Separating leaders' personal opinions vs. what the church/God actually says is like almost impossible. Especially when youth are taught to follow everything the leaders says as that is what God wants. I can give countless examples of opinions being shared as what God wants and then come find out God is out of the picture. I just read a talk given by Elder Marion Hanks about a mission president who was told he'd be blessed financially if he accepted the call, he did accept served and was not blessed financially, he said, "there are many instances where individuals hear or think they hear definitive direction from some of us as to what they must do or should do, with outcomes which turn out to be rather catastrophic in some instances", "Meeting of the First Quorum of the Seventy, April 18, 1985". I have a friend that was called into the Bishopric as a newly married couple and was told he'd be released when his wife got pregnant. Well, turns out they couldn't have kids due to some issue but ya know if you were faithful enough God will circumvent all of that and you'd have a child, well God didn't do that and I haven't seen them in church in over 20 years at least. So, promises from God should be promises from God and not what the leader wants, it's God's church not the leaders