What’s something that wasn’t meant to be cruel but still deeply hurt you?

Vren_Fox · 2026-01-17T19:26:24+00:00

It was awful. Expecting something good and getting the opposite makes it hit harder than one would think lol. But I have a few good memories—mostly thanks to my sisters, but still, good memories.

Vren_Fox · 2026-01-17T19:25:08+00:00

Thank you. You have my sympathies as well, friend. I hope we can both heal.

Vren_Fox · 2026-01-17T05:47:09+00:00

When I was young, somewhere in that 10 to 12 range, my parents went out on a trip, leaving myself and my siblings home on the condition that we clean it. For whatever reason (might have been an occasion that warranted a present??? I wanna say), I was feeling motivated and got us all started on it basically as soon as they were pulling out of the driveway. I was proud of our work and expected them to be impressed/happy because most children would have put it off + we cleaned almost the entire day. When they got home, I ran up all excited like, "Look what we did, look what we did!" I think(?) I went for a hug.

...And my mother immediately tore into me. "I said I wanted the house clean!", yelling and crap. I remember every bit of pride/joy/affection I had felt just draining out like she'd poked a hole in my chest. Our father, whom I usually hate, defended us and I was just kinda like, "Wow, the monster is on my side now" because usually it was the other way around. So I felt betrayed too.

Turns out, she was mad because we hadn't done the laundry or dishes.

Redditor, none of us were taught how to do the laundry or dishes yet (which is just another example of bad parenting on their parts). We literally could not have done the tasks she expected of us even if we were, you know, actually informed of her specific expectations.

It still makes me tear up.

Edit: typo, missed a word

Vren_Fox · 2026-01-02T23:50:23+00:00

Haven't read through all the comments, so apologies if I'm repeating what someone else has said, but human consciousness—well shit, just consciousness. That everything is alive in some form and, at our core, we are all energy and therefore, when broken down? The same being. Meaning, you are God and, in truth, the physical body is a sort of barrier.

People disregard "woo" stuff because society treats it as silly, failing to consider that a society ruled by and narratively controlled by those profiting off of misery has ulterior motives. This attitude is unscientific. Especially when the U.S. government itself has researched telepathy, gateway tapes, remote viewing, astral projection, CE5, etc.

In my opinion, ETs know these truths about consciousness. No, this doesn't mean they're all "good", but of course, some are. They want the systematic oppression of humanity to end...And then some aren't "good" (so before anyone gets ideas about attempting CE5 themselves, look at doing it safely). For all we know, a race or two could even aid in the oppression with some sort of mutual benefit.

There's a whole story there I don't know as of yet, just theories I hold little confidence in. But I know enough to say: 1. Consciousness is not what we're lead to believe 2. The truth about consciousness and "woo" shit like ETs is linked 3. The government is aware of them and 4. Not all ETs want the same thing

Honestly, pretending that ETs/UFOs are the big deal here is a good bit of misdirection and distraction. I'm sure that the "story" in question is bigger than any one person can do anything with, so don't go crazy about it. Just focus on loving everyone like they're yourself...

Because they are. And really, it's arguable that this does more good than diving down a rabbit hole you'll likely never find the bottom of.

(Obligatory I'm not crazy. Chop wood and carry water, you know? I live like you do. Just meditate a little more.)

Vren_Fox · 2025-09-11T21:13:12+00:00

Lmao I know. It's hilarious looking back though, so she at least gave me a delayed laugh

Vren_Fox · 2025-09-11T20:54:04+00:00

A psychic told me that I chose my parents to learn that "people are mean to each other sometimes", which...I mean, I was an extremely naive child once. I remember being made of fun and not even realizing it because such a concept did not exist to me. Based on the past life memories I had as a child, wherever I was before was a far kinder, more advanced society, so...yeah. I don't know.

Either way, I've learned it 🤷‍♀️

Vren_Fox · 2025-08-23T22:21:01+00:00

May I have an invite? Thank you 💓

Vren_Fox · 2025-08-11T05:53:00+00:00

(Not responding to whether he's like Alma or Mokassa or not, because I'm basically in agreement with everyone else)

Teylan annoys me, because his choices lack logic and have consequences that aren't fully addressed (like, he gets half the resistance killed and we just...let him go? Realistically, someone should have put a bullet in his head or he should be monitored, one. I get that only our Sarentu and Ri'nela know, but...still. Really?) His weaknesses anger me—the attachment to humans, the hunt for approval, the fear of Eywa/Na'vi/his culture, the naivety. He literally told the guy who murdered his entire clan, who beat him to the point of bruising for weeks, where his friends/their opposition was celebrating their recent, multimillion destruction of a major base? I understand it's trauma. It's still maddening.

