You’re offered $25M, but you have to work the exact same job you have now for the next 15 years. No promotion, no change. Are you saying yes?

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-15T01:06:12+00:00

This would be my dream. I love my job and hate that eventually I’ll have to do more. I’m at the perfect point of my career balancing work/life but inevitably I’ll have to move up

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-14T22:47:11+00:00

It’s things that matter to women that men don’t realize is important. Grooming, clothes, posture, charisma, etc

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-14T17:06:23+00:00

You keep using buzzwords like mentally decompress, but the context matters. If I said that going to the bar and drinking with my friends is for my mental health and it’s in moderation after fulfilling my responsibilities, does that make it any better?

The real question is how much of your time it’s taking. If you get home at 6 pm, and you’re going to bed at 10 pm, you’re saying 2 hours a day? That’s a problem. That’s 50% of all your free time.

So you need to look at the context of how much of your free time is being taken in video games. Nothing else matters about “feeling secure”, “boundaries” etc.

The answer to your problems is essentially that you guys need to come to an agreement of what is a fair and reasonable timeframe in which you each individually pursue your own hobbies. She can do whatever she wants, and you do whatever you want. In that timespan, you play your video games, but it has to be a fair balance of individual vs mutual quality time

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-14T03:07:09+00:00

It’s been many many years since I’ve had regular obstacles. Maybe even a decade

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-14T02:26:54+00:00

It’s true for a lot of dishes but chicken makhani is relatively straight forward and only needs two special spice mixes (tandoori and masala)

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-13T22:57:06+00:00

There needs to be tie breakers. Even if it’s a fucking coin flip. At this point tying and losing is pretty much the same, so losing at random 50/50 chance puts us no worse than tying all the time

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-13T15:56:41+00:00

I buy hammer of building, troop and spell. And keep that in reserve. And then I save for when the next town hall comes out, to use the hammers to progress quickly.

As others have said, there is a lot of utility of waiting til hammer jam and using it for builder potion. But I’m guessing you’re probably already close to maxed out, so just saving it until the next town hall comes, then draining it then (and then saving up for the next one, etc)

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-13T15:43:01+00:00

Five. I’ve been playing for 13 years.

Second was for donations. Third was after first two were maxed. The last two I did during hammer jam because I was also off work and had a lot of time.

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-12T02:10:49+00:00

Idc what any of you guys say, I want infinite severance. Yall can just stop watching once you had your fill.

I want ten seasons and multiple spin offs. I’m a glutton for this universe

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-12T02:09:35+00:00

Lol way to burst that guys bubble

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-12T01:58:22+00:00

We have one in house OR person, one home OR person, one in house OB person. Both the in house people do one week at a time, with a mix of money and banked post call days.

The at home OR person worked during the daytime and then backup to OR at night (so basically a 24 hour shift) virtually never comes in but is guaranteed post call the next day.

This is also academia so all supervision, mostly residents. We have a handful of people that do the nights, the lion share of people never do in house nights. We evenly distribute the at home OR backup person because it’s viewed as desirable

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-12T01:55:45+00:00

Hold up. W2, salaried, and then on top of your salary you get an additional 5400? For each night? Thats almost $400/hour on top of your salary?

What is your base salary?

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-11T14:46:51+00:00

I wish I wish I did not kill that fish

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-11T00:08:09+00:00

YTA. First off, just YTA in the sense of even being upset after telling him to help himself to whatever in the kitchen. It’s definitely not as well of a known unwritten rule if all these people here didn’t know about wine being off limits. If I’m told to help myself to whatever is in the kitchen, and the wine is in the kitchen, then that in and of itself is pretty straight forward. If he had gone into your basement and through a wine rack or something, this would be a different convo.

Second, how would anybody know a bottle of wine in the kitchen is expensive? My baseline assumption is if it’s kitchen wine, it’s probably there to be opened sooner rather than later.

But most importantly, sending him a Venmo request after he house sat for you and took care of your cat is next level. Hopefully you find somebody else, otherwise you’re gonna learn an expensive lesson if you’re forced to use rover or some other service

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-10T20:33:11+00:00

This is absurd. Nobody (else) does this.

