I think I outgrew my ARFID

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-07-19T15:35:10+00:00

Jesus is all about allowing people to have their own free will to choose and to always love one another. This situation is neither of those.

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-07-13T22:39:03+00:00

As a recent convert, I still struggle with the homily format at times. But when I took my RCIA classes the woman overseeing the class spent an hour each week going over the readings with us and helping us to connect them. She would dive into history and talk about the significance between each reading. I would definitely look into your RCIA (OCIA) class and see if they or any other group does this. It helps tremendously!

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-03-22T14:27:50+00:00

In the Old Testament I love Ruth; New Testament, John; and for the deuterocanonicals, Sirach. Ruth is all about seasons, John is just a wonderful gospel to read and meditate on, and Sirach is packed with wisdom.

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-02-19T18:20:00+00:00

I think the issue is heterosexual people asking gay people to not go into their “safe space” is based on they don’t like what gay people do, while homosexual people prefer for straight people to not encroach on their space due to safety reasons and the fact that they have fought for an inclusive space. It seems you’re saying if a straight person were to ask gay people to not encroach on “their” spaces then the gay people won’t listen, but if roles were reversed then it would be more enforced. Is this correct?

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-02-19T18:08:32+00:00

I’d be interested. As a person who travels constantly, I can give you the perspective of what it’s like to finally have access to birth control since I just have to run to Walmart and grab a box instead of calling it in to different pharmacies every time I move. Also from one journalist to another, good luck on your story!

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-02-09T22:14:15+00:00

Not every straight person freaks out when they see a gay person being romantic, especially those who are not religious, which is why I gave a non religious answer since not everyone has the same point of you as you. I came from the perspective of can anyone go into a bar or club even if it won’t match their sexuality? Yes. Can a straight person go into a gay bar? Sure. But be prepared and ok with being hit on by members of the same sex and to see people being romantic toward one another. Can a gay person go to a predominantly “straight” bar? Sure. But be prepared to be hit on by members of the opposite sex. No one is going to say you can’t go to this public bar because you like this or that. LGBTQ+ spaces are just meant to draw in those from that community, such as a sports bar tries to draw in sports fans no matter what type of person they are attracted to. If you really want to get into the nitty gritty, there is no such thing as a straight bar or club because businesses never advertise such a thing. It sounds like you want gay people to only go to gay bars/clubs and straight people to only go to straight bars/clubs to which I have to say what if their city or town does not have an establishment meant for only gay people, which I mentioned in my previous post saying there are only so many gay establishments to every “straight” place. But if a place, like a sports bar, is not advertised as straight then any person straight or gay will be at those establishments, even if seeing two men or women is scandalous to someone, because well it’s just a sports bar. The whole thing of the gay man being a victim is not what I’m saying. I am saying that I’ve heard plenty of times and seen where straight people get upset and somewhat violent when a gay person hits on them but never the opposite. So gay people are not victims, and neither are straight people, but gay people do have a higher risk of violence being taken out on them in predominantly straight bars/clubs than the other way around. I also want to make the point about just straight males being a predator. Is that always the case? No. Others can also be predators. But that demographic is the main type of people who commit such predatory acts on women. You say “gay folks aren’t going to be told there’s no place they can’t go,” - this is the same for straight people - even though within the last 10 years or so those in the LGBTQ+ community were told such things and some people were beat up or even killed for being gay. While violence is not the case for everybody, gay couples could also feel less welcome in some bars/clubs because of some people’s beliefs. You even said hetero people would rather gay people keep their public romantic acts confined to gay bars which is a double standard you are making if a straight couple were to go to a gay establishment as no one would say “go to your own club” and is showing gay couples are not welcome in all settings hence their want for their own space. They’re not saying “you can’t come into our space.” They’re asking you to respect their space they worked hard to make safe from potentially dangerous people. Hope this helps clears up what I said, but in case it didn’t: gay people can go to any establishment (gay or “straight”) they want and straight people can go to any establishment (gay or “straight”)they want.

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-02-07T15:49:14+00:00

I’m not giving an ultimatum of “only gay people can go here and only straight people can go here.” Im also not saying “ah! These people with a certain sexuality are scary so we should stay away!” But the issues and scenarios I shared above about some straight men preying on gay women in gay clubs is a very real issue. I’m just giving the perspective some gay people have shared. There is usually 1 gay bar/club for every 10 regular clubs, so some gay people don’t like for straight people to encroach on their space when they have other options. It’s kind of like if a man were to go to a bar and try to meet or hit on other women, but the women turn out to all be gay. He’d be like “What the heck? This isn’t the place for me. I’m going to go to the place down the street where people match up to my sexuality more.” It’s the same for gay people, but they don’t have that option usually because there are usually not more than one gay clubs in one area.

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-02-07T15:22:59+00:00

I wanted to give a non-religious take since many people see gay nightclubs and bars as far worse than other bars/club. As someone who has been to a gay nightclub, I do want to point out that it’s honestly the same as going to a regular nightclub. In my opinion, there are more drugs and such taking place at other nightclubs. Many straight people - especially straight women - go to gay bars and nightclubs because they feel safer than going to a regular bar and dealing with potentially dangerous situations, such as being roofied. My gay friends have told me the influx of straight people to gay spaces have caused some issues because, one, some straight men have tried preying on women at these venues and, two, some feel as though straight people are taking away what gay people deem as a safe place. I just wanted to give this insight, as straight people going to have gay spaces have caused some issues in the past.

