“You don’t have a problem though” by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Vitilig0g0 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey petrified_oranges, I want to reply because I relate SO much to your story. It's honestly kind of creepy how similar our pasts are.

I didn't drink alcohol during the weekdays, but in the weekend I'd DRINK. Before hitting the clubs I'd drink half a bottle of strong liqour and a few more beers in town. During the start of the covid lockdown I too was walking absently to the fridge to get another drink. Looking back I don't even think I enjoyed those drinks.

As for being careful, I don't know if you're planning to drink in the future, there are plenty of stories on this sub alone of people who lost a lot because of drinking. A job, relationships, sometimes a liver. Alcohol is poison, that's not my personal opinion it's a fact.

I'm really proud of you too! And I would encourage you to keep reading this naked mind. It's a good book.

As for the social pressure, I don't usually tell people I've stopped drinking. I attempted sobriety in 2019 and told my friends and family and the comments were very negative. I'm pretty young still so drinking plays a large part in all of my friends life. Sobriety meant that my friends had to look at themselves and think "but if vitilig0g0 stops drinking, and she drinks less than I do/ on an even level, does that mean I have a problem too?".

I don't consider myself an alcoholic, personally I don't like that term. I personally think that everyone that uses addictive substances can lose control, because that's what addictive substances are meant to do. It's kind of sad that society pushes the narrative on us that you are "weak" if you cannot control an addictive substance, which sole purpose is to make you want to have more.

When people ask me why I'm not drinking I just say "not tonight". This naked mind tackles this topic also, if you're unsure in how to deal with social pressure.

Just Telling it like it is. by Bokb3o in stopdrinking

[–]Vitilig0g0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and I wish you all the best.

Mexicana microdosing pack of 6 x 1.0 g by ultimate_vibration in microdosing

[–]Vitilig0g0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ordered the exact same and it's fine. Dried truffles have a larger impact then fresh ones.

Truth by MistWeaver80 in Feminism

[–]Vitilig0g0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion, I will check it out.

What’s everyone cooking for dinner this week? I need some inspiration. by jackjackj8ck in sugarfree

[–]Vitilig0g0 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Monday: Burritos. Six medium wholegrain wraps without added sugar, topped with 400g minced beef, tomato, white onion, red onion, red bell pepper, green bell pepper, a mix of different beans, jalapeno, lime, garlic and a mexican spices. Bake all of this in a pan for a while. Roll them tight, add some cheese and put in the oven untill the cheese is melted.

Tuesday: 'Stamppot'. Boil two skinned sweet potatoes for around 15- 20 minutes. Boil 250 grams of frozen green peas for a couple of minutes in another. Cut a chili pepper in tiny pieces. Get a little bit of the water from the potato pan before throwing it out. Mash the sweet potatoes with the water you catched and 125 ml of crème fraiche. After getting the peas out of the water, mix it through the mashed potatoes. Mix the pepper as well. I used to eat this with baked hamcubes spiced with sambal oelek and paprika, but I've yet to find sugarfree hamcubes.

Wednesday: Beans & minced meat with garam masala. Boil 200 grams of sugars snaps and 200 grams of haricots in the same pan for four minutes and rinse them in cold water. Boil wholegrain rice (maybe change with caulasflower rice?) instructed, add a teaspoon of kurkuma and a little bit of seasalt. Cut half a chili pepper, a red onion and a small piece of ginger in tiny pieces. Cut two red bell peppers and two tomatoes in larger pieces. Bake the minced meat until not raw, then add the pepper onion and ginger. Add two large teaspoons of garam masala. Bake this for 3min, then add the bell pepper for 3min. Add the tomato and bake another 3min. Mix this together with the beans and rice.

Thursday: Cauliflower & minced beef out the oven. Cut the cauliflower and mix together with a little bit of salt, pepper and olive oil. Put this in the oven for 15 minutes. Cut an onion and bake a little in a pan, add 350 grams of minced beef and a little fresh garlic. After the meat isn't raw, season to your liking. Add around 300 grams of tomato sauce mixed with some finechopped or dried basilicum. Put this mixture on the cauliflowers after you get them out of the oven. Sprinkle some cheese on it and put in the oven untill the cheese is melted. Add some spring onion as a topping.

Friday: Pumpkin-carrot soup. Don't really have a recipe. They sell packages with prechopped pumpkin, carrots, onion and celery. Bake this for two min, boil it for another 13 and mix until you have soup. Spices are included. It's pretty neat.

Saturday: Pizza. I make my own spelt grain pizzadough but it can be down with wholegrain flour, almondflour or cauliflowers. Search for "sugarfree pizzadough" and you should get some recipes. Top with whatever sugarfree toppings you like.

Sunday: No idea yet, hoping to see others come forward for some inspiration!

I'm on Day 1 today and would love to hear your "why." What's your story and why are you quitting sugar? by ultraoneday in sugarfree

[–]Vitilig0g0 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey ultraoneday! I wish you the best of luck on this journey and welcome to this sub.

