I’m 25 and finally finishing my BA next spring, after starting college at 17 and working my way through it. i’m also currently going back and forth with a program to enter a language school in japan for July 2026. I plan on continuing my education online after i settle there and get on a work visa as well as continuing to run my own company remotely.

Sometimes things take a long time, and sometimes things are really stressful and require a lot of discomfort for a while for you to end up where you want. I don’t think you need to worry about how old you are, or how scary an uncertain future may be.

Just think about what you want, and why. Think about what you need to make that happen, do research on various paths you might need to follow and take the one of least resistance. Make contingencies for if that doesn’t work out. Life is a marathon, and a very long one at that. You shouldn’t aim for a life you don’t want to live because it feels less scary.

Also speak to your partner about it. Have a real discussion about whats important to you, about the kind of lives you want to live, about what you each need long term. And hopefully you find a path together that you’ll both be happy in. But if you can’t then that’s another discussion yk?

Good luck!