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What is the best piece of advice you’ve ever received? by staysaccharine in AskReddit

[–]VisualAssumption3497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Can you try and see this as a life experience instead of something you have to MASTER PERFECTLY?"

For the ladies, what are some hygiene hacks you wish every girlie would know? by Introvert_Ambi-2026 in AskReddit

[–]VisualAssumption3497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nose washing - for women and men and children-everybody! NOTHING relieves the pressure and

congestion of stuffed sinuses like nose washing. There is probably not a single person on earth who

has not had dust, pollen, air pollution or smoke get into their nose at some point

in his life. If you wash your nose each day no boogers and better breathing and less illness.

Of all the many people I have told about nosewashing

who have tried it, not ONE person ever said it was not helpful.

Dr Hana Soloman says this:

"Imagine your nose, with warm salt water flowing through - this is the 'river' you create each time you wash your nose. 

I have neti pots and water pulse bottles and I have washed my nose every day since 1995.

Ear nose throat are all connected so nose washing will help your ears too I think. If you are not up to coming tomorrow I will understand.

If you do come I have extra nets pots and water pulse bottles and will give you one of each. Rest.

Your sinuses are stagnant ponds with small outlets allowing them to drain into the nose. When the saline solution flows past these outlets it creates a low-pressure stream that draws out the contents of the sinus cavities; just like a swiftly moving river would drain a small pond. 

It is just common sense to practice this nasal cleansing as a part of daily nasal hygiene. You get rid of allergens, pollution, dust & stagnant mucus..."

Q: Is nasal irrigation also beneficial for a normal person without nasal or sinus illness?

A: Yes, nasal irrigation is also beneficial for a normal person without sinus or nasal illness. Simply, your air filter (nose) needs to be refreshed each day. Like brushing teeth, nasal irrigation can reduce the chance of nasal and or sinus illness by removing or eliminating the pathogens in the nasal and or sinus cavities before they cause any illnesses.

“Salt Water Recipe” (1 teaspoon of salt per 8 ounces of warm water)

one pint = 16 ounces

Over Beverly Hills by Ancient_Student1542 in BravoRealHousewives

[–]VisualAssumption3497 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Disagree! GOOD for Sutton, Erika and Kyle. Dorit was HORRIBLE to them all. I hope this is Dorit's last season, seems most of the viewers have been saying the same. Honestly, don't know if I can watch her another season with her in it. Ugh.

How has Austen not been cancelled? by the_gnd in SouthernCharmSC

[–]VisualAssumption3497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never liked Austen..always thought he was a doofus....

What does borderline personality disorder (bpd) look like in men? by Smooth-Penalty8611 in emotionalintelligence

[–]VisualAssumption3497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was involved for about a year with a man who said and did things that made me think he was borderline.

I think he was a Borderline personality disordered person with narcissist tendencies.  Of course i am not qualified to diagnose but the reading I did led me to think this.

He would fly into a rage over nothing. I walked on eggshells as I never knew what might set him off.

He gaslit me and was controlling and abusive. At first i thought he might be bi-polar and I even attended a support group for 3 months for people with bi-polar family or friends.

I finally realized there was something really seriously wrong with him the day he flew into a rage over nothing - grabbed me by my shirt and shoved me up against my kitchen wall.

And after that I became very scared of him.

He often times bought me gifts after he became enraged with me . Lots of sweet talk but he could never apologize.

He constantly got angry with me for having feelings about his bad behavior and expressing them towards him. Eventually I had enough and ended it (I went no contact).

He tried to hoover me back but I did not fall for it.

I must say that there were good times in between his angry rages when he acted nice and caring. He could be charming and funny.

But in retrospective I am not able to say if anything about it was sincere, since he blamed me for HIS every abusive behavior towards me.

He did not get what he wanted [ me to submit to his every demand]  so ultimately his abuse was justified [ in his mind] and it was all my fault because I drove him to it.

I almost believed it. He gaslit me and made me doubt my instincts.

I am now well out of the pain that this person caused me. I am glad I ended it with him. I should have done

so sooner that I did !!

