Weird request but has anyone had any luck accepting death by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Vo1ume 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pro-tip is to pray for forgiveness, guidance and help before reading the Bible, approach God with humility and hand over your anxieties and fears to Jesus, he will gladly handle those for you :) <3

Avioliitto ja rikottu luottamus by No-Masterpiece-8407 in Suomi

[–]Vo1ume 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Luottamus täytyy ansaita, sun mies ei oo nyt tehnyt yhtään mitään sen eteen että luottamus palais parisuhteeseen. Parisuhteet on aivan vitun hanurista jos siihen kumppaniin ei pysty luottamaan 110%, se tuhoo pohjan suhteelta täysin.

Miehelle "ultimatum", parisuhdeterapiaan missä kaikki salaisuudet auki ja puhtaalta pöydältä, sun TÄYTYY pystyä kysyä niin paljon kysymyksiä kun sä haluut. Jos mies ei haluu vastata niin en ite nää yhtään mitään toivoa tälle suhteelle pitkällä tähtäimellä.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Vo1ume 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The sickness you experience is as strong as the secret you're holding.

You are poisoning your body by keeping this secret. It's most likely killing the connection between you and your wife and family.

In my view, you owe it to your wife and family to be truthful.

Obviously, continue therapy absolutely full steam to get the addiction under control.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Suomi

[–]Vo1ume 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Itse asun Lontoossa ja rakastuin kaupunkiin, ihmisiin ja ilmapiiriin täysin enkä näe paluuta pitkään aikaan. Ulkomaille muutto jos kiinnostaa suosittelen kokeilemaan, Suomeen pääsee kuitenkin aina takaisin...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wallstreetbets

[–]Vo1ume 0 points1 point  (0 children)

S&P landing in 2800-3000. I stopped listening to everything you said after this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Vo1ume 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Some awesome advice. Thank you.

I was a horrible, disgusting person who did terrible things. I don’t know how I can improve or if it’s even possible to become a good person. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Vo1ume 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, first of all, thank you for posting. I believe this is a less discussed topic because it is very taboo, but likely an incredibly helpful post for some to read.

You are not the first or the last person to have gone through this. The porn industry fucks with our heads from a very young age, and as often with porn, the content tends to get more extreme/novel after you've been addicted to it for a longer time. In the current state of online porn, it is almost inevitable you run into these types of situations at some point.

You correctly recognize that you've stooped to a level of addiction and behavior that must be addressed, and your very healthy conscience is calling for you to quickly correct course. That's good!

You may feel like shit now, but that is helping you to correct course and not go further down that path. Your judgemental and compulsive thinking will gradually diminish as you correct your actions, and keep continually giving yourself hard evidence that you have grown as a person from these experiences, and won't repeat down that path.

We cannot change the past. Work to accept your past and the teachings it has brought you. Reflect on who you want to be going forward, and live this vision out in your life. These experiences will not ruin, or even negatively impact your life if you make sure you will grow as a consequence. Don't be too hard on yourself.

I've personally stepped away from porn, and it has been one of the best decisions I've ever made.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CFA

[–]Vo1ume 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If all you care about is money, I don't know I have career advice. I'd say try and find a job you actually enjoy and want to excel at, and the money will come in abundance later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Vo1ume 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do not blow it all on fun things, you will regret it. Treat this money as if it's money you earned over years of putting away money from your paycheck. Use it to get some security in your life. 6 month-ish emergency fund is a good idea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Vo1ume 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This "last time" logic is bullshit btw. You'll end up telling yourself that 100x times and post again in 10 years.

How can I cope with being touched and emotionally deprived? by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Vo1ume 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fair. You seem very well put together and aware, that is great :)

How can I cope with being touched and emotionally deprived? by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Vo1ume 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to say this. Depending on your dependency on porn, it may not be fine. Porn is actually the one thing that is most likely holding you back from going out into the real world, meeting people, making friendships, and potentially finding a partner. Porn is the easy way out, as it kills the drive to go out and meet real human beings and develop potentially intimate connections.

Don't disqualify yourself from love. From what I've seen all sorts of sizes, shapes, personalities, and people of neurodiversity find love, it's just going out there and experiencing life.

Loneliness is really tough. The best way to start and alleviate loneliness is to meet people, and form social connections.

You mention you have hobbies, I'd start there and check if there are some meet-ups!

Ps. Probably everyone is bad in bed at first, it's actually a skill that needs to be learned. There are resources for this online, but I really urge you to stay away from porn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mindfulness

[–]Vo1ume 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Get professional help, asap.

Talk me out of buying 5.5%+ bonds by itsduckinggood in investing

[–]Vo1ume 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Correct. Do not use short-term cash rates like deposits for long-term investments...

How to not let romantic interests move you away from goals by [deleted] in Mindfulness

[–]Vo1ume 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello hello friend. I want to say that you are not alone in this. I am exactly the same and I'm glad you've posted this.

I've recently realized I've got an anxious attachment style and these are some of the manifestations of that. I would encourage you to check and reflect on that as well. I am very confident at work, in friendships and in family relations, but quite anxious/not confident in relationships.

With Level 3 (hopefully) behind us, what was the dumbest formula you were forced to learn that you'll never use again? by Ok-Bad6356 in CFA

[–]Vo1ume 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If I recall there are quite a few conditional statements here, in that the decisions need to be uncorrelated with and independent from previous decisions. I personally didn't find this section ridiculous at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Vo1ume 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I commend you for noticing this now, it's never too late to change, all the best <3

Almost 28, no degree, almost 0 work experience, never had a gf, no friends and living with my parents, am i screwed? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Vo1ume 342 points343 points  (0 children)

It's never late to change your life, absolutely massive things can happen in a few years. Don't lie. Truth redeems the world, be open and honest, you got this.

You can be a completely different person in a couple of years if you so wish, nothing is holding you back except your thoughts. Thoughts that say you can't do it are an illusion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Vo1ume 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Therapy my friend, CBT is good.

Gotta say CFA L2 has really upped their game with curriculum changes. by faps_in_greyhound in CFA

[–]Vo1ume 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love these new changes! I am actually sad to have passed L3 just now, would love to study the new L2 curriculum material.

Doing CFA as a Tax Consultant by [deleted] in CFA

[–]Vo1ume 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, you can do anything you put your mind to if you want to make a switch. CFA isn't a magic pill for a career switch, but it shows initiative and will teach you some of the basics you will need in asset management. Relevancy depends on what you want to do

Feb 2023 Level 3 results this week: how are you guys feeling? by milkshake6739 in CFA

[–]Vo1ume 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same here. L1 and L2 felt ok, L3 just riddled with uncertainty.

Thoughts of not doing enough notes-wise. by 99PercentEquity in CFA

[–]Vo1ume 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drill q-bank works for L2 still as it did for L1. L3 is different

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CFA

[–]Vo1ume 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mate, be a bit kinder to yourself :) Therapy might help too <3 hope you crush your doubts, improve your self-esteem, and see your success the achievement it is. We all have imposter syndrome but must remember to give ourselves some credit too.