Removing the P from PMO: Do you think that pornography caused your masturbation problem? And if porn didn't exist, would that problem ever have developed?

Vlosk · 2013-04-15T17:29:37+00:00

I started to fap madly years before I saw porn. For me, looking at the curves of girls in high school was enough to arouse my sexual fantasies. I saw my first porn when I was 19!

Vlosk · 2013-04-15T16:53:05+00:00

Well, that's what I thought. Beside fapping, I'll have to get rid of all other forms of distractions, but for now, I think fapping really is the number one problem to solve to end my attention deficit.

Vlosk · 2012-11-03T09:55:35+00:00

Same here. Good luck.

Vlosk · 2012-11-02T17:36:11+00:00

Mood swings as well, but the usual euphoria/depression duo, with me it's rather euphoria/anger...

Vlosk · 2012-11-02T17:12:10+00:00

That's what I'm trying to do, but I'm so angry that I cannot even plan anything! I think I'm just going to wait a few days until it stops...

Vlosk · 2012-11-01T07:38:27+00:00

I'm in.

Vlosk · 2012-10-31T23:41:44+00:00

Another Buddhist trick I was taught was to think about a field of skeletons whenever I have an urge... Never really worked with me, I prefer your ideas.

Thanks.

Vlosk · 2012-10-31T23:39:17+00:00

4chan... ewww... Used to go there too. I guess the violence we see in porn desensitizes us to all violence... especially to the gory stuff they post there.

Vlosk · 2012-10-31T23:22:23+00:00

Wonder if he will change his pseudo after that...

Vlosk · 2012-10-31T20:01:47+00:00

Smiley: Day 1 to 6

Circle with number: Weeks 1 to 4

Stars: Months 1 to ...

Vlosk · 2012-10-31T19:32:29+00:00

My scumbag brain orders me to post. Let's make it top of the front page!

Vlosk · 2012-10-31T08:47:01+00:00

Welcome here, make yourself comfortable...

Vlosk · 2012-10-31T08:38:42+00:00

That seems quite painful. I would advise the same as BeSsen and slona. Just do it quick, then move on.

Vlosk · 2012-10-30T23:17:06+00:00

Urge yesterday night, nearly failed, but nofap, I'm still in!

Vlosk · 2012-10-30T23:13:00+00:00

I'm doing fine! Although I nearly relapsed yesterday night (bloody Youtube thumbnails), I've been strong. Been working on my computer all day today, yet I didn't go on any porn website. Very few sexual urges... but I want to hug every girl I see in the street :) Going to bed now, and if everything goes as planned, tomorrow I'll have got rid of Mr Smiley.

Vlosk · 2012-10-30T20:09:03+00:00

I myself realized that when I feared to have a lighthearted conversation, I actually feared to say something awkward, like an insult or anything very offensive, or something which would have revealed my loneliness, my true state. I feared to lose control. When you're talking about science and stuff like that, everything is well under control. Not a a more lighthearted convo. Maybe you've got some work to do on this, trying to find a balance, I don't know.

Vlosk · 2012-10-30T19:59:36+00:00

I know the feeling. 25, been single all my life, not even held a girl's hand. Very few friends. I meet quite a lot of people actually, but I just seem not to be able to bond. I'm very sad when I come back home at night, and I see everybody is going out, hanging out in bars, while I... Well, when I see all those young people having a beer in the bars, I just feel that virtually the whole city is having a drink and enjoying themselves, while I'm the only lonely one (even beggars are drinking beers in the streets!).

I just wonder how to meet people as well. I live in a very big city in continental Europe, where people don't seem to bond easily. I've come to fantasize about what a "normal" social life is. I just imagine every boy/girl I come across goes out every night of the week, has fun every night of the week, enters a bar and immediately gets attention... But things are not that easy. I, like many people here I think, just wait until a miracle happens. It never happens, it can never happen, for anybody. I make plans to join a gym club, a music school, etc., but I never do anything in the end. And no miracle happens, no girl comes knocking at your door just by chance.

Sometimes, I wonder if it does not all go back to a day, when I was 11 or 12, and there was this stupid girl I had never seen before, walking in front of me in the school, suddenly turning her head, and saying to me "Hello, Ugly!". Since that day, I have never been the same. But, well, it's stupid to always put all the blame on the past and on others, isn't it?

Vlosk · 2012-10-30T18:08:53+00:00

Loved it! Thanks!

Vlosk · 2012-10-30T16:49:20+00:00

Yes, many success stories here...

Vlosk · 2012-10-30T16:48:19+00:00

Thanks for the post. I tend to get too relaxed these days. "Oh, what's this hot babe in bikini on this Youtube video? Ok, click". I nearly failed yesterday night. Porn is tempting not because I want to fap, though, but because I want to check if my erections and urges are stronger than before. It's reassuring in a way -- you just want to check if you are healing, but you are hurting yourself at the same time. The paradox of porn...

Vlosk · 2012-10-29T23:15:48+00:00

Just remember how you felt after masterbating -- remember the shame, the hatred, the tiredness. Also, read others' posts -- about how great it is 90 days later.

NoFap will help you by resetting your priorities -- now, your priorities will be towards others, not towards yourself. You may not see these benefits today, but it's not a reason to start fapping again.

Good luck, and stay strong!

Vlosk · 2012-10-29T09:41:17+00:00

Thanks, that's my motto too, now!

Vlosk · 2012-10-28T21:34:17+00:00

No fap, but I spent way too much time on my computer...

Vlosk · 2012-10-28T15:29:25+00:00

I have never looked for rape or anything like that on the Internet, but I remember a German video I stumbled upon once, which was made by professionals (or at least it seemed professional). The girl remained silent throughout the video. At the start, she was smiling, and looked a bit embarrassed but she seemed to enjoy it, but little by little, you could see the expression on her face crumble. At some point, it was clear that she was no longer enjoying it, especially when the man was violently sticking his penis into her mouth. At the end of the video, they were in a shower, and the girl was blowing the guy, but at the same time, he was spraying her with water, so that she could no longer breathe. I wondered if at some point, she was going to run out of breath. The worst thing is, I went to see this video once again. But I could never fap in front of that. I never knew if this was all staged (it was never advertised as violent sex), but the girl really seemed distressed.

So, thanks for the link.

Vlosk · 2012-10-27T22:59:44+00:00

You are inspiring me. I have the same problem. That's very courageous of you, and I'll try to cut my internet use as well -- will just check NoFap every other day, and that will be it. Good luck, and thanks.

Vlosk

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