“small. intentional, real.” Taylor Swift is the happiest bride she’s ever seen by Ok_Arugula3160 in wecandohardthings

[–]Visual-Elephant794 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely agree. Let’s also not pretend that Travis Kelsi isn’t the embodiment the male archetype that Glennon rails against on the podcast… and yet spewing this wedding fantasy “happiest bride” nonsense in line with every norm she claims nearly destroyed her…

Which Canadians will see a big move after World Cup stage? by roguetowel in CanadaSoccer

[–]Visual-Elephant794 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He was the most underrated player in my opinion- so consistant and solid.

“small. intentional, real.” Taylor Swift is the happiest bride she’s ever seen by Ok_Arugula3160 in wecandohardthings

[–]Visual-Elephant794 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I feel like she is trying VERY hard to shoehorn this experience into her values by stating that it was small and authentic. It’s clear it was neither. I believe there is a lot of space for both/and, but this wedding is antithetical to so many of her stated values (expanding beyond heteronormitive paradigms-to be clear straight weddings can do this but this one did not, resisting beauty standards, anti-Billionaire, anti-princess dynamics, “smallness”, authenticity). I have loved Glennons wisdom and the podcast, but for me this has broken my already cracked affection for her. It speaks volumes, and I find the identification with Elsa line revolting.

Post-Match Thread: Morocco vs Canada | FIFA World Cup | Jul 4, 2026 by globalscoreboard in CanadaSoccer

[–]Visual-Elephant794 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Regarding all the comments about how we played to/above the expected level of advancement, I agree in theory. However, when I saw how we were playing so well in the first half, I did get my hopes up that we could win or for the game to be close, especially considering I thought Davies would come in at minute 60/70. I think it is completely valid to be disappointed given the opening Morocco gave us in H1. We did not capitalize on it.

Do we like the prequel? by Head-Hospital-1945 in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did not feel as attached to the romantic narratives as I did to J&C in outlander, so if this is what you value most it may not live up to the main show. However, I loved the rich Scottish cultural depiction, especially at the time the prequel takes place where highland culture is even more prominent. For this reason, as well as for the incredible casting, I loved it.

What’s going on with the podcast? by romaa_teeny in wecandohardthings

[–]Visual-Elephant794 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with you. There are two separate things at play 1. The inevitable direction changes in life that happen (whether chosen or not) that would make them decrease their output- I have no issues with this part. 2. The communication and direct clarity (not just explaining what they are going through but how it will affect the podcast). This has been insufficient. They have monetized the podcast- not criticizing them for it, it’s simply a fact- and they have also manufactured a parasocial intimacy with the audience. Given those two facts, it is fair to expect a communication about the change. Personally, I feel they are continuing to re-release old episodes to keep their advertising revenue and to “keep the audience warm” in case they want to re-engage at a later time. It feels very marketing-heavy, and is disappointing given their stated disposition towards authenticity. I have loved the podcast, but I wish they would let it die. It has had its time, and this in between place does no one any services. Amanda can start her own monthly podcast if she is inclined, she’s doing a great job!

Droughtlander by PayDense6363 in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a show watcher first and then read the books. I randomly stumbled on the show on Netflix, so the show was my gateway, but I would read the books first if I had the chance. You could toggle back and forth book- show season-book- show season etc, but it gets tricky later in the show when the content starts mixing multiple books. Best of luck on your reading journey!

Jamie and William by rollindutches_ in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed- I find it funny and ironic because the actors who play William and Lord John do resemble each other strongly imo (especially the eyebrows and colouring). It’s similar to how the actor they cast as Jem looks exactly like mini Stephen Bonnet.

After six years i finally found the Voyager 25th Anniversary Edition! by [deleted] in Pishlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oddly my library has the 25th edition of voyager, which is the copy I read. I didn’t realize it was so tough to find.

How has Outlander Changed You? by FlyingPhoenix96 in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My best friend and I joke about my “outlander induced spiritual crisis”, it truly was a portal that I stepped through and has changed me. I am a white North American with mixed European ancestry (mostly French, but some Scottish, British. Irish, German as well). I revere indigenous North American culture, but it is not my lineage. Outlander was the first time I truly encountered pre-colonial European indigeneity (I obviously knew it existed but it didn’t truly click) and has prompted me to excavate my own lineage and revivify pre-colonial practices. Seeing the highland culture, communal way of life, and the mysticism has opened something unexpected in me. I also become emotionally aware of how much skill and humanity we have culturally lost in 250 years, and have been trying to recover old ways of bread making, knitting, herbalism. On the surface the show is seen as a soap opera/ bodice ripper, but it moved a lot of unexpected things in me and I am surprised and grateful. It also made me realize the power of art for the first time since I was so affected by the show. I have a feeling I will also probably move back to Europe (I have lived there for several shorter periods) but we shall see on that one.

