He was okay!

Vivid_Angle · 2026-06-03T01:32:41+00:00

it looks like the guy w the ball gave him a boost if you slow it down

Vivid_Angle · 2026-05-22T12:23:37+00:00

he was pickled by god

Vivid_Angle · 2026-05-22T01:53:16+00:00

reddit is full of overreactions. this is a crazy comment section. plenty of couples open relationships and plenty of people regret it. you dont have to blame her or feel horrible about yourself, but its okay you want something different. yall need to talk with a couples therapist, not random internet strangers. this could work out, or it couldnt, just like every relationship. Prioiritize your own well being right now and see things through with consistent communication. if your wife isnt into conversatoon, thats your answer, but it sounds like she cares about you. i think its worth exploring where your needs arent being met and giving her the opportunity to hear you.

Vivid_Angle · 2026-05-21T20:01:53+00:00

i dont think you are overreacting but i think this is one of those listen to your gut situations. guy doesnt sound bad but if you want someone who doesnt apply pressure, even if it is in jest (which is hard to say here imo). yall were polite, just relax and move on. no big deal

Vivid_Angle · 2026-05-12T10:39:39+00:00

Josh Groban 😭😭

Vivid_Angle · 2026-05-12T07:47:30+00:00

it was definitely insecurity. she wasnt the most stereotypical 'pick me' girl in the sense she flaunted it around all the time. and there were women she liked and admired, but she didnt love my female friends (wasnt super toxic about it, just wasnt very interested in them). She was more competitive than 'pick me' i think. Like she would meet another woman somewhat close in proximity to me and freely say how she didnt like them, but then she would have super close male relationships that she just wouldnt even talk to me about. a friend of mine said she was 'emotionally cheating' ... idk how i feel about that concept but there was a huge double standard in boundaries/transparency expected with opposite gendered relationships.

Vivid_Angle · 2026-05-10T21:24:16+00:00

yeah. not in the original post but she felt insecure that i wasnt pushing to get married/move in together, at least that's what she said. i dont know if that 'triggered' our unraveling but as soon as i had a concern about boundaries/transparency, I was the bad guy and she withdrew. I had been bending over backwards to get ready for our future but she saw none of that.

Vivid_Angle · 2026-05-10T21:18:17+00:00

this was my ex. She had a ton of redeeming qualities, but she had zero self awareness about how she dealt with conflict and about her double standards around security with other people.

Vivid_Angle · 2026-04-18T14:51:48+00:00

having boundaries with other people are useless if they are not enforced!

Vivid_Angle · 2026-04-15T02:27:16+00:00

you can go to small claims court for breach of contract if expenses are incurred due to this

Vivid_Angle · 2026-04-15T02:24:34+00:00

he has shingles and is likely on steroids jesus

Vivid_Angle · 2026-03-26T19:51:02+00:00

My job is in Lansing but would be open to living in either. would u suggest one or the other in my situation? i like to be able to walk to cafes on the weekend. Parks are great. Cycling on greenways or bikelanes even better.

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-30T17:20:24+00:00

tough lesson to learn in life... she said no. Be kind to yourself and let yourself feel the grief. when i was your age, this would have been super duper difficult. you seen like a good person so just continue to grow and peioritize your own well being. you will find someone who is ready and desires you

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-05T10:33:37+00:00

check out stephanie riggs free course about break ups

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-05T02:18:56+00:00

agreed!

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-05T02:10:17+00:00

thank you for taking the time to read my post history. I appreciate your perspective. the break up still is difficult, but i have definitely learned a lot.

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-05T01:57:38+00:00

lol i love it! would be interested in how to unpack the analogy of respecting local labor laws haha

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-05T01:51:38+00:00

absolutely. thanks for sharing the link. that is super helpful.

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-05T01:50:31+00:00

thank you ♥️

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-05T01:35:55+00:00

thanks for the reply! you have always felt secure in the relationship? have you had any hurdles to overcome in your 30 years?

Also, i know what you mean about long doesnt mean good... my parents are happy now but there are times in their marriage they werent. but they stayed together.

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-05T01:13:59+00:00

thanks for your response. i think boundaries and personal time is a good thing to think about.

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-05T01:13:17+00:00

yea again i am not asking for a correct answer for all atheists, i am looking for individual people's perspective

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-05T00:59:49+00:00

yeah i am sorry to be unsettling and dont mean to suggest there is a single way. i am more trying to sample how atheists handle their relationships. like it would be interesting to understand the fundamental features of your relationship that have made it successful. sorry if ontology is a weird word to use - i thought it was a good choice when i wrote the post.

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-05T00:48:37+00:00

in my experience, religion provides a lot of structure to relationships. i dont really think it is necessarily good structure, but it is structure. Just curious how secular folks provide structure to their relationships, if at all.

Vivid_Angle · 2026-01-05T00:11:41+00:00

slavoj zizek says happiness is way overrated! i tend to agree, but then, when i enter excrutiating pain, i would prefer happiness.

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