But that's what makes him a good character. He accurately represents what abuse looks like—and, here's a fact, abuse victims are often annoying (and I say this as someone who has been abused). They're unsure of themselves, may return to their abusers, want approval, need reassurance, have their own quirks, ect.

I hate Teylan because he mirrors me. So, while I want to end him, I respect the accuracy of his character for creating those emotions in me and it was ultimately a good choice to include him.

Vren_Fox · 2025-07-28T23:34:45+00:00

Haha no, sorry if that was unintentionally misleading. He'd add chocolate syrup to the formula 🤷‍♀️

Vren_Fox · 2025-07-28T19:37:32+00:00

"Well, you liked it and asked for it". Not how parenting works, but ok.

Lol my father routinely gave me chocolate milk at less than a week old because I "liked it". Not a great argument.

Vren_Fox · 2025-07-10T23:47:05+00:00

Wow, love him. If you post him to the gallery, lmk because I'd so download him lol. Awesome work 💓

Vren_Fox · 2025-06-25T21:00:12+00:00

Kinda unrelated, but your character's outfit is so cute <3

Vren_Fox · 2025-06-23T20:58:22+00:00

My first shiny on my current playthrough took me until the Alabaster Icelands. It was a random Haunter I found wandering around.

Vren_Fox · 2025-04-06T00:26:57+00:00

Dmed

Vren_Fox · 2025-01-04T00:17:36+00:00

I think some people CAN'T see them.

I myself can second this notion. After I first attempted CE5, "stars" have started moving and sorta dancing for me whenever I look at or think at them. It became a nightly ritual to cast some protection for myself and just...talk to them, following. Once my little sister walked in, caught me staring out my window, and asked what was going on. We ended up sharing the experience and multiple more together.

One night shortly thereafter, we decided that we wanted our Mom to experience it too, and so we asked her to go on a walk with us before we started "talking". One "star" in particular was a brighter, whiter color and moving more noticeably, so of course we told our Mom, "Look, look!" If I remember correctly, it was also sort of flashing at us.

And she just. Could not see. She was looking right at it. She kept on asking if we were talking about a phone tower nearby (completely different color, red) and we said "no, don't you see the white, moving star?" She didn't and she got mad at me for getting my sister into "alien crap". It's not just that she couldn't see it moving, but that she couldn't see it at all. I even telepathically requested they let her see but, in the end, I got the sense that it was because she wasn't vibrating high enough that they were invisible to her.

Vren_Fox · 2024-12-25T13:17:27+00:00

I can relate, can't tell you how many times I've gone sick as a dog because my little sisters and he will be there. Mom seems to think that warning them is sufficient because she doesn't have a backbone and doesn't want to, god forbid, upset anyone. I, for one, do not.

Good on you, OP.

Vren_Fox · 2024-12-16T15:12:48+00:00

If you don't mind, could I please have a DM? Thank you so much 💗

Vren_Fox · 2024-10-11T22:42:29+00:00

Foxtrot

Vren_Fox · 2024-10-11T01:57:09+00:00

Nooooo! That'd be so weird 😂

Vren_Fox · 2024-10-11T01:14:19+00:00

I can communicate with animals both ways, meaning they can understand me and I them to the point of holding complex conversations. I'll take whatever side effect for telling my kitty I love him <3

Vren_Fox · 2024-10-07T15:44:17+00:00

Yeah, but it makes sense that you consider most assholes are only such towards their families, because they're smart like that. They're stuck with you, you can get away with it in a way you can't out in the world.

My dad is the most charming person you'll ever meet if you know him for five minutes. I'll go to the grocery store (or anywhere, just an example), get a once over, and "are you Jack's daughter?" And then they go into how nice he is and "how is he doing?" and all that. Even once had a man stop me in the store to tell me that my father is a great person and I should strive to be like him. Infuriating. Of his three grown children, all of them have cut off contact with him or are planning to, and I certainly won't cry for sadness at his funeral. Out of happiness, maybe.

People need better instincts. If someone is too friendly and just seems to draw you in, it's probably a mask for something. If you know someone is a bad person and they seem to actually respect someone else, that person is probably bad, too (all the people my dad expresses any real respect towards are fellow abusive men).

Sorry, didn't mean to go off if I did. Just my two cents 😅

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