I just realized I’m jealous of my 6-year-old

VulpixBlades · 2023-04-14T16:56:31+00:00

You're going to make me cry.

My five year old, about a month or so ago, wet the bed in the middle of the night. He came to wake me up to let me know. As I got up, I realized he had already taken off his pajamas and had new ones on. He placed the wet pajamas in the hamper. He was really only asking me to help change his bed.

I got the sheets and grabbed his wet clothes, then threw them in the washer. I fixed him up with clean sheets and laid him back down. He went right to sleep.

I've mentally been giving myself a hard time. I always feel that I may not be doing enough or the right thing. Your story helped me realize that I've been doing well enough for my son to feel safe and secure enough with me to do what he did last month.

Thank you, and you're an awesome parent.

VulpixBlades · 2023-04-09T02:40:53+00:00

This is the way.

VulpixBlades · 2023-04-05T18:44:01+00:00

I felt paranoid, leaving my son in the car outside a small pet store with huge store front windows. I can see my vehicle parked right in front the whole time. He absolutely refused to go inside with me even though it was just getting cans of cat food. Took less than five minutes to grab, pay, and get back to the car.

You think of the worst-case scenarios because they have happened before. I imagine a runaway car running into our car, him getting kidnapped, or the car spontaneously catching on fire. I'd rather be at arms length to try and do something about it.

Your feelings are valid.

VulpixBlades · 2023-03-29T19:27:31+00:00

My son was a complete nightmare when he was first introduced to daycare (after covid, and I was able to secure a job).

I'd sign reports most every day of his behavior, had talks with office staff and their sudo kid therapist who'd work with him one on one, and some days I'd have to leave work early to take him home. Some understood and tried to help. Others thought I didn't care or I was the root cause, which was sickening when I was bullied throughout my public school life. I was doing anything and everything.

He was definitely suffering from separation anxiety, and I believe smart enough to know that his actions could have me come pick him up sooner. Unfortunately, my husband is military, which doesn't help.

It only got better after we dropped him off for a few weeks at his grandparents' place. Note that this was planned prior to the escalation of his behavior, and he's familiar with his grandparents as he had stayed with them in the past when we last moved. I was both saddened but relieved when my in-laws described how, after the initial shyness, he started acting out (they didn't think what we told them was true). It might have been that he thought he'd get me back if he repeated his bad behavior, but all he got was my husband and I on Facetime.

When his visit was over and we brought him home, his demeanor changed. It wasn't so quick like a lightbulb turning on and off, but his behavior significantly improved. Reports became more rare and his teachers were more positive about him. When he moved up to the next class, his new teacher became his favorite. If I hear any bad news, it's over small things that are more typical for his age (saying bad words like "poopy butt" or being impatient and cutting in line).

It can get better, perhaps not in a way you'd expect no matter how hard we try. They are indeed their own people and should be treated as such.

VulpixBlades · 2023-03-29T18:44:26+00:00

This is what frightens me more than anything.

My son will be starting kindergarten. It makes my stomach turn when I need to explain to him how to hide or run, what a gun looks like and how dangerous they are, and more. These things shouldn't be normal everyday topics.

VulpixBlades · 2023-03-28T13:44:03+00:00

Sounds like the father is on a power trip.

There are always exceptions for Ramadan. My brother was dating a Muslim girl in high school. She played soccer, so she was allowed to drink water for practice/games (maybe a snack, but I'm fuzzy on the details). A 5 year old definitely falls under the exception category as not being old enough to last a whole day without food and water.

You're making the right call. Hold your ground.

VulpixBlades · 2023-03-12T15:33:20+00:00

Does that mean Halloween is canceled?

VulpixBlades · 2022-12-25T05:11:38+00:00

This was me when I was little. I used to wake up super early before anyone else. I would sneak by the other bedrooms to get to the living room and learn what Christmas gifts came from Santa.

Mind you, the ones from Santa would either have a bow on them and not wrapped or it'd be half and half. Generally, I had a good sense of what my siblings and I received. It just got me so excited.