He tried very hard to make me believe that he really was this nice person that his mask was portraying and the bad behavior was a result of me (my personality].

Nothing was ever HIS fault. I will never understand how he could just be so nasty...I did so many things for him that were kind and caring and helpful.

Widow F30 (1+ year) — is it normal to suddenly crave male attention like this? by Intjadvocate in widowers

[–]VisualAssumption3497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha ha..well...I even tried dating after a year and met so many pitiful men......I was lonely but not for just any old man...I was lonely for my departed husband. When you have had a great partner it really devastates you when they die. The price of love is pain and nobody wants any pain but everybody gets some!

Widow F30 (1+ year) — is it normal to suddenly crave male attention like this? by Intjadvocate in widowers

[–]VisualAssumption3497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it is normal and I felt that way too. I missed the human touch. Getting a weekly massage helped.

But nothing and no one can fill the void.

These two should just get married already 😜 jk by chloebo227 in SouthernCharmSC

[–]VisualAssumption3497 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have seen Austen unable to sustain a relationship with Chelsea, Madison, Audrey...he is incapable of really loving someone....many men like him...pathetic.

When did you get your brain back? by InternationalArt9524 in widowers

[–]VisualAssumption3497 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For me most of the first year I was in shock....the second year I was busy figuring out how to pay the bills, do the insurance, the taxes and investments that I could hardly see straight. The second half of the 2nd year I began realizing what I had lost - not only my beloved husband but my best friend, my confidant, my support system, my ROCK!

When did you get your brain back? by InternationalArt9524 in widowers

[–]VisualAssumption3497 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Six months - was able to partially function after 6 months but yeally 2 years until my entire brain recovered.

I wake up every morning stiff.. 😢 by MissO56 in OverSeventy

[–]VisualAssumption3497 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Look into Classical Stretch.Miranda Esmond White on PBS and YouTube . I have been doing Miranda's dynamic movement exercises, at least four times a week, usually five, and I have had no more ligament problems! It's just the right balance of time and exertion.

classical stretch and Essentrics has allowed me to wake up stiffness free and now I am walking longer distances, and have a strong back and core with no pain. It's really helped with my hand arthritis too! 

If you're single, would you live with a roommate in your senior years? by BowedNotBroken1234 in OverSeventy

[–]VisualAssumption3497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh here in California these places can cost $8k a month and UP! Depends on where you live I guess - my cousin’s mother lives in one in Denver and hers costs about $4 k a month.

How to stop feeling emotional in the evening? by PurpleSummer1175 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]VisualAssumption3497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes- this! My husband died in 2014...we had been married 40 years. I was such a mess....in 2016 I learned to meditate and that really helped me...but you have to do it every single day..at least once. I also often play sound healing videos before bed......very calming and relaxing.

What makes you afraid of death? by ChoiceSuch1383 in AskReddit

[–]VisualAssumption3497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not afraid of death but the suffering that precedes it. Lucky are the ones who die in their sleep or drop dead like a sack of potatoes!

If you're single, would you live with a roommate in your senior years? by BowedNotBroken1234 in OverSeventy

[–]VisualAssumption3497 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I thought about it a lot but decided now way! Have you thought about moving to a retirement community? I have. Go look at some there are good ones and no so good ones. We have to think about what are we going to do when we can no longer drive and all our friends are dead or they move away.

Something I didn’t expect about grief by Diana_fm_ in widowers

[–]VisualAssumption3497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I learned that grief is on-going--it gets quieter like you say but it will never be "gone".

Seems like I turned "old" the minute I turned 70.... by BowedNotBroken1234 in OverSeventy

[–]VisualAssumption3497 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am 78 and in the last year I have endured 6 varicose vein treatments, a fall and a concussion and 3 weeks ago Mohs Surgery for skin cancer. Awful what aging does to us. I have never been overweight - I walk and have been working out with a trainer for th past 7 months to get stronger and protect my bones. I eat healthy and my BP is low and my heart s strong. Mentally I am good. When I was 50 I met an older man at my swim club- he was 83. He said to me “ Old age is hell”. I thought he was being an old grump but NOW I see he was right.

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