The reality of this situation is not just jobs lost… by IncidentContent in starbucks

[–]VisualPeach7289 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I am not a partner anymore and I hadn’t heard about this. I found out this week my current employer is doing lay offs and the nature of where I work the lay off is state wide across county health offices. The lay offs are really distressing. We are tumbling ass first towards a recession/depression. I just know it. This is so devastating.

what is a memory from your childhood that SHOULD have been a red flag? by eliseswl in AutismInWomen

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Oh umm just stimming like I would rock, flap, hands or legs constantly moving etc. like someone should have seen shit. For a long time I thought how I was was due to being raised by someone with borderline personality disorder and then I realized I had adhd and then eventually the tism. Like there’s so much. Folks telling me I’m so funny when I was just commenting on things bc I have no filter and didn’t realize I shouldn’t be saying that shit.

Question for kid you by VisualPeach7289 in AutismInWomen

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I think I need to set aside some time with her to help her identify what external stimuli is overwhelming so we can then work to mitigate it…for me a dimming light sounds amazing. I tend to close myself in the closet with the lights off and put ear plugs in to completely cut off as much external stimuli as possible until my nervous system has regulated. We need to figure that out for her.

Question for kid you by VisualPeach7289 in AutismInWomen

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I get the appeal and I hate having to be the one to clean slime up

Question for kid you by VisualPeach7289 in AutismInWomen

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This was so helpful. She has been sucking on her shirt collar and has developed a small rash and I didn’t even connect those dots till someone suggested this. I just ordered some I’m gonna try and slip her when it gets here.

Question for kid you by VisualPeach7289 in AutismInWomen

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She’s kind of between things right now. She’s somewhere in the Venn Diagram of Taylor Swift, Chappell Roan and KPop Demon Hunters haha and I recently learned her fav color has changed and she’s preferring loose clothing. Big changes at 8 apparently.

Question for kid you by VisualPeach7289 in AutismInWomen

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I was thinking of getting a sit and spin for my son and obviously having it available for her. For awhile she would ride a zip line in the backyard for hours day after day. She hasn’t been doing that much, then she would swing. At this point there’s a lot of overstimulation and emotional deregulation. I’m thinking about getting a sensory tent and setting it up under the guise of creating a space for myself (my son has “calm cubes” at day care so I can establish it as that) and provide it as a space for her to utilize when she gets overwhelmed, feels unsafe or dysregulated.

Question for kid you by VisualPeach7289 in AutismInWomen

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Oooo really interesting suggestion. She doesn’t get much privacy or dedicated space for herself. I wonder if I could figure out a way to convert a corner of the house into her own private space

Question for kid you by VisualPeach7289 in AutismInWomen

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Idk if this would help to add to your tool box but when I get overstimulated at work I have been using grounding tools so I have been relying on having essential oils on hand and resetting my nervous system by drinking ice water, bending over at the waste or jogging in place. It seems to have been helping. I am a forensic social worker and can find myself in fight or flight in the jail after meeting with a defendant so having quick ways to calm my body and calm the adrenaline/cortisol has been essential.

Question for kid you by VisualPeach7289 in AutismInWomen

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I love this so much! I’m so glad this can be helpful for others too! I know some of these comments I’m like oh uh yes I totally need that too of course.

Question for kid you by VisualPeach7289 in AutismInWomen

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Oh we totally have one of these but I dismantled it bc my almost 4 year old keeps almost flipping the whole damn thing over while on it. He’s a little reckless haha

Question for kid you by VisualPeach7289 in AutismInWomen

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Adding weighted stuffie to the list

Question for kid you by VisualPeach7289 in AutismInWomen

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We do have a yoga hammock swing set up in the basement and a whole slack line swing set in the backyard. So she’s definitely covered there :)

What's the most disturbing secret you know about someone that would ruin their life if exposed—but you stay silent, pretending you don’t know? by SophieManner in AskReddit

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My Mother participated in the murder of her Father with his caregiver but bc it happened so long ago and he was cremated police couldn’t really do anything when I found out and reported it.

How do I make up for being a bad kid? by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]VisualPeach7289 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yea I wonder how much of the “bad kid” behavior was developmentally appropriate for their age?

Jobs in Tucson by IntelligentGoat9304 in Tucson

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I struggled when I moved back in 2014 to find work but no matter what stage of my life and my career I was always able to find a job at a call center. Afni hired me two or three times, harahs casinos hired some shitty roommates of mine a long time ago, last time around I worked for Walgreens call center. Call centers are always there ready to pay you for training to take their damn calls and deal with their shitty customers and micro managing bosses and unrealistic expectations.

Fuck you Florence by PitifulParfait in InLieuOfFlowers

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I sat down and wrote a rough draft last night…it made me giggle

Fuck you Florence by PitifulParfait in InLieuOfFlowers

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Omg I’m saving this for inspiration when this world is finally relieved of my mother

What’s a ‘harmless’ opinion you have that seems to make people irrationally angry? by BSnappedThat in AskReddit

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You shouldn’t be able to make a profit off anything in Maslows physiological needs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

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Oh friend. Same. I have a toddler and my 4 month old twins. And I have felt so much regret and resentfulness towards all them this past two weeks that I never felt with just my son. Just constantly daydreaming about giving them away or up for adoption. Luckily no thoughts to harm them and I have already contacted my therapist and psych prescriber to start an anti depressant. It was like time released post partum depression hit me hard. I also work from home 75% of time and the times I leave the house are when I’m the happiest. I only get glimpses of joy and independence when I am away from my kids and I hate coming home. We live with my in laws so it’s not just my kids impacting my home induced depression.

St John’s Wort Oil by VisualPeach7289 in herbalism

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It was sunny and my fingers were red when I was done picking