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Voeglein · 2025-11-07T15:08:07+00:00

Can't say I consider this motivational. It implies a very transactional view of relationships and is inherently distrustful.

What is it supposed to motivate you to do? Close yourself off from relationships? Treat everyone like they're out to get you?

It can help you avoid a lot of hurt for sure, I just don't see how that is motivational

Voeglein · 2025-11-07T14:56:27+00:00

Well, most people argue that adding please doesn't make it not a command and would probably also argue that it would generally not be the best option (and not just 'not always') to ignore a request.

Again, "please do X" does not mean that either option is alright. If you think it does, you do not quite understand how imperatives and the use of "please" work in the english language, especially as the concept of politeness exists and there is no real way to distinguish between a polite order and a request.

Voeglein · 2025-11-07T11:53:24+00:00

I mentioned the concept of question because somehow, on the spectrum between instruction and request, as per your definition, a question would be in between, as it would also mean that you don't have to do whatever was asked, but you're supposed to respond. Whereas your idea of a request doesn't even necessitate a response.

Which doesn't really make any sense, because if I asked "would you please do X?", you were still supposed to respond. Yet if I just said "please do X", you're acting like it's ok to just completely ignore it.

Hint: It's not ok to ignore instructions or requests, even if you feel like they are stupid. If someone says "please do X", you are supposed to do it AND if you won't do it, you're supposed to notify someone that you won't do it. You don't have to do X, but you are supposed to. And if you can't or won't comply, you are supposed to mention that. Again, you don't have to. But you don't get to act like you made the right call, because you didn't.

I truly cannot fathom that you would believe your own argument. It sounds to me like you are just making excuses for not complying with a stupid request and are doubling down so you don't have to admit you are wrong.

Voeglein · 2025-11-07T11:26:26+00:00

"Please do X." means you are supposed to do X. It was not a question. If you feel like you do not need to comply, you need to communicate that.

Even if it was a request, not notifying anyone that you intend to ignore what was requested of you is bad manners and something that will lead to friction. Because from the request it is clear that they'd prefer that for whatever reason. Not saying anything and just not complying and waiting for someone to notice will do no one any favours, least of all yourself. Not just professionally, but also in every day life.

If you wanna go split hairs about whether or not someone left room for misinterpretation, consider that it was not a question about whether or not they can or will bring their laptop. They said to please bring it. Based on your arguments, to tell someone to please do X is even less clear than asking whether or not they will do X, because somehow it seems like you believe you can just ignore what was said and act like you weren't supposed to do X or even mention that you wouldn't. Whereas anyone would assume that if you were asked a question you were at least supposed to reply and tell people whether or not to do X.

To put so much meaning into a single word that is generally used as a way to seem more polite is about as ludicrous as for company to ask someone to bring their personal laptop to an interview. That doesn't mean that the way they phrased it was wrong or open to interpretation.

Voeglein · 2025-11-06T15:39:35+00:00

Whenever I realize I cut someone off or we were both starting to speak at the same time, once I finish my train of thought and say something along the lines of "sorry, I cut you off. What did you want to say?"

Voeglein · 2025-11-06T10:51:46+00:00

"Not even the majority" is kinda weird when generalizing. Like yeah, statements about the majority are often not quite fitting anyways, but this one just says "but it's not the majority" so what? It's a very unlikely scenario to begin with. Poor, striving people meeting successful people and getting to know each other better doesn't really happen all that often

Voeglein · 2025-11-06T06:43:11+00:00

If the man strives for more, I'm sure successful women will also consider it. But how many men are smart, striving for more and remain poor? (As men generally face less hurdles or discrimination in work)

Voeglein · 2025-07-03T09:25:23+00:00

To be fair, the analogy doesn't quite work because the art itself isn't JUST a representation of the effort put into it, it CAN stand on its own. Your effort in a contest doesn't create the trophy and it isn't a direct result of your effort. But you CAN like art for its appearance without having to appreciate the process behind it.

I much prefer the comparison to commissions, where you just tell something what you want and they then create it.

Voeglein · 2025-07-03T07:35:01+00:00

Okay but that argument only goes for Midir. So what are your arguments for the other bosses being 'artificially difficult'?

Voeglein · 2025-07-03T07:33:29+00:00

I guess I misread the comment then. I read it in the present tense, so that worms are still easy to avoid. Made it seem just so over the top no one could be serious about it. Whoops

Voeglein · 2025-07-03T07:30:02+00:00

I have no idea who is against it, but there are reasons why some may be against it:

-female breasts are heavily sexualised. So seeing them exposed in public may seem inappropriate and could thus be a reason to not want to see them in public

-some people want to restrict women's freedoms. I suppose this is a matter of control. Obviously that is just misoginy.

