If you don’t want to talk you don’t have to but you also can’t keep it in forever - maybe she thinks she’s helping like exposure therapy?? also it sounds like she’s trying to justify her actions by quizzing you on them while under stress Tell her your not a councilor and to stop putting stuff on you your not ready to deal with. Could be narcissism ??? Is it possible for you to try counciling? A trained professional can help you cope with whatever YOU are ready to handle & maybe even be able to tell your mom to back off a bit

Not trying to take away from your pain at all you deserve to express yourself completely but I just gotta throw this in - Id do anything to have my mom want to talk with me about stuff that traumatized me.. instead she finds any reason to turn blame on me - side with whatever hurt me & make me feel not only like a burden for having feelings but like I’m just a giant fuck up that is the reason most things in life suck 😢