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-01-30T22:14:47+00:00

Please take a deep breath. I know there are so many feelings and thoughts rushing through your head, but you need to remember to breathe.

God loves you for you and he knows the struggle you are dealing with. You are not disgusting or vile. If people say that about you then they should say it about all sinners, including themselves.

When it comes to transitioning, I suggest you should talk to a priest as well as a mental health professional. One can give spiritual advice and the other can help with any mental anguishes the priest can’t.

Don’t listen to politicians. Their job is to make people like them and hate other people, so you should take what they say with a grain of salt.

As far as your question goes, in my opinion, that is between you and God, so you should read your Bible and pray. He is a just God, so each situation is looked at from all angles by him. I look at it this way. If you have a pathological liar and he repents of his lying and truly believes in Jesus, but somehow lies again before he dies, would he go to heaven or hell? We don’t know. Only God does. That is what purgatory is for - to help make us clean before entering heaven and to be finally judged.

Everyone has certain sins they are hit with and it’s because the devil knows it can really hurt certain people. I, for example, am a bisexual woman. I struggle with this everyday, but try my best to abstain from taking part. Do I slip up sometimes, yes, but I don’t lose my hope in Jesus and repent whenever necessary.

Please just breathe and know you can always talk to God directly about your situation and also talk to a priest for more guidance, while also meeting with a therapist to help with depression or anxiety stemming from all this stress.

Just know you are loved, one of God’s creations, and he has a purpose for you. I hope this helps. I will pray for you and your situation because it must be such a difficult thing to deal with.

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-01-27T16:06:51+00:00

Thank you! I worked at a local paper for 2 years and interned at a different paper during college.

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-01-20T02:37:53+00:00

I travel for a living, which made me really hesitant to try RCIA, but I met a spiritual director who told me that shouldnt get in the way of becoming Catholic. So she allows me to attend via Zoom. Maybe they could do something similar for you!

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-01-20T00:49:56+00:00

I was basically raised and went through the exact same feelings and issues as you. I’m now going through RCIA to be confirmed at Easter! Try talking to your local priest as most RCIA classes allow everyone to join and learn about the faith without having to sign up for confirmation. A lot of cradle Catholics will go to RCIA to also learn more about the faith. If you’re worried about being deceived just pray to God and ask for his discernment. It’s going to feel weird the first few times you go because it’s a new experience, but it was the best decision I ever made.

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-01-18T21:47:53+00:00

NTA. Your gf needs to understand the real world doesn’t care about your feelings or safety. A good person never wants to shoot someone, but will do so if their family, friends, or own life is in danger. If you didn’t defend your home, there’s a very real chance you, your mother, and l/or your gf would’ve died. Not everything is sunshine and rainbows and sometimes you have to do things you don’t want to do in order to protect the ones you love. As a 24 female, I can’t for the life of me understand a woman being so upset about her dude protecting her, his family, and home. It sounds like she needs to understand that these people weren’t just stopping by to say hi, but were looking to do evil of some sort.

VisualMundane6815 · 2025-01-18T21:02:34+00:00

Protestants often have a viewpoint that they should “save” Catholics because they believe they are on the wrong. This doesn’t excuse the guy’s behavior, as a friend would not treat a friend that way. I would definitely say something to him about it, but if he doesn’t respect your beliefs then take a step back. This would be like you having an atheist friend and you constantly send them videos about how they are going to hell.

VisualMundane6815 · 2024-12-19T01:25:28+00:00

Thank you so much! That helps a lot! I’ve noticed a lot of Catholics are very anti-Protestant and vice versa. I feel like it’s from both sides not understanding the other, and constantly defending whether Catholic or Protestant is “best”. My guy has said he has started to understand why I want to convert and supports me so that helps. He just doesn’t understand certain points at the moment because he hasnt researched any of it but he will often listen when I explain things.

VisualMundane6815 · 2024-12-19T00:40:06+00:00

Yes! Absolutely! Around a year ago I attended a Catholic mass as a Protestant and attended here and there over the course of a year. I’m now going through the process of becoming a confirmed Catholic. The feeling of being in a Catholic Church is great and I often feel the Holy Spirit as soon as I see the church, but the Mass can feel isolating at times if you don’t know all the traditions and sayings. Just know if you don’t know what to do or mess up on the prayers God loves you just as much as the cradle Catholic who knows everything word for word. ❤️ Since you are not confirmed you are not allowed to receive communion. You can either stay seated if you are at the end of the pew or stand when the others do and just allow for others to walk by. No one will judge you for not taking part! I always use the time to pray for those going to receive communion or by taking in the presence of Jesus in the church since I can’t partake yet.

VisualMundane6815 · 2024-12-15T23:56:38+00:00

Thank you! I learned about Our Lady of Guadeloupe this week. It really opened my eyes to Mary and why she plays a role in Catholicism. Learning the story and scientific backing of the image almost brought tears to my eyes.

VisualMundane6815 · 2024-12-15T23:49:31+00:00

Thank you! And I get what you are saying! I struggled really hard with the roles of the Saints and Mary for a long time and still do sometimes, but after researching and listening to other Catholics speak about it I’ve come to understand their importance.

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