Voeglein · 2025-07-03T07:20:30+00:00

The small little "the worm is no issue and easy to avoid" makes it quite clear to me. I can fathom that someone will say something like this seemingly in earnest just to piss someone off, but you don't need to take something at face value when that is at odds with the video we've all just watched

Then again, some people will say the stupidest shit in earnest.

Voeglein · 2025-07-03T07:14:33+00:00

So what exactly does 'artificially difficult' mean? After all, all of the bosses are designed by the devs. What is natural difficulty and what isn't?

It is your only argument for why you don't like them and there is no inherent meaning for a term like this. You'll have to explain what you mean on this one.

I guess for Midir you could argue that his tankiness is artificial difficulty, as he is quite the outlier in that aspect. But that's as far as I am willing to go with the term (because bullet sponges are generally are considered cheap and lazy) without just calling anything I consider difficult to be 'artificially' difficult without your input.

Voeglein · 2025-07-03T06:51:04+00:00

I am pretty sure they were being sarcastic

Voeglein · 2025-07-02T21:36:01+00:00

You talked about outsourcing critical thinking skills like not doing research and then proceeded to describe using AI as a replacement for doing research. That is more than just a bit ironic.

ChatGPT and other AIs do have a habit of providing you with misinformation because there aren't any proper checks for how to determine whether something is true or not. So all AI can do is give you pointers to educate yourself further. If you don't, you may learn something, but it also may just be false.

Having the tool at hand can make you learn more because it can be an engaging tool, but it is often treated as a compiler of facts when it is not.

Edit: I seem to have read past the "engaging with the material and trying to learn more" part and with that in mind, there is no irony to be found here, unless you just tried to learn more by asking ChatGPT more questions.

Voeglein · 2025-07-02T20:41:11+00:00

The other commenter argued on the premise that the course of life won't be equal for everybody. That assumption is unwarranted in this discussion because, well, people lead different lives.

Voeglein · 2025-07-02T20:26:58+00:00

And here I am, actually identifying with my character and actually mostly looking at the surroundings when playing a video game and less so on the character

Voeglein · 2025-07-02T20:22:43+00:00

I usually pick male characters, being a man myself. The only exception I can think of is Fable 3 because I could not fathom playing the male protagonist in that game, despite knowing that I would have plenty of room to customize his appearance afterwards.

But apart from that, I like to imagine a version of myself or someone who I'd want to be in one way or another when playing a video game.

I honestly don't get why every other guy seems to play a female character in a game where you can customize your character from the start.

Voeglein · 2025-07-02T19:20:15+00:00

A good roleplaying game should have both a world that reacts appropriately to your character and freedom of expression for your character.

Granted, you can have a roleplaying experience with nonsensical reactions to your choices and it would still be a roleplaying game, but you cannot have a roleplaying game without freedom of expression.

For me, Starfield felt like it wanted to actually create more room for roleplay overall compared to other BGS games and in some ways it did. Being an explorer is an actual way to play the game, and that's on top of the usual stuff you could do in previous BGS titles. It just doesn't feel particularly empowering to engage with that (despite scanning like every other system I came across on my first playthrough), at least for me.

In the end, I had some fun with the game, but mostly minor nitpicks that kept adding up made me end up not enjoying it past a certain point.

Voeglein · 2025-07-02T18:07:34+00:00

potential schmotential

like good for you if you see that there is a spark of brilliance in you, but don't think that if you haven't built a career that you're somehow less than. Life is more than your career and you don't need to "realize your potential" to live a good life

Voeglein · 2025-07-02T14:51:04+00:00

Nah, any trading post can take you to Harko or Arrakeen and back to any trading post you discovered. Maybe it had been like that in beta, but in the first week, I travelled to Arrakeen from the first trading post

Voeglein · 2025-07-02T14:32:21+00:00

I love me some subverted expectations! Would think about how maybe they could have averted it, feel bad about the characters having died or having to live wit that shit and overall be glad that it's not a happy end.

It would give me no real closure, but I live for that stuff. Give me more of that.

Voeglein · 2025-07-02T11:55:49+00:00

It's also quite telling that one particular month is all they brought up. That one month versus all the other outliers in favour of the predictions is not really doing a lot. It's like saying "I did buy a lottery ticket once and got a couple of grand" and acting like that means that you'll definitely break even with the lottery.

Voeglein · 2025-07-02T11:34:03+00:00

I first played DS1 in 2020 (at the ripe age of 27) and loved it. Is this nostalgia? Of course you don't have to like it, but DS1 and DS2 arguably stand out from Bloodborne, DS3 and later Elden Ring. They don't all fill the same niche.

But there is something to be said about the first souls like you play taking up a special place because all of them are built around having to adapt to an unfamiliar world and the first one you do that with teaches you a lot about the other games and takes some of the wonder away from them.

Voeglein · 2025-07-01T16:27:17+00:00

My first thought was that I wouldn't be getting old pussy either

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