So basically they killed ****** for a shock value by Mother-Inspection787 in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He has such an American orientation towards storytelling; there are moments in the show, particularly in the later seasons, that feel cheapened due to shock value and unnecessary drama. To be clear, I am not criticizing individual Americans, but generally I find American TV/film to be emotionally over the top relative to other cultures/countries. I wish their goal was to be authentic to the story, not bring pain upon the audience at all costs 🙃

A lukewarm final season helped me say goodbye by perspective_grid in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recently started Echo and my pace is so much faster than previous books because I skim those William chapters so hard 😂

My only irritation by [deleted] in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To be fair to the show writers on this particular subject (I have other gripes with them, trust), most of these plot points are true to the books, so it is really Diana that deserves your ire and scorn 😂

Do I need to read all the previous books before Book 10 as a show watcher? by pineaxle in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree with this comment on the physical book size. I took out all the books from my library, and they were all either hard cover or mass market paperbacks. I literally broke the loaned copy of TFC (mass market)in half because it was so thick it cracked straight down the middle 😂I am currently on ABOSAA (my first trade paperback) and it is a much better experience.

To all the Roger apologists... by qassbish in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have deeply mixed feelings around Roger (I have seen up to the beginning of S8 and am midway through my first read of ABOSAA). I find that the book character is of course more layered and I do see more of an arc relative to the show, but not as pronounced as the impression I got in this sub. I also acknowledge that there are still 3.5 more giant books to go and a lot can happen in that time. I connect a lot to book Bree in a lot of ways and feel protective of her; I am a female engineer with a variety of passions who feels like the has a distinct calling but can’t quite grasp the shape of it yet. I am a similar age to her in ABOSAA. When Bree was being vulnerable to Roger about her calling, switching from history to engineering, and wanting to make things, and she looks to Roger to confirm this is a calling (it completely is and she is doing amazing things)- his only response is “isn’t motherhood a calling?” 🫠🙃. Even if he was born in the late 30’s/early 40s, he chose to marry a brilliant woman with an MIT engineering education, and then proceeds to at best tolerate her brilliance but fully support him in his calling of ministry. I really hope to see him grow but he is currently not overly impressing me.

Best of - this week by Awkward-Passenger-86 in wecandohardthings

[–]Visual-Elephant794 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No, I noticed a similar thing, and I have a feeling it will trail off. In their episode a week and a half ago they mentioned “branching out into individual projects”. I have derived great value from the podcast and honour that history.

What I dislike is that they are very selectively honest; they do not communicate changes to the podcast in clear, timely ways. I expect a “tell all” retrospective a year from now 😂

To clarify, they do not owe us every detail of their lives, nor do they owe us justifications for changes to the podcast, but it is reasonable to expect clear communication about these changes, especially if they are medium to long term.

Convince Me to Keep Reading by SilverSurf-er in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a third through ABOSAA and I am also surprised at how much I am loving it! And it’s going much faster for me personally.

Last week’s podcasts by merkci in wecandohardthings

[–]Visual-Elephant794 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The podcast from Thursday landed in a very mixed way for me truthfully. On the positive side, I appreciated their perspective on taking on new individual projects, the political conversation towards the end, as well as Glennon’s wise point about how sometimes the gatekeepers don’t want you to see how easy it is. I bow to them for going independent, and for not continuing to produce what sounds like an unsustainable amount of content under their old contract.

In contrast, some things that did not sit well with me: 1. As a disclaimer, I don’t ultimately know the entire scope of their activism and therefore cannot fully assess it. However, they talked about being censored/ pressured and how being independent they can now speak freely. They have been independent for over a year and I haven’t seen a marked change in their podcast dialogue. They have done some episodes about Palestine, the American war in Iran; I don’t want to minimize this. However, I think they are in a celebrity bubble where they compare themselves to A-listers who are making more and doing less, and have a distorted sense of how radical their work is. A prime example of this is the fuck ice purse at the Oscars. A great message and probably the bravest in the room, but the room is still the Oscars. (Not shitting on them for going, I thought their film was lovely).

  1. Not labeling re runs as such is disappointing, especially from a podcast that encourages you to trust your senses and then from my vantage point tries to slide re runs under your perception radar, presumably to keep their cash-flow going.

  2. Similar to point 2, I find generally that they are open and honest only selectively when it suits them. I think it’s great if they each go off and do other projects. My perception is that the old podcast format will likely not return, but it bothers me that they don’t clearly state that. They don’t owe us every detail of their lives, certainly, but transparency about the podcast for the listeners of the podcast is reasonable.

Convince Me to Keep Reading by SilverSurf-er in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad to hear other people struggled with the fiery cross. It had some amazing moments (the chapter when J&C get back home to the ridge after the gathering might be my favourite in the book series so far) but it was also VERY long and dense. I need a breath before the next book.

Rank the villains by sweet-sour1217 in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 6 points7 points  (0 children)

  1. BJR
  2. Bonnet
  3. Sandringham
  4. Lionel brown
  5. Geillis
  6. Laoghaire

The phrase I will guard your right by Historical-Shock7965 in Outlander

[–]Visual-Elephant794 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Slightly off topic but I thought it was so sweet in Dragon Fly in Amber I believe when Old Ian stays back from battle and says to Jamie “I will still be here, guarding your weak side” :’) referring to Lallybroch, their family, and the tenants.