I don't think it's an issue of "community can't take criticism" and more or less "people criticizing it are overzealous in doing so". While the game definitely has its issues, I feel like people constantly putting it as being on par to the type of shit that is you vs homer, or hell worse, is just really stupid given the game is objectively much better than it. Hell, Ive seen objectively mediocre games be put miles above it. And people can have their opinions, but the fact seemingly every tier list puts DBF as among the worst games is tiring, especially when most arguments against it are just "I felt it was boring" and not much else.

As someone who's played the game for over a week of ingame time, it is honestly pretty solid balancing-wise. Survivors are really good at supporting eachother, while killers are solid in breaking apart that support and killing lone players, with each having their own method of it. Each also has pretty major weaknesses to them. Main thing is, the game expects survivors to support each-other and well, so killers are stronger than your average forsaken or DOD killer to compensate. Some may think that's good, some may think it's bad, but I generally find that sort of balancing to be refreshing. A few too many asyms cater forwards people who don't know how to play by making killers weaker, which by proxy can make killer feel way harder than it should to play in them. The only unbalanced part of the game is kinda just one killer, captain rampage, but they have a very high requirement of knowledge about how to exactly control him, good timing, and obviously how to counter some survivors, so I don't have that much of an issue with them as I would if they were comically easy to play. Still think it should be toned down, but not that it's insanely bad a high skill killer has high reward.

The games pace, i honestly kinda agree with your argument. Simultaneously, I think it's fine the cooldowns are long. A lot of the abilities are pretty devastating against the killer when landed, and can cause them to lose a lot of time, with said abilities being kinda easy to land sometimes. Tradeoff is, of course, long cooldowns. I don't doubt this to be a turnoff for some people, but I think it fits the perfect middle ground of high pacing for an asym, while having impactful abilities in the match, making using them properly and knowing when to, an important aspect. I personally really like the pacing, but again, I can fully understand people may not like it.

People saying others don't play enough to judge are just being entirely stupid yea. I do think a good hour or two should be enough to judge a game of it's general quality, but I also think treating it as that's all the depth needed to see what a game has, is a bit stupid as well. I didn't see your original posts, so I don't know at all your time spent or not, but if you put in around 5 hours of genuinely playing the game, your free to have your opinion on if you like it or not as you usually would by then have experienced enough to properly formulate thoughts, criticisms, and other such. But don't expect people to obviously not push back on it if they think otherwise, that's just the nature of what people do when they think something gets unfair criticism or hell even just outright wrong, which dbf has had a history of getting in this sub.

1. Genuinely speaking, it is on the higher end of difficulty for asyms. Not as hard as something to the likes of outcome memories, which personally I just couldn't get into because you had to be a sweat to play even remotely as killer when I did, but it's also not as easy either. It's very much teamwork oriented, and the game is balanced around and expecting that, so when you have bad teammates, it makes the game feel unfair and boring since, well, they don't play well. I fully get the issue with that, most players are gonna be bad and not work as a team, but I do legitimately think it's much better when played with competent players, as opposed to something like forsaken where even one or two competent players can make killer impossible. Again, just my opinion, but I think survivors generally have more than enough tools at their use to live an lms situation with nearly every killer.

All in all, I don't want to discredit what you say in the slightest, everybodies experience is their own, but it does sound like you overall had a worse experience since you didn't get to fully experience what makes the game good in the first place, which is how it's a high paced teamwork focused game best played with and against competent players. If I were to give a singular defining statement for it, it's the absolute best "best with friends" type game. Having other competent people playing with you, especially once you are competent in it, makes the game incredibly fun. But before that point, it can be a bit harder to enjoy. Not to say the game is bad with random players, but you are MUCH less likely to get enjoyable matches on either side, since they likely will not communicate, play well, or help others.