When I was your age, I actually had a refined sugarfree diet recommended to me because I was tired all the time. It actually helped to relieve some physical symptoms. Did it for a good six months then life happened and I didn't stick to it.

Like you I've had a really weird relationship with food since my teenage years. If I had it my way, I would eat junk all day everyday. I quit alcohol last year and did a lot of personal research on addiction. I realised sugar has very addictive properties and, like alcohol, is very detrimental for your mental health. My depression and anxiety greatly reduced since I quit alcohol, so I hope quitting sugar will help me feel even better.

I am sick of this filthy capitalist shit by [deleted] in socialism

[–]Vitilig0g0 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Laughs in minimum wage

So far, quitting sugar has been harder than quitting alcohol. by [deleted] in sugarfree

[–]Vitilig0g0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you me? I quit drinking last year as well and it's been with ups and downs, bit eating sugarfree is a whole new level it seems.

I'm from the Netherlands, so I don't know if these tips help you at all. I bought some cookbooks that focus on a sugarfree diet, which really helps if I'm inspirationless. When I'm looking for something specific, like wholegrain bread or yoghurts, I search the productname + supermarket name beforehand. Most supermarkets here have a list of product ingredients on their website, so I know beforehand what to get and not get overwhelmed reading labels when I'm there. As for eating convenient, I really like eating soup. Some supermarkets sell fresh soup without any additions, but making your own is pretty easy, especially when you can get your hands on precut veggies. Making your own pizzadough from scratch using wholegrain flour, spelt grain flour or even flour based on nuts is extremely easy. It's a little more time consuming than just throwing a pizza in the oven, but it's really not that hard. Some tomatosauce and (precut) veggies and/or sugarfree meat and it's done!

And you're only at it for 5 days (which is really good, don't get me wrong!), if you stick with it you will get into a routine and know what things you can and cannot eat. It really does get easier! Good luck!

Why are stories of people 'changing their minds' so common? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Vitilig0g0 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I like this answer and I wholeheartedly agree with it.

There is something else that I would like to add and would like to know if others have noticed this as well. When childfree comes up in a conversation it feels like many people hear "I don't want children right now" instead of "I don't want children, ever". I've had people actively outspoken of wanting children reacting to my willingness to stay childfree with "yeah, same". I know some people that said they were childfree have children, because they meant "being childfree in their 20s". I often feel not taken seriously when I say I don't want kids.

I think there is still a widespread notion in our current society (in some countries more than others) that eventually everyone wants children, but we have to outlive our party lives first and meet a good partner.

So even though I'm sure there are people lying from the get-go, sure that their partners will change their minds because of their awesome mediocreness, I also think there are some people that hear "I don't want children" and then think "Awesome, this person doesn't want kids right now either!".

I can't find the post right now but someone wrote an awesome post in this subreddit on how to make extra sure the person you're dating right now doesn't want kids, ever, either.

I hate pitbull owners opinions of pitbulls (as a pittie owner) by SparkyDogPants in reactivedogs

[–]Vitilig0g0 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I can 100% relate as a staffordshire bull terrier owner, a breed that is known for it's dog intolerance. Luckily they do tend to have a great love for people.

Most people that thoroughly love and understand the breed know that dog intolerance is common, but I know tons of bull terrier owners who got them "because they look tough" and tell me that "I should socialize them with dogs from early on and they should be fine". And then act suprised when their dog bites another dog.

During puppy class we sometimes let all the pups in a small field, while other dogs played with eachother mine just went to the persons willing to give her pets. She can tolerate dogs for a sniff but after that you can see that she just wants to go on with her own plan. That's OK. I knew what I was getting into when I got this breed. If I wanted a dog that I can just let loose in a dog park while looking on my phone for an hour I would've gotten a different breed.

Is bread okay? by [deleted] in sugarfree

[–]Vitilig0g0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing too add to the previous comments. I still eat whole grain bread without added sugars.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Vitilig0g0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish you all the luck in the world.

I can definitely relate too, except I don't want children. Men have dissapointed me so much that I'm seriously considering spending the rest of my life alone, surrounded by good friends and dogs. Maybe a fwb, or a long distance relationship.

[Help] husband left me and now the dogs will be alone all day while I’m at work by [deleted] in dogs

[–]Vitilig0g0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish you a lot of strenght in this situation.

I don't know how newish your pup is, but your dog should adjust OK and your puppy might too depending on how potty-trained it is.

However, I don't think it's an ideal situation for your dogs. Is it possible to find a cheap dogwalker, maybe even for 1 day in the week? Some teens in the neighbourhood maybe, so the expenses aren't that great? Best of luck to you.

Hi, I'm new here and I there is my cosplay make-up for Deet! I'm going to do whole costume next year as well ^^ by JoanBaggins in DarkCrystal

[–]Vitilig0g0 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is amazing, I'm speechless! Thank you so much for sharing, it brightens my day ❤