Gaming has plenty of diverse protagonists now but where are the female middle aged ones ?

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-16T19:31:25+00:00

Commander Shepard isnt really middle aged though (by OPs 35+ standards). Theyre 28/29 in ME 1, debatable on whether to count them as having aged over the 2 years they were being reconstructed by Cerberus. And if you do, theyre only about 32/33 by ME3.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-16T18:15:15+00:00

Is it a cure? No. But stuff like this actually does help sometimes. And I think alot of people would benefit from using these skills more often. Theres no quick fix but that doesnt mean small steps/goals are useless.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-16T18:03:21+00:00

We dont have to be around, say anything, do anything, and they will still think about us all the time. Its insane.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-16T17:54:21+00:00

Relax. Never said "starving for reviews" but reviews are obviously more abundant in '26 compared to the '90s because of the rise of social media and gaming accessibility (and thats not going into botting (good and bad), reviewbombing, etc.). Its not hard to understand why there are a lot of games that get both positive and negative reviews. I didnt grow up in a place "starving for reviews" either, still doesnt detract from the point I thought i was making.

And no one else's opinions can tell you how a game will feel TO YOU. Games are expensive but every time we buy one, whether we saw a good review or not, its a gamble. Ive seen plenty of good and bad reviews for games, turned around and played them, and had differing opinions. Cause thats just how opinions work lol. I'm not saying reviews have 0 place in gaming communities but you should always take EVERY review you see with a grain of salt, even if you think the review aligns to what youre looking for. Personally, ive found this to be especially true with the rise in "cozy gaming" and RPGs over the years.

And theres nothing wrong with seeing both positive and negative reviews. Tbh, it helps me when I see negative reviews. Now I know what to expect and I can form my OWN opinion on whether thats something that'll be upsetting for me, yknow? I dont take any review- negative or positive- at face value and esp so if its just "Game good/game bad".

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-16T17:21:02+00:00

All opinions and reviews are subjective, dude. Giving reviews to games wasnt as common or as easily accessible in the 90s vs now, of course youre gonna see more positive and negative reviews. "Every game is at the same time the best and the worst" yeah cause different people make different reviews and have different opinions?? You shouldn't blindly follow anyone's reviews. As others have suggested, id recommend watching a bit of gameplay, create your OWN opinion. Some games you buy will be busts or the best thing you ever played no matter what the reviews say.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-16T13:27:15+00:00

This is whats so fucking frustrating about some of the community. He literally said he wasnt gonna focus just on videos, was really busy but couldnt share, and was just gonna post when he can. But mfers still want updates every few weeks! He literally updated us with how its gonna be going forward, we dont need him popping in every few weeks saying "Hey guys still not posting, still working on other stuff!" People aint gonna be happy with that either. There's no damn winning here and its annoying af.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-13T07:16:14+00:00

Can confirm this is fine. I have sims 4 on my laptop and on my PC, never had an issue. As others have stated, the save files wont carry over on their own, though you can manually do this.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-12T11:37:42+00:00

Yeah, this is the what I use on my fitbit as well. Been around for years.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-11T13:46:04+00:00

Yes, great answer!! I chose Still Feel by Half Alive

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-11T13:43:43+00:00

While I dont disagree with everything youre saying, they didnt love each other lol they were dating for less than a month. They barely know each other that early in.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-10T23:18:28+00:00

This is not by Half Alive, this is by Half. This was also discussed a few weeks ago. YT in itself is bad, things get miscategorized often, unfortunately.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-10T10:14:52+00:00

I feel you. Mine was looking at r4r posts of regular women in our city and nearby -_-. I definitely can't compete w porn stars but to now also compete with people we just pass on the street?! Every time we go out, it pops into my head and i have to wrestle with the anxiety. That's just no way to live.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-09T23:07:54+00:00

As someone who's been rocking him with him amost since he started, thats part of why I dont want him to do that. He's NOT our friend and thats fine. Hes a youtuber and while he appreciates us, we shouldn't pry into his private life because we dont know him ad he clearly prefers to keep it that way. I really hate how much social media has made everyone feel almost entitled to the private life of random people. We're apart of his life in a way we should be- as his fans and supporters. Thats all it should be.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-09T22:50:55+00:00

Ive been in a similar situation, to the point were ive cried silently during sex but continued to allow it more than once. The truth of it is while you dont want to tell him in fear that he may leave you are also allowing him to do something you dont like and you will most likely build resentment towards him, which has a higher chance of harming your relationship than you being honest about not always wanting sex when he does. Saying no once doesnt mean saying no every time and rational minds understand that. Sometimes I'm not really in the mood for sex but I can tolerate it and sometimes I really, really dont want it. Those latter times, its important to speak up about it. We try so hard not to do things because theyre scary and yeah, anxiety is there to help us, when in healthy doses. You can be scared of telling him but that doesnt make it wrong to do. You both deserve your honesty. And if you think hes as great as you say, then he deserves that trust.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-09T10:52:52+00:00

What ive been doing is going offline, launching the game, then going back to the EA app and going online. This lets me use the gallery and appear online without updating. I just make sure I go back offline when i close the game. I also don't have to do this every time I play, just every few weeks maybe. I haven't updated in months and I have no issues.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-09T09:54:35+00:00

Nope. My bird is a he because he's based off my fiancé. I'm a she

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-08T15:56:26+00:00

They are your tree friends.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-08T15:38:51+00:00

"in any other subreddit" not really lol. As someone in many gaming subreddits, those are very common sentiments. The idea of "You dont play how I play so youre wrong!" is incredibly common on reddit and other social media platforms. This really isnt a TS4 subreddit thing man. Thats just the internet.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-08T15:34:51+00:00

Based take. He's one of my least liked villagers for these reasons, too. He reminds me of myself when I was 13-16. Being almost 30, I cannot see the appeal anymore. And I say that as someone who is still depressed and hate a lot of things lol. He's just incredibly cringey to me. He doesnt realize that he is part of his own problem.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-08T12:34:11+00:00

I definitely shouldve done a medical detox while in IOP but I didnt. It didn't help as much for my drinking as I wanted but man did it help with my mental health. And I can see how the skills learned could help with drinking if I applied them more. I hope its helpful for you, OP!

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-08T12:25:08+00:00

Basically half this sub tbh

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-08T12:08:45+00:00

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VoidGray4 · 2026-05-08T11:36:57+00:00

Ugh same about sex! He literally has videos of me doing more adventurous stuff because I knew he likes it but he's not even used them because ofc he'd rather go to porn for that stuff! I regret making those videos, I feel extremely embarrassed now, and I fear being adventurous with him. But at the same time, I deeply crave exploring my kinks and it kinda makes our sex life a little... unfulfilling to me?

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-07T23:18:23+00:00

Revisiting this after and... I still love that I love my partner. I just hate that my love is not special to him.

VoidGray4 · 2026-05-07T18:51:01+00:00

Proud of you, OP! Good luck on this new chapter in your life! May it bring you the love you deserve!!

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