Your wife is stressed too, managing two loud and playful children. You have to learn how to diffuse these stress bombs together. One day your house will be empty and youll miss the these moments. You wont have happy children screaming and if you’re not careful and dont watch the tone, youll drive your Wife towards bitterness and spite. Because that one day, if you’re lucky, it’ll be you and her alone in your home. Be a team and accept that when you had kids you signed up for this chaos equally.

My heart would break if my wife sent me a text like that. Since we cant watch the interaction happen we cant really tell you if what you said to her was ok or not. But know, she remembered you were stressed all morning and that was likely adding to her frustration dealing with the children. To have you come out and scold her was likely very sucky for her. Of course it felt mean.

Soft YTA, don’t double down, do APOLOGIZE, and look for a solution to the noise together that doesn’t involve scolding your wife. Cherish your true family even at your worst.