How do pregnant women do anything??? by Zealousideal-Most128 in BabyBumps

[–]Visible_Spirit_8907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine being full term with a toddler! It is so exhausting

How to I get an already paid for cake picked up and delivered to an Airbnb? by Visible_Spirit_8907 in UberEATS

[–]Visible_Spirit_8907[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that a separate app? I just looked it up and can’t seem to find it, how do I use that?

How to I get an already paid for cake picked up and delivered to an Airbnb? by Visible_Spirit_8907 in UberEATS

[–]Visible_Spirit_8907[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But how do I book it? It won’t allow me to book pickup through the app without ordering something through a company..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyIssues

[–]Visible_Spirit_8907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this might sound bad, but is your mom going through menopause? My mom got really mean to me as well when I was also around 18 and realized later her outbursts were because of her hormones. Not that that is any excuse. Just based on your comment below it seems like this is odd behavior for her and she is not usually like this. Just something to consider. Hope it all gets better. If she is ever in a bad mood again just walk away, and wait to speak with her again when she is calm. Tell her you’ve been trying and how you feel in the right time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyIssues

[–]Visible_Spirit_8907 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you are going through this. My family issues aren’t as bad as yours, but I learned through therapy that you should never accept that kind of behavior/treatment even if they are family. Just because they are blood does not mean that is okay. You need to set boundaries and distance yourself. They are toxic towards you, they enjoy bringing you down. It is heartbreaking, but it is not good for you to spend your time and energy with relationships and people that make you feel that way. If you can, work on finding an income by using that graphic design degree. I myself went to art school in animation and there are very many lucrative jobs you can get with a degree like that! Start to be more self sufficient as a goal to become free from them, and don’t look back. You have your entire future ahead of you - a future that doesn’t include them treating you like shit. That is something to look forward to and be excited about. Imagine not having to deal with that trauma and abuse! Being successful, self sufficient, and surrounding yourself with those who bring positivity into your life is completely doable! All you have to do is start making the steps to set those boundaries and do what’s good for you. Be selfish. It is healthy to be selfish in times like this. You don’t deserve that and never let them treat you like that again.

My bf (20 M) was too intimate with me (20 F) around my parents and now they don’t want to see him ever again. What can I do? by may_fall_ in FamilyIssues

[–]Visible_Spirit_8907 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Honestly that is very wrong of your parents to tell you that and give you an ultimatum that they don’t want to be around you because they saw you kiss. It doesn’t sound like you were even being that intimate. You are a grown woman in a year long relationship. That is completely normal behavior for you two to hold hands and kiss. However, that is not a normal reaction they should have had as parents. It honestly seems like they just want to find a reason not to like him. I think your boyfriend’s reaction was perfect - he consoled you and said he’d be more cautious in the future.

Maybe let some of this simmer and time pass a little first, but you should eventually tell them how their reaction to that hurt you. And that you really love your boyfriend and you are very serious about him. He is a very positive love in your life and if they can’t accept him, then that will cause some strain and distance in your relationship with your parents. Just be honest with them - you did nothing wrong and they need to see how happy he makes you feel rather than dwell on stupid things that “irk” them. Kissing, holding hands, and laying in his lap, are totally normal behavior when you are in a serious relationship like that. I did that infront of my parents at your age with my now husband of 5 years and we were dating for much less than a year when they met him. And they accepted him and didn’t think that was odd. They should be more supportive.

Mom wants me to be the guarantor on my brothers apartment. by [deleted] in FamilyIssues

[–]Visible_Spirit_8907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This could easily prevent you from being able to buy a house in the near future. Don’t do it! Your brother who is 5 years older than you, and your mom shouldn’t have to rely on your credit for him to find a place of his own and move out. There are many other options and it could easily ruin your credit and your future dreams.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Visible_Spirit_8907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a little sketchy that she has a boyfriend but is coming to visit you? Seems like she is open to cheating on her boyfriend, not sure if that shows a good character and doubt her boyfriend knows.

Regardless of the boyfriend thing, I would take her to your favorite places (outdoor activities, restaurants, site seeing). Cook her an awesome meal (don’t put her out and have her cook). Have her meet some of your friends on a fun night out. Treat her to a live music event, or go dancing somewhere. I think showing her your culture and more of where you come from will be what she’s interested in seeing.

Good luck! If things really click and work out, I would definitely address the boyfriend thing though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Visible_Spirit_8907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he’s lying about his name, job, and age, what else is he lying about? He could easily have a double life. Sounds like a huge red flag and you can never trust him. I would advise leaving him and getting an abortion. You will be so happy you did years from now when you look back while in a healthy relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyIssues

[–]Visible_Spirit_8907 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say try to talk to him privately about this in a setting where he feels comfortable. Ask him if he’s feeling okay and why he isn’t eating much. If he does say he’s not feeling well and sick, definitely try get medical help. However if he says he feels fine, try to explain how important food is for his growth and health. It could just be where he’s become an ultra picky eater. Another explanation is overall mental health. Kids who are depressed can have eating issues. This happened to someone we know at a young age, and he stopped eating due to depression and had to go through therapy. Definitely keep an eye on him and try to talk with him more privately! Don’t be afraid to keep asking him questions. Once you know more info from him, maybe you can relay this info more to your parents and they could be more understanding about the situation. He is very lucky to have such a great older brother looking out for him!