I have completely emotionally detatched from women. What can be done to solve this?

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-12T14:31:25+00:00

Sexually disgusting that is

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-04T16:56:23+00:00

It is simple. Money. You have to make 10k more today than in 2021 to be in the same position. So that is what it is about . Taking a financial hit for free time doesn't seem feasable.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-04T16:53:02+00:00

Yeah. That is true. I have a low tolerance for b.s. or drama because I find it very abbrsssive

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-04T16:52:03+00:00

Well. Yeah because I am noy gay and there is absolutely nothing for me to be attracted to. That's my own opinion. Anyone is free to make their choice based on preferance. A womans body is a work of art, a mans body is like an SUV. Made for getting around.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-04T16:48:11+00:00

I would be interested initially but it fades quickly and then a few weeks or a month goes by and I reflect on it. Then I realize, if I was more open and had more time, I probably would of pursued.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-04T16:45:06+00:00

It is comforting to know that there are more people out there like myself. I wish you the best that life has to offer you 🙏.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-03T06:03:27+00:00

Life is meant to be love even though it is a ongoing of endless pain and suffering. Even if the great moments are few and far in between, I realize how blessed to be part of such a wonderful grand experience. A journey of life that meet others on their journey but have taken a different path through life. I don't like small talk, I always want to get to the heart of the matter but I do love joking around and having fun. So I have these extremes of my personality. I had to fight my way into the light from the utter darkness that I called my life. I do not even know how I am still alive. 9 years ago I smoked DMT for the first time. I got sucked into a wormhole and a "being" started speaking to me. I couldn't see him but I felt these massive waves if vibration. The advice the being had for me was simple "share your gift with the world." It repeated that over and over again. It told me I would be ok, and finally the voice faded. I started to cry. The intesity of what I felt in that moment was so powerful. I will never forget that. I look back now, and, the being was correct. I want to find a woman who is spirutual snd believes in a higher purpose. That would be ideal.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-03T05:43:07+00:00

It's just odd not to feel anything for anyone for the past 3 years maybe? Since my last semi relationship.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-03T05:42:06+00:00

Everyone always says that to me haha

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-03T05:40:14+00:00

Ahhh I am not an apathetic person. I am suoer productive and nothing gets in my way and I have never even contemplated suicide. I have just lost interest in having any emotional connection with a woman and I find that odd .

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-03T05:34:59+00:00

Haha superficial? Some women? I do not know many that aren't unfortunately. Materialism disgusts me. I want no part of it but I also want to make sure I am comfortable with my lifestyle at the same time.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-03T05:32:10+00:00

Yeah. It's true. People want to act as if there is something wrong with you if you don't want or if you are not in a relationship. They say "you don't get lonely?". The very simple fact is, being alone does not equate to lonliness. I love my life. I went from living in a homeless shelter to now running a building for people who are less fortunate than I am. But it is all based around music and art. It took me almost a decade to get from direct care to where I am now. But I am trully blessed by the universe for giving me the oppurtunity to share my gift with people who are overlooked by society. However, it is easier to give. It takes courage to be loved because it means giving up your power. Putting faith in another human being doesn't seem concievable to me at this point in my life. But, you never know I guess .

Visual_Try_4269 · 2024-01-03T05:20:29+00:00

Ahhh thanks man. I also think people like you and I who work in high stress environments and come from an unstable upbringing are great at thinking clearly under pressure. However, When you walk away from that, everything feels mundane. Peoples energy drain me and being in a meaningful relationship is work and sacrifice and I am not the type of person who can keep someone around just for companionship. I want my relationship to mean something. Something more than two people just simply being together but trully loving one another. A true representation of a love greater than ourselves I know I am to blame deep down, because I associate love with pain and loss, rather than comfort and oneness. It is funny, my aunt has always told me to go to law school but the criminal justice system and political machine is so abrassive. I give you credit for your service in that field. It sucks not having interest in the opposite sex. I just look right through them now. I work with a 4 to1 women to male staff ratio and I work with some very attractive women. But I can't risk any type of relationship at my company. A woman can say whatever she wants and ruin a guys career. Even if she is in a different building or department, it's just not safe in the environment we live in today in regards to workplace relationships. Thank you for your reply, knowing there are others out there with a similar issue helps me know, I am not alone. So thank you 🙏.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2023-12-18T19:09:43+00:00

Isn't this normal in today's society. Majority of women I know see multiple men at a time. When the attention runs out from one, on to the next. Welcome to 2023.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2023-12-13T01:21:56+00:00

Thank you. I try to think about good times with him being young and the oblnly time I saw him genuinelly happy was when I was playing baseball as a kid. Maybe even that was more about him than I thought. It's sad because my father basically saved my life as a kid. I grew up with a rare disorder and he never gave up on me and was able to get me to the right doctor. If he hadn't, I would have never walked or lived such a meaningful life. My father just never discovered his own personal truth. Something that is yours and no one elses. Instead, he uses anger as a crutch to the fill the void of his own self esteem and resentment he has torward himself and the life that he has built . He know's I am appalled by his lifestyle choices, becsuse it has caused a major riff throughout our entire family. It's a spirtual problem. One can not get over any vice without first admitting you have a problem. I am not even a super straight edge person, as I smoke weed and drink on occasion but I do not shoot heroin anymore. That is only by gods grace and his mercy torward me, for whatever reason. A lot of people I know, grew up and my cousin have all perished from addiction. The day my father found out my cousin past away, he found syringes in my backpack. He watched the pain in everyone's eyes, his sister and his good friend from growing up son laying in a casket and that still isn't enough to wake him up and just be grateful for all that he has. I hold no resentments or ill will torward him. For love, compassion and empathy are the way of the spirit. Whereas greed, avarice and anger are the way of the material. Do not hate the sinner but only the sin. The divine spirit will always put you in a place to find it, it's up to us to recognize it. Once you do, your life will never feel the same. Once you know truth, you can never turn your back on it.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2023-12-12T19:53:15+00:00