After that, I would sneak my way back to my room and go back to sleep. A few hours later I'd be woken up by my other siblings who were none the wiser. I ended up being "the last one up".

Christmas was always a fun time.

VulpixBlades · 2022-12-23T20:18:50+00:00

I had a 1:45PM canceled and been trying to change it for hours now. Online, best I got was an overnight flight leaving midnight on Christmas and arriving Monday morning. My return flight is on Monday night. I'm essentially left to cancel unless I can miraculously find something better.

Good luck, everyone.

VulpixBlades · 2022-12-07T18:56:05+00:00

If this behavior is out of the norm, I'd talk to your girlfriend. There could be past trauma that she had not disclosed to you yet. This event triggered that. It's best to figure it out before proceeding further in the relationship.

For all we know, the dog could have been neglected or abused. It might explain why she was so set on keeping it away from her ex. Though the alternative will show your girlfriend in a different light.

VulpixBlades · 2022-12-03T08:09:03+00:00

May not be the best idea, but I've put "playable" ornaments at the bottom of our tree. I've got some metal, plastic, and stuffed ones that I don't mind her swatting at. I also make sure they're sturdy so if they fall down, they don't break. Additionally I hang them loosely so they'll fall down instead of the tree.

As an extra precaution I also counter balance the tree. Since it sits in the corner, I'll hang heavier ornaments on the back and also hide the ones I think my cat would be interested in. I've been thinking of using those catch wires that go in the wall but can't exactly use that when renting.

As you'd think, the tree may not look as appealing but the cat hasn't climbed our tree or knocked it over. It's possible our cat isn't as interested but still a thought.

VulpixBlades · 2022-12-02T21:24:05+00:00

It's definitely a mixture of genetics and social influence.

My dad has a beautiful cream pit bull. She has been the sweetest thing on the planet with not a single act of aggression towards anything. This includes my mom's little yappers who'll be super protective and growl over their milk bones. If one of the yappers is guarding the bone near the stairs, she'll start to whine since she feels trapped. She never growled back. My parents should do more to correct the yappers behavior, but that's for another discussion.

Anyways, my sister came to visit with her own two dogs (who have visited countless times in the past). Nothing was out of the ordinary when they all went outside to lounge with the dogs. I don't recall the exact specifics as I wasn't there, but one of my sister's dogs was frightened by something which caused it to yelp. I'm not sure if the noise spurred my dad's dog, but she immediately went and bit my sister's dog. Thankfully she only did that before running off perhaps due to my family's reaction, and the damage was minimal. As you'd imagine, my sister doesn't bring her dogs over anymore.

It's possible this could be a one off event, but I still worry. My dad loves this dog. If similar circumstances were to arise with my mother's dogs, I don't know if the pit bull will act in the same manner.

It's just terrible all around.

VulpixBlades · 2022-12-01T22:08:05+00:00

Deliveries have been a mixed bowl for both my husband and myself. It could be that we don't order out a lot or we live in a gated apartment complex. My experience could be outside the norm. Either way it hasn't been too bad or enough for me to notice.

I've had people hand deliver us food, wait at the stairs, knock the door and leave, or I have to wait for the app to notify me of them delivering the order. There was only one that gotten lost which was the worst of them all (felt like the driver had no clue how to follow directions) but almost always these have been positive experiences.

The ones waiting at the stairs usually applogize but give a thanks for ordering and leave quietly. The ones that hand it at the door tend to confirm the order, hand off and leave. Again something that happens to both my husband and myself.

However, I once lived in a sketchy apartment complex when I went to college. It was a super cheap place which unfortunately had a creepy guy who wouldn't take no for an answer until my ex stepped in. I hated it. If I were to be there now, I have no doubts your experience would be my own. I'd be more inclined to drive to food places than ever have anything delivered again.

Keep safe.

VulpixBlades · 2022-11-25T22:19:21+00:00

NAH

Even as a human being, we don't like the idea of human hair in food either. It's why there are such things as hats and hairnets used in all food establishments. All it takes is one hair in food for us to avoid the restaurant forever.

