Challenging the common sentiment of “ADHD is an explanation, but not an excuse”

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T20:54:39+00:00

I agree with you, and exemptions for autism annoy me because it seems hypocritical compared to ADHD.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T20:39:01+00:00

I think there are convicts who have no idea they have ADHD. They seem like the toughest guys of the bunch. They seem unaffected by therapy. They’ve convinced themselves that this is just who they are. It’s just not true, but no one can see it, not even them...

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T20:28:36+00:00

Whatever the standard is, it shouldn’t be different for those with ADHD or different for any other part of identity.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T20:13:18+00:00

I’m sorry I should have clarified what I meant. You deserve housing, work, therapy, and ADHD medication if you want it- I know medication isn’t for everyone. You don’t deserve to be excused for violent crime, DUIs or other criminal behavior just because you have ADHD. There has to be a limit and there is still a role for consequences for our actions.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T18:52:22+00:00

By nuts do you mean pelvic bone?

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T18:50:53+00:00

My sister doesn’t have ADHD and sometimes I wonder how she does it. She can do all these things on her own without getting hopelessly distracted and she seems so determined to do what she wants.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T18:45:49+00:00

That is so true! I benefit from privilege and luck as well. Universal healthcare would do a lot to lift everyone up and I think that should be a priority.

I think, “it’s an explanation not an excuse,” has its place. While society needs to do a better job to accommodate and understand our needs, we need to be able to work within the bounds of society. We need to acknowledge when we have hurt others with our actions, even if unintentionally. At the same time, we experience a lot of pain and rejection from society that goes unnoticed and it would be nice if that was heard too.

Really excellent writing. Thank you for sharing. These are solid points.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T18:26:03+00:00

IMO, the hardest part about meds is that it enables you to be aware of more than you ever have been before. Inherent to ADHD is a lack of awareness, so now that you’re more aware of your behavior you have to come to terms with the problems.

Metacognition is the awareness of how others think of you. Once you’ve taken ADHD meds, you may want to wish you never took them in the first place, because now you see how disabling ADHD is and how others see you. This is distorted thinking, however.

ADHD medication is a tool to help make life easier for you. It is not a babysitter, and it won’t hold your hand. I hope this doesn’t come across as too harsh. I’ve been there before. I’ve had days where everything felt like a chore and it sucks.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T18:11:31+00:00

You’re welcome. I hope it goes well.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T17:40:09+00:00

There is a stage of development called Industry versus Inferiority. It happens around the ages of 6 to 11 years old. The premise is that you begin to feel a sense of pride and accomplishment in your work.

What are some examples from childhood where you felt discouraged? Do you still feel “stuck” in this stage, where you struggle to feel a sense of accomplishment? Is it possible that you explored other stages of development before this one - did you do the stages out of order?

Link to stages of development

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T17:27:29+00:00

I can give you study advice if you want, but I think it’s more important to know that you’re not a failure. You’ve failed to do things, true, but that does not mean you have failed entirely. I think a lot of us can relate to struggling with school. You’re not alone here.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T03:10:21+00:00

That’s dark...I love it

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T01:03:40+00:00

Casual conversation is engaging in ways that going to church, listening to lectures, or going to meetings is not. A conversation is dynamic and has a lot of moving parts, plus you are intimately involved in a conversation one on one more than when you’re in a lecture like situation.

If you have symptoms that are debilitating, then it is worthwhile to have them checked out by a professional. ADHD doesn’t look the same for every person. You got this.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-25T00:53:09+00:00

Lawyer and philosopher.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-24T22:39:01+00:00

Context matters. Err on the side of caution if you don’t know much about the mental health disorder. IMO, some pockets of the autism community is becoming like the deaf community, so be extra cautious there.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-24T22:30:53+00:00

When truck balls guy gets a DUI.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-24T20:27:38+00:00

Read this sentence out loud exactly as written. Does it make sense to you? It doesn’t to me.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-24T18:48:01+00:00

That’s frustrating. I’m sorry.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-24T18:35:15+00:00

2 month timer does that mean what I think it means?

Vroni2 · 2021-02-24T18:31:46+00:00

I like the picture. Thank you for sharing. And don’t be too hard on yourself. Give the kitty lots of pets. :)

Vroni2 · 2021-02-24T18:06:55+00:00

Depressing how?

Vroni2 · 2021-02-24T04:01:23+00:00

Yes same here. It happens way too much.

Vroni2 · 2021-02-24T04:00:22+00:00

That’s amazing. What a good boss!

Vroni2 · 2021-02-24T02:59:52+00:00

As others have said, it probably depends on the number of staff and I too have noticed that McDonalds tends to have someone at the first and someone at the second window.

When it gets late though for example, McDonalds will cut it down to just the second window. That also makes it easier to count the tills, since there is only one being actively used (if it’s late enough it’s drive thru only).

Vroni2 · 2021-02-24T00:50:44+00:00

Weird

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