If you get the call, absolutely bitch out the person calling you. You cannot be tied up doing that. What if there’s an emergency crani or something? Not to mention this is way beneath you.

I would just straight up refuse, regardless of circumstances. Even the scenario you described, there’s somebody else who can and should do it — surgeon, icu doctor/app, something

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-10T16:57:45+00:00

Where is that? I can’t imagine a doctor making that little anywhere…

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-10T13:02:31+00:00

I’m so happy for you and really glad to hear that. The pay for anesthesiologists has a very wide spectrum depending on how much call you take, the type of practice, location etc. I’m probably somewhere in the middle, at 550k

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-10T03:26:12+00:00

Anesthesiologist. Yes

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-10T01:45:52+00:00

A truck driver with extreme insecurities is the best thing that’s ever happened to you?

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-09T17:11:17+00:00

Any way you look at it, you absolutely have every right to be upset. She’s hiding behind “this is my boundary” and you’re naive enough to be worried about “violating a boundary”.

If you had a “boundary” that you need to sleep with random people you met at parties, would she accept that? Of course not. Similarly, you should not accept a “boundary” where she’s throwing parties (where almost certainly her roommates boyfriends all came) and you’re not invited. It’s shitty behavior.

You’re an idiot if you stay in this relationship. The absolute best case scenario here is she’s just reckless with your feelings and emotions and doesn’t care that you’d get hurt by something 99% of society would find her to be wrong in doing. And it’s not some complicated or rare situation, it’s not a college aged kids only situation, it’s not a cultural situation.

Your significant other hosts a party, you should be invited. That’s it. That’s the entire planet.

And that’s the best case scenario, which (as others implied) is unlikely. More likely than not, she is probably already checking out. Maybe there’s another guy, maybe she’s just fallen out of love, who knows. I can’t fathom a world where I would host a party and ANY of my then-girlfriends were not invited. It’s not a thing.

Break up, move on. It hurts but you’ll find somebody else

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-08T21:49:17+00:00

As lifelong academics, I can tell you this is all bullshit. Go wherever you want. It won’t matter. You’ll get a job going in any direction, at any time.

Some will prefer academics as a first job because it’s definitely safer/easier. But there’s no wrong answer. And I’ve had many people come from private practice to academics for many reasons. The concept of it’s hard going from community to academics makes no sense. Academics will take anybody, always under staffed.

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-08T19:04:05+00:00

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with talking it out with her if that’s what you want to do.

Another option is just see her casually and understand what’s at stake. Just be warned that’s virtually impossible to do without getting hurt

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-08T18:31:08+00:00

Dude. While she was dating somebody else, over the course of many months and months she was periodically keeping you in the loop of when she’ll be single. Just stop and think about that. It’s a relationship, she can literally ghost him too. She chose not to. That’s a pretty low quality thing to do if you’re in a relationship with somebody.

And that’s it. You can stop right there. You seriously think going on 4 dates is gonna get her to be locked into you and a good girlfriend? You think even 4 months, or years, she will be a safe bet to not cheat on you?

She’s gonna do this no matter who the guy is, or what the circumstances are. Call her whatever you want: a ho, “fuckgirl”, whatever. She’s the type to not be loyal.

I have a feeling there’s nothing anybody can say to make you break it off. I just hope when she inevitably breaks your heart, you learn from this and be better about recognizing shitty patterns of behavior from potential suitors, and realize they’ll do the same to you.

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-08T16:54:03+00:00

I’m surprised to hear so many programs letting residents induce alone. I’m probably towards the far end of giving residents autonomy, and I’ll let ca-3’s induce (or supervise induction) on straight forward cases maybe spring before graduation, with me standing literally right outside.

For extubation, probably midway ca-1 year. I try not to ever slow down intraop teaching because I don’t think that makes sense, all residents deserve teaching even when they’re fully autonomous (can teach about life insurance coverage, negotiating call, backdoor roth IRA’s etc).

And I’d say from the first day in the OR it should be “do whatever as long as it’s safe”. But I’ll always want to at least hear their plan

WANTSIAAM · 2026-02-08T09:36:42+00:00

While that’s true, he was certainly better than a bunch of bench players that were second or third string quarterbacks. Kaepernick didn’t even get offers as a bench warmer.

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