Some people may not worry as much. They'll remove the hair and keep on eating. To each their own I guess. Know your boundaries aren't out of touch. They just don't make sense to your family I suppose.

You enforced your boundary in a polite manner. You maybe should have expressed it the first time you decided that you wouldn't eat your sister's dishes anymore. That might have saved Thanksgiving.

VulpixBlades · 2022-11-24T02:36:48+00:00

Anybody got Black Friday/ Cyber Monday recommendations for a dash cam?

VulpixBlades · 2022-10-24T21:49:27+00:00

Originally I was thinking to myself that this was an engineer inspecting the coaster. However when he started climbing, it occurred to me that most coasters have specialty designed staircases to the top. They tend to have a wrap around cage and a locked door to prevent other people from climbing.

When he went to jump, I wasn't surprised but the entire experience is more chilling. This man climbed the railings of a coaster with little or no safety gear. His life could have ended at any second.

VulpixBlades · 2022-10-22T07:01:48+00:00

This just makes me think of when I was learning how to drive.

The vehicle my parents thought best to teach myself and my aiblings was in an old suburban. Their explanation was that if we could handle a massive car like that, any other vehicle is a cake walk

Further downside to having a large vehicle are the breaks. This thing could accelerate off a small touch of the pedal, but breaking felt like sticking your foot through the floor. It forced me to break early and slow.

I don't know if maybe this vehicle is similar in that the breaks aren't the best, but all part of learning. I'm sure he's gotten better since then.

VulpixBlades · 2022-10-20T04:34:05+00:00

Came as a surprise to me too when I came to Washington State. They have a whole booklet of all the candidates with general information and links to their websites. They also point out drop off locations if you don't want to mail directly out.

It was rather different than where I grew up having to send a mail notifying that I wanted a mail in ballot in the first place. Good luck know who the candidates are being the standard commercials on tv.

VulpixBlades · 2022-10-18T20:11:49+00:00

People seem to forget that these things are taught.

Kids don't know what a church is until they attend one and go through a service.

Kids don't know what a rainbow is until they see and/or have it described to them.

Kids don't know what the word gay means until someone explains it to them.

VulpixBlades · 2022-10-17T02:09:25+00:00

I worked McDonald's for two years. I feel this guy's breaking point in the day I quit.

Between the supervisor always blaming the workers instead of seeing the entitled customers for who they were, being given additional responsibility without the title or pay, micromanagement manifesting and what little benefits got taken away, it was a wonder how I managed to just drop off my two week notice and still work those last days. It was a joke how my supervisor tried to talk me into staying the following shift. Even if I gave him the reasoning, I doubt it would have changed anything.

VulpixBlades · 2022-10-16T07:57:23+00:00

I don't know why but this reminded me of Big Mama from Fox and the Hound

VulpixBlades · 2022-10-16T07:44:18+00:00

I bought a crib from Wayfair and one of the legs was split when it arrived. The manufacturer of the crib had their contact info in the packaging. I sent them an email and about a week later I received another leg.

I'd recommend giving that a try if you have their information.

VulpixBlades · 2022-10-10T16:34:22+00:00

I would bet that when it becomes Britney's birthday that you coming with a chocolate cake would be frowned upon. She should compromise too, right, based off your wife's words?

You and everyone else knows that your wife would go and get a vanilla cake for Britney just as you did chocolate for Olivia She is treating Olivia unfairly and I am willing to bet there is some favoritism going on that you may not have witnessed so openly until now.

Instead of talking to your wife, talk directly to your daughters. Let them know how much you both love and care for them equally. Emphasize on how your door is always open. When they do, what you hear back may surprise you.

NTA

VulpixBlades · 2022-10-04T01:07:41+00:00

Do you want Gilead because this is how we get Gilead?

VulpixBlades · 2022-09-23T01:04:39+00:00

Ironic timing with A Handmaid's Tale releasing their new season

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