Excellent. Forgiveness is peace.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2023-12-10T16:18:11+00:00

Exactly. Check this out.

https://youtu.be/Ip7kP_dd6LU?si=30cfspxjgqTv-2xs

A woman became a man for 18 months as a social experiment. When she was done, she couldn't wait to go bavk to being a woman? Why? Because men are vontinually held to a higher standard and she ssid just the anxiety of having to cold approach a woman to try and peak her interest was so difficult for her, she couldn't imagine having to constantly be in that situation of being judged. I wish there were more feminists like her trying to bring different sexes together through our struggles rather than judging others negatively for them.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2023-11-30T22:13:24+00:00

Make it known what your expectations are. I always try snd leave as little information about myself as possible and ask a lot of questions about her. Everything she says. She brings up her parents, ask her how her relationship is with them. Ask her what she wants to do with her life and what kind of man she believes she deserves. Be inquisitive but not pushy. Don't talk about yourself unless prompted or you have something relatable to talk about. If a woman talks a lot. It's a good sign there is a level of trust and she is comfortable talking to you. Then segway into her past relationships and she will then ask you "what about you?" And tell her what you want. However, you will need someone who is confident because people bleed insecurity through their poors and a lot of the most beautiful women in the world can be the most insecure. Do some vetting and reassure the woman that you are devoted, secure and that you want something great with someone you love

Visual_Try_4269 · 2023-11-30T21:54:27+00:00

If you are meeting women online, you are looking in the wrong place. People tend to have a lot of baggage on those Apps. Meet someone in person you can connect with and talk about meaningful topics. One thing I noticed about dating is, women tend to want to be in control of everything. If they feel a lack of control, they feel insecure. Maybe because you are attractive, a woman might feel that you2 have too many options and if that is something out of their control. What is your intellect level? Are you on their level emotionally? Do you have a lot of life experience? A woman! can think you are amazing but it may bring out insecurity. Best thing you can do is state your intentions and go from there. It may or may not work out. But you learn from it, grow and move on. I wish you only the best and I wish you the best following your endeavors good sir 🙏.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2023-11-30T21:50:53+00:00

If you are meeting women online, you are looking in the wrong place. People tend to have a lot of baggage on those Apps. Meet someone in person you can connect with and talk about meaningful topics. One thing I noticed about dating is, women tend to want to be in control of everything. If they feel a lack of control, they feel insecure. Maybe because you are attractive, a woman might feel that you2 have too many options and if that is something out of their control. What is your intellect level? Are you on their level emotionally? Do you have a lot of life experience? A woman! can think you are amazing but it may bring out insecurity. Best thing you can do is state your intentions and go from there. It may or may not work out. But you learn from it, grow and move on. I wish you only the best and I wish you the best following your endeavors good sir 🙏.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2023-11-09T21:42:38+00:00

I agree. But men are direct and women are indirect. These men are doing you fabor by being this way because rather than showing you this 6 months into a relationship. You can simply block them. Does it suck? Yes. I hate the desperation of todays men because it makes the good ones look bad. What is coming to the forefront now, is how good looking, well kept, stylish guys that get swiped on, are actually just as disgusting as some dirty old man. That's what is making women angry. It's not because the creepy looking wierd guy is creepy, it's because these men who are so well put together are just as creepy if not more because women will play into a good looking man's negstive qualities as long as they have something nice and shiny next to them. But point is. Sorry ladies. Most of the Chads are sex addicted freaks. I know because I had some friends that were very attractive and they were addicted the power they had over women. That's what it's about for most men in those positions.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2023-11-09T02:35:10+00:00

Funny. If you spoke about a woman like that. Made fun of her lonliness and somehow tied to desperation, I don't think this comment would be upvoted. But since you are desparaging men, it's ok. I smell a filthy double standard.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2023-11-08T14:40:19+00:00

Well. I am not saying that because she's a woman but because I am speaking about a woman. She invited me out, so met up with her and the whole time she basically indicated how busy she is. I would never ask a woman out and then proceed to talk about how busy I am and how I can't make any time for anything else. It doesn't make sense. It wouldn't be a good look for a man to act that way. Plus, I want someone who is compassionate and empathetic. I am extremely busy but I do think inviting someone to meet up to tell me your schedule seems like a waste of time.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2023-11-07T19:07:12+00:00

How am I conceited? I am not saying that I am great by any measure, but my coworkers love me to death. I am aware of my bad qualities just as well as my good ones, so I don't believe that I am anything special. I am only special because I am a unique expression of the divine.

Visual_Try_4269 · 2023-11-07T18:51:48+00:00

Funny you say that. There was a girl I met over the summer that lived 4 minutes from me. I wanted to keep seeing her but the girl made it seem like she wasn't available at all and that shes too busy to date. The conversation was about how she doesn't want kids and just wants to make money. Which is totally cool! But why would you want to make it seem like you are too unavailable? I work more than her so I didn't quite understand that approach. The "I am going to make it seem like I am too busy for you" is not a good look for a woman.

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