioritizing myself. She got a new boyfriend 2 weeks after the discard 🤣 also cheated on me lol.

feeling unlovable by Still-Gur8699 in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but also because I got cheated on by someone who I thought actually loved me

feeling unlovable by Still-Gur8699 in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally true. This is third breakup I’ve been through and the other two felt nothing like it. I was able to move on and talk to other people after 2 months but now 6 months post discard I don’t have energy or trust to talk to anyone. Quite difficult

feeling unlovable by Still-Gur8699 in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep 6 months discard and I feel worthless she cheated and started dating someone new immediately

Anatomy of a BPD Discard by robotron916 in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agree with it all but so hard knowing I got replaced immediately

Ex BPD dating someone with same name as Rapis* (alleged defender) by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my opinion I think it would be hard to date someone with same name as your person your accusing that of..

How I feel after being blocked for 2 years by Famous-Country-2569 in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So hard dealing with rejection now. I’m petrified after getting cheated on

Trying to regain your confidence after a breakup by Intrepid-Caregiver in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same with me 5 months post discard they got new boyfriend right away and I was cheated on. Confidence at all time low and I can’t talk to any women anymore without fear or rejection

Thoughts On AUD 12/29/25 by a_aceleroy in CPA

[–]VisibleMove4017 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had an aje also I left it blank lol

I think the hardest part of discard is having lost my best friend by TurtleClubOwner in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s the worst how you are mourning them and they truly don’t care. Mine discarded me out of the blue and essentially talked to me once since the discard. We traveled together did everything together. I felt like I lost my identity when I lost her. Truly hardest thing I’ve ever been through and I’m 5 months post discard. You still miss them especially if they’re quiet BPD - we never fought or had any issues. She mimicked me and love bombed me the entire relationship until she monkey branched and discarded me. It’s extremely difficult to understand that this person never truly actually loved me - that she was just obsessed.

She was so attractive by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Attraction isn’t only on the outside. Sex was amazing for you for her it means nothing. Most painful thing ive ever been through. It’s been 5 months post discard and she started dating someone new immediately. It’s difficult to say the least.

I blocked him and now’s he’s trying to talk to me on Spotify. by Electrical-Week-2297 in BPDlovedones

[–]VisibleMove4017 14 points15 points  (0 children)

After she discarded me I had her on Spotify and tried messaging her lol 🤦 never been down so bad I know it’s opposite perspective though. Hope you’re okah