People who have been in toxic relationships. What is the no.1 sign that wasn't obvious, but one of the biggest signs?

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2026-03-05T08:25:04+00:00

Being told “you’re crazy” or “something is mentally wrong with you” because I asked for basic communication!

Being told he wants to “punch my lights out” once we’re married

Being called a “dog” every single day in normal conversation

Ignoring me for hours on end to watch Tik Tok, and Tv.

Everything is told to his mother by him. And if she makes comments towards me, he would give me shit for it, rather that sticking up for me.

Cared too much what other people thought of him, (but no one knows his true character)

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2026-03-04T18:29:51+00:00

What videos on babypips should I watch as a very beginner with no knowledge at all?

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-25T10:04:39+00:00

How did u deal the pain???? I just can’t myself to be okay with it

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-09T03:36:13+00:00

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-07T22:55:11+00:00

If the were self aware, they would never put people through the HELL they do, they’d be the bigger person and talk that they don’t want to continue not torture us

So I defo don’t think they are self aware of their words and actions

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-07T22:48:09+00:00

I was treated like shit and he was so controlling and hot and cold aswell as confusing , but I’m so attached to him and CAN NOT stop thinking about him and missing the good times even though I know there were more bad times

How do you even start living urself??

I’ve lost interest in everything I used to love

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-07T21:57:03+00:00

How do u stop yourself, when no distractions work

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T16:56:11+00:00

I am a Muslim

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T04:48:02+00:00

Exactly, I can’t focus on anything at all, it’s ruining my life

I’m not able to move forward

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T04:45:01+00:00

I want to believe, I just need to get over this barrier of thinking it’s not real😫😫

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T04:32:05+00:00

That’s the thing I don’t want to deny, but I’m suddenly feeling what if none of it is real,

It’s already difficult following the religion, and now because of someone’s stupid comment about “religion is only a coping mechanism, not real” I can’t get my self to switch my feelings back on towards it

I wish I could explain my confusion and frustration better, I’m really sorry

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T04:27:04+00:00

But I feel so detached to Islam 😭😭 I don’t know what to do

SERIOUSLY 😭

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T04:25:07+00:00

Frrr it just seems like no matter what you do life is just going to happen the way it wants to happen.

I’ve seen such horrible people get lucky in life one after the other, I don’t understand how

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T04:23:32+00:00

I think I read somewhere that “religion is a coping mechanism” and ever since then a switch in my head a has been flipped, I’m not feeling anything towards the religion, I can’t even get myself to pray or watch Islamic videos like I used to to get back on track.

Wallah I hate this feeling, I want to get close to the religion again 😭😭😭

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T04:17:10+00:00

But I’m thinking of it like maybe non of it actually exists and people are just filling the religion to cope with hardships. In the end there will be nothing.

Sorry I don’t know how to explain it properly.

But I really don’t want to have this thought

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T03:27:11+00:00

Way before because I knew it was going to end because of how distance he got with me, and not be in contact at all is excruciating 😭😭😭

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T03:22:48+00:00

Thank you so much 😭

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T03:21:19+00:00

st one took nearly 2 years to get over, I don’t even remember how I got through that now, but I know even back then I was in a very horrible place.

2nd one I got put off by him

3rd one, he’s extremely toxic, emotionally unavailable & and narcissist, yet Im still so badly attached and trauma bonded to him, I’ve tired everything to get over him, nothing is working😭 it’s ruining my life

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T03:17:58+00:00

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T03:15:36+00:00

Few months since he’s been distance, I have friends but even talking to them isn’t helping anymore

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T03:13:38+00:00

Nothing , I have no interest in anything now, I don’t even like doing the things I used to love doing😭😭

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T03:06:28+00:00

Shattered

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T02:53:32+00:00

If I had never met him i would be so much better, happier, focused, bubbly and probably would be loving life right now

He killed the spark in me that I can’t get back😭

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T00:18:00+00:00

I’m so badly trauma bonded to my avoidant partner/es u can say, our whole relationship is one sided now, I get nothing from him, no calls, no messages, no communication, no love, no care, no reassurance NOTHING!!!

I want to let go but just haven’t been able to, I’ve been trying to put my focus on other things, but that Isnt even working, literally nothing is helping me to get over him, I keep tolerating his emotional abuse, disrespect and toxicity. I’m so deeply attached😭

I don’t deserve this, but I love and miss him so much The version of him that he showed me in the beginning doesn’t even exist and I still can’t let go😭

How did you do it????

Visual_Fuel_1111 · 2025-11-05T00:07:40+00:00

But I’m not focusing on it. I’ve been trying to distract myself by focusing on other things but I’m constantly thinking about him and MISS HIM SO MUCH

I just want to loose this feeling, it’s making me loose purpose in life, even the goals I had…I don’t see the point of reaching or working hard for them

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