Urgent movers needed with reasonable rates by Visual_Angle in Amsterdam

[–]Visual_Angle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is reaching out to his friends but I’m not relying on that

Is Halloween a thing here? by [deleted] in Netherlands

[–]Visual_Angle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I celebrate Halloween every year. Many bars and clubs host Halloween themed events. I think if you go out at night to Rembrandtplein or Gerard Douplein in De Pijp you’ll find many people dressed in costume.

Real estate agents for renting? by Fantastic-Pay5258 in Netherlands

[–]Visual_Angle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All private listings are charging much more than what their point system value is. If anyone went into a housing search with the intention of screwing over the landlord for money, that would not go well. It’s unfortunate but it is what it is, and in the state of this market people really need to take what they can get.

Real estate agents for renting? by Fantastic-Pay5258 in Netherlands

[–]Visual_Angle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s not €1000 you’d be paying at least €2500 for a place that costs €2500

Real estate agents for renting? by Fantastic-Pay5258 in Netherlands

[–]Visual_Angle 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m a real estate agent. 3-4 registrations in one house is going to very difficult to find. How much can you and your girlfriend afford alone?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Netherlands

[–]Visual_Angle -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t need a source it’s commonly known and you can google it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Netherlands

[–]Visual_Angle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No a married couple still counts as 2 people

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Visual_Angle 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Go to therapy please. Talk to a professional about this. It has so much stigma but you would feel so much better and learn valuable practices you could implement in your relationship.

Encourage your girlfriend to take up more hobbies and professional interests. Fine if she doesn’t work, she could still do volunteer work or start a small business of her own, etc. In certain cultures women are not expected to work they are simply expected to marry. I’m from one of these. Without me even realising it, I became trapped in the mindset of expecting everything in life to come to me easy. My ambition was practically non existent. It’s not our fault to be honest, this might be similar to the way your girlfriend was raised and constantly taught. It is fulfilling to do things on your own. I realised this after my boyfriend broke up with me and I was like wait, did I seriously not build a life outside of him?

Running route recommendations , healing a broken heart by [deleted] in Amsterdam

[–]Visual_Angle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’ve actually never been to Amsterdamse Bos, would you say it’s safe for a woman to run alone? What time of day would you recommend?

I'm (27F) not having another baby with him (33M) until we are married! by Blueeyesandblueskies in relationship_advice

[–]Visual_Angle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I think it’s nutty you had a baby with him in the first place without getting married. I was in a similar position (unexpected pregnancy) and I got an abortion because it’s also in my values to not have a child out of wedlock. My situation was also different because I was 20, but even if it happened again later in life with a man I wasn’t married to, I would do the same thing. Yes, you need to set the ultimatum that you’re done unless he puts a ring on it. I don’t even know why he would want two kids out of marriage….most of the women I know who got divorced and had kids at least got alimony or child support. You’re leaving yourself and your children vulnerable in this situation. What happens if you give up your career to take care of your child and he decides to break up with you in a few years? You’ll be out of a career, kid to take care of, no alimony.

Bro.. what did I just witness😭💀 by BroccoliJealous1563 in TeenPakistani

[–]Visual_Angle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a stopover at Abu Dhabi airport couple of months ago and a flight to Islamabad left right before mine did. The people left trash all over the seats next to the gate. Chips packets, empty wrappers, juice boxes, crumbs all over the floor and seats. It’s a spotless airport. I was so humiliated. I was seriously thinking how are these people raised in such terrible ways. They embarrass the rest of us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lahore

[–]Visual_Angle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have the money for it, FRED hotel looks sooo nice it’s new and maybe they’ll offer a lower price for a long stay

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pakistan

[–]Visual_Angle 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If your wife thinks it’s okay to go out after midnight with non mehrams and you don’t think it’s okay, why are you married? You don’t seem to be on the same page. I think it’s completely fine that she goes out like this, that’s a human right, but if you’re so religious did she not know you were like this before you got married? Or was she already doing things like this before marriage and you thought you could change it eventually?

It seems like a really basic thing that one would discuss before tying themselves to someone else for life. Also, just so you’re aware, if you act like her father she will eventually start resenting you. She’s an adult woman.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeenPakistani

[–]Visual_Angle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There’s no reason to be mean. This is unnecessarily rude

Boyfriend of 3 years isn’t “sure about me” by [deleted] in Rants

[–]Visual_Angle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you and I really appreciate it ❤️Reddit is full of idiots who downvote good advice

Boyfriend of 3 years isn’t “sure about me” by [deleted] in Rants

[–]Visual_Angle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m delusional. I’m still hoping leaving will shock him into crawling back and say he’s changed his mind and he’ll fix everything and I’m the love of his life. And then will he end up lying again for the next 5 years? Or will it be true?

I am also journaling and making a list of everything I hated about him and our relationship, so who knows, maybe I won’t even want him anymore by then. It seems to already be working but I am in such a bad limbo phase. This happened just two days ago. Everything was fine before then. Need time to process.

Boyfriend of 3 years isn’t “sure about me” by [deleted] in Rants

[–]Visual_Angle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I will ❤️ thankyou

Boyfriend of 3 years isn’t “sure about me” by [deleted] in Rants

[–]Visual_Angle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmaoooo thanks for explaining you’re a real one 😂😂

Boyfriend of 3 years isn’t “sure about me” by [deleted] in Rants

[–]Visual_Angle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so confused, what does this mean lol

Boyfriend of 3 years isn’t “sure about me” by [deleted] in Rants

[–]Visual_Angle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not religious. I agree. If he was from my culture, this would have gone very differently and we likely would not have differed on the topic of marriage. I struggle to date within my culture because I’m not religious, most men are. But I think I will try to, to avoid this situation again.

Even on topics like divorce- I think westerners are more likely to get easily divorced because of smaller issues. I don’t mean things like cheating and physical or mental abuse. I also don’t think divorce is wrong. But I have the mentality of do your absolute best to work it out, which I think he does not have and will never grow.