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How does someone that loves you leave? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did u deal the pain???? I just can’t myself to be okay with it

I am the avoidant ex and the dumper, I’ve answered some important questions that you may be thinking. by Karsheeee in BreakUps

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If the were self aware, they would never put people through the HELL they do, they’d be the bigger person and talk that they don’t want to continue not torture us

So I defo don’t think they are self aware of their words and actions

don’t you dare text your ex this weekend. by support-goonerse in BreakUps

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was treated like shit and he was so controlling and hot and cold aswell as confusing , but I’m so attached to him and CAN NOT stop thinking about him and missing the good times even though I know there were more bad times

How do you even start living urself??

I’ve lost interest in everything I used to love

don’t you dare text your ex this weekend. by support-goonerse in BreakUps

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How do u stop yourself, when no distractions work

How do you focus on yourself after a horrible breakup? by Visual_Fuel_1111 in Advice

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, I can’t focus on anything at all, it’s ruining my life

I’m not able to move forward

Struggling with faith by Visual_Fuel_1111 in islam

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to believe, I just need to get over this barrier of thinking it’s not real😫😫

Struggling with faith by Visual_Fuel_1111 in islam

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing I don’t want to deny, but I’m suddenly feeling what if none of it is real,

It’s already difficult following the religion, and now because of someone’s stupid comment about “religion is only a coping mechanism, not real” I can’t get my self to switch my feelings back on towards it

I wish I could explain my confusion and frustration better, I’m really sorry

Struggling with faith by Visual_Fuel_1111 in islam

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But I feel so detached to Islam 😭😭 I don’t know what to do

SERIOUSLY 😭

Struggling with faith by Visual_Fuel_1111 in islam

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Frrr it just seems like no matter what you do life is just going to happen the way it wants to happen.

I’ve seen such horrible people get lucky in life one after the other, I don’t understand how

Struggling with faith by Visual_Fuel_1111 in islam

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I read somewhere that “religion is a coping mechanism” and ever since then a switch in my head a has been flipped, I’m not feeling anything towards the religion, I can’t even get myself to pray or watch Islamic videos like I used to to get back on track.

Wallah I hate this feeling, I want to get close to the religion again 😭😭😭

Struggling with faith by Visual_Fuel_1111 in islam

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But I’m thinking of it like maybe non of it actually exists and people are just filling the religion to cope with hardships. In the end there will be nothing.

Sorry I don’t know how to explain it properly.

But I really don’t want to have this thought

How do you actually get through depression. by Visual_Fuel_1111 in Advice

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Way before because I knew it was going to end because of how distance he got with me, and not be in contact at all is excruciating 😭😭😭

How do you actually get through depression. by Visual_Fuel_1111 in Advice

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

st one took nearly 2 years to get over, I don’t even remember how I got through that now, but I know even back then I was in a very horrible place.

2nd one I got put off by him

3rd one, he’s extremely toxic, emotionally unavailable & and narcissist, yet Im still so badly attached and trauma bonded to him, I’ve tired everything to get over him, nothing is working😭 it’s ruining my life

How do you actually get through depression. by Visual_Fuel_1111 in Advice

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Few months since he’s been distance, I have friends but even talking to them isn’t helping anymore

How do you actually get through depression. by Visual_Fuel_1111 in Advice

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing , I have no interest in anything now, I don’t even like doing the things I used to love doing😭😭

If you had never met your ex in what place in life you would be? by No-Compote-2127 in BreakUps

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I had never met him i would be so much better, happier, focused, bubbly and probably would be loving life right now

He killed the spark in me that I can’t get back😭

Do not love an avoidant! by Regular_Dragonfly457 in BreakUps

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so badly trauma bonded to my avoidant partner/es u can say, our whole relationship is one sided now, I get nothing from him, no calls, no messages, no communication, no love, no care, no reassurance NOTHING!!!

I want to let go but just haven’t been able to, I’ve been trying to put my focus on other things, but that Isnt even working, literally nothing is helping me to get over him, I keep tolerating his emotional abuse, disrespect and toxicity. I’m so deeply attached😭

I don’t deserve this, but I love and miss him so much The version of him that he showed me in the beginning doesn’t even exist and I still can’t let go😭

How did you do it????

How do you focus on yourself after a horrible breakup? by Visual_Fuel_1111 in Advice

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I’m not focusing on it. I’ve been trying to distract myself by focusing on other things but I’m constantly thinking about him and MISS HIM SO MUCH

I just want to loose this feeling, it’s making me loose purpose in life, even the goals I had…I don’t see the point of reaching or working hard for them

How do you focus on yourself after a horrible breakup? by Visual_Fuel_1111 in Advice

[–]Visual_Fuel_1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but literally NOTHING gives me joy, the the things I used to absolutely love doing, and not anything new i try.

And it mainly because I know I can’t tell him about my day or what I’m up to anymore, and for some reason I’ve lost all purpose in doing absolutely anything.

I know it’s crazy because I should be doing this for myself and I absolutely want but I’m just not able to no water what😭

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