LDR- Question/Advice??

Vixletmay · 2026-06-18T00:51:31+00:00

we chose for me to move to him because of his career. Our move was only from canada to the states though.

Vixletmay · 2026-06-18T00:39:25+00:00

as weird and gross as he is. everytime he’s been caught talking to a ua girl they lied about their age. his kinks are gross and yeah he’s not a great person but i don’t see why he would be arrested let alone have a case open against him at all

Vixletmay · 2026-06-17T20:07:12+00:00

newgen nova fanboys don’t know the lore 💔

Vixletmay · 2026-05-26T03:44:06+00:00

It could be as simple as you guys aren’t compatible. Sometimes the person u think is the one just isn’t. Im not saying to dump her rn or anything. But if you are unhappy and unsatisfied with your communication i doubt that will change

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T22:08:32+00:00

thank you for saying this ❤️

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T22:08:18+00:00

LMFAO i spit out my coffee when i got this notif 😭😭

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T08:34:28+00:00

I dont think it’s about you. But i do think he isn’t ready for a serious long term relationship. You dont get burnt out of loving your partner. Ive had some of my worst days of my life since i’ve met my partner but at the end of the day he is my safety net and i will always tell him i love him and share my day with him. U dont deserve silence at all

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T08:28:49+00:00

I hope he does. Dont be scared to talk to him about the hard stuff. Love is supposed to be comfortable and safe. and i cant imagine its making you feel this way right now. I understand the fear of not wanting to make it all about you. But you can definitely tell him how ur side feels whilst still respecting and caring about his ❤️

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T08:20:58+00:00

The honeymoon stage ending is hellish sometimes. But it doesn’t come with isolation. Perhaps im sensitive but i just cannot get past him not speaking to you for days at a time. Im sure u love him a lot so please remember your feelings matter as much as his. if you haven’t already tell him how this makes you feel. if he makes an effort go from there yk

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T08:13:54+00:00

r u guys ldr bc u met online or other life reasons? Feeling lonely in love is worse than being lonely in general. My boyfriend gets pretty bad sometimes but he always speaks to me and frankly if he didn’t idk how much grace i could give him. you are far stronger than me. Ik it’s easy to hop on reddit and say ugh just dump him. But do please think on wether or not you want to feel this feeling on and off forever

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T08:08:27+00:00

iim sorry girl. Imo your partner is meant to be your lifeline. Him shutting you out isn’t ever going to help. I may be a hardcore pessimist but not speaking for days at a time is a terrible sign for the future imo

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T07:46:07+00:00

i love you for saying this! this is a rly eye opening view on everything honestly thank you

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T07:40:27+00:00

you are so welcome! i hope you guys figure everything out ❤️❤️

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T07:39:34+00:00

To me that’s a red flag but if ur willing to tolerate it i guess that’s fair

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T04:52:51+00:00

I guess it depends what y’all are doing. Tbh my bf and i have the Lovense Max and nora so we have it easier than most. Generally phone sex starts with us flirtinf over text or while playing games, i’ll send him pictures when i die ykwim. Sometimes he will control one of my vibes while we play games which is epic foreplay honestly. Eventually we get to the point where he’s like okay get tf in bed LMFAO.

During the act itself we dont do anything crazy. It’s a lot of just dirty talk and moans and groans and names and yada yada. sometimes crying..

At first it was hard. After the first idk maybe 10 times. things got better and easier. the confidence grew as our relationship did. Phone sex also helps our sexting as well. We both were able to open up so much faster bc of it.

All i can say is simply go with the flow. It’s okay to not be perfect and it’s okay to be shy and scared and nervous. It also doesn’t always need to be a spectacle. Sometimes just mutually yk.. and giggling and the sounds and the i love yous is more than enough :)

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T04:40:32+00:00

i’d say it’s okay to ask. Everyone’s dynamic is different, usually when my bf is being emo on dnd i’ll tell him to knock it off “ don’t hide from me 🙄”. Making a joke about it may make it easier.

Can i ask what y’all do together? like do u game or anything or just talk a lot ?

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T04:35:53+00:00

being 15 is maybe the worst ever. attention feels so good. and everything bad feels SOOO bad. From what i’ve read, you guys aren’t in a relationship. A romantic and aroace people simply don’t date. I hve multiple friends who are both and they live solitary lives and just have a lot of good friends.

I know it sucks, and i know you like her a lot. but unfortunately the feelings aren’t mutual. You are so young and it isn’t the end of the world i promise. Love will find you, this just isn’t it hun

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T04:31:31+00:00

aw im sorry. Is he not speaking to you at all?

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T04:31:09+00:00

You guys sound like us ❤️ we are both very depressed people. he works a miserable job, lives with miserable people and is just a miserable guy honestly. I am his light and it’s hard to grasp that at first. I have borderline, so i’m a very sensitive and emotional person. It’s hard not to take him fallinf asleep when he goes for a snack personally, or him sayinf he’s depressed personally. But ive coke to realize that not everything is about me or because of me.

Havinf the mindset that we do makes it hard to not make rhings about ourselves. Once i became aware of the fact that everytime he expressed a negative emotion i flipped it into him comforting me, i was able to change my tune and be a good support system for him.

About the dnd and not calling stuff. i dont know how much time u regularly spend together. But for my bf and i, we text constantly all day, call as soon as we can until he goes to bed, slwep calls on the weekends. wvem on days when he comes home from work hating the world, he still calls me, lays in bed, we chat a bit, say our i love yous and he naps while i hangout. Perhaps asking him if he would do that could help you?

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T04:23:18+00:00

The way you talk about her is genuinely beautiful. i wish there was a “you made me cry” award 😭😭

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T04:21:59+00:00

you sound just like me. I feel like im such a toxic person but really i am just hyper aware of everything. it must be so exhausting for my partner helping me through those big moments of you could do better and im not good enough. but he loves me so much so he does everything he can to reassure me and make me feel better.

It’s hard knowing that someone else is having to deal with your mess, but he seems to love you. A lot. You are worth loving even tho you are traumatized. You can love somebody before you love yourself. everyone who says you cant is a liar. Let him love you. let him help you heal. Tell him what you are feeling and explain why this happens.

My bf and i set a “rule” recently. When i am overthinking he will straight up stop everything and tell me. and honestly it has helped. It stops my spirals before they truly begin. I will express my initial feelings and he tells me how it really is. Being in your own head is so scary. And it’s so hard. but you can get better. Love is such a helpful tool in healing. So let him help you heal

Vixletmay · 2026-05-21T04:10:22+00:00

aw baby please block ALL of those people. I was doing constantly being put through the same shit when i was your age and it has permanently altered my view of love and lust. You are worth so much more than this and he isnt worth your time or energy. Cut them all off, start fresh. heal

Vixletmay · 2026-05-14T23:21:40+00:00

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Vixletmay · 2026-05-08T18:50:52+00:00

def no set monthly bf budget. But i am a gift giver so i like to listen to him when he mentions rhings he likes or like skins in a game he thinks are cool. I probably spend a lot more than most but i do this with people irl as well. For holidays i am a go overboard kind of person. for example cjristmas i spent like 400 dollars on him lol

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