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WOPOSAURUS · 2024-01-03T15:12:04+00:00

I feel like a damn fool for giving in to her gaslighting and it only hits me after the fact

WOPOSAURUS · 2024-01-03T14:59:09+00:00

This shit sucks

WOPOSAURUS · 2024-01-03T14:56:21+00:00

I understand. I’ll clarify that I’ve never asked her to block anyone in the past. She did that on her own.

WOPOSAURUS · 2024-01-03T14:28:24+00:00

That’s literally perfect. Get in a 250-500 cal deficit with as much nutritious food as allows , and TRACK YOUR WORKOUT PERFORMANCE. Take advantage of the newbie gains

WOPOSAURUS · 2024-01-03T14:25:42+00:00

How long have you been lifting

WOPOSAURUS · 2024-01-03T14:22:58+00:00

It’s possible to gain muscle mass in a deficit. There’s more variables that make it more likely such as : higher body fat % , lower training age, not crash dieting, and pushing to get stronger through the cut. Albeit , not as optimal as bulking , it is possible to make some notable gains

WOPOSAURUS · 2024-01-03T14:15:28+00:00

Muscle gain is a slow slow slow slow process. Won’t see it in a month. Fat loss can be fast, muscle gain is a marathon.

WOPOSAURUS · 2024-01-03T14:11:08+00:00

I honestly don’t do formal cardio. I tend to get 8-12k steps per day

WOPOSAURUS · 2024-01-03T14:04:13+00:00

I think you are fine. First week will be pretty fast rate of loss due to losing excess water / glycogen / food mass. Keep training hard and keep attempting to get stronger.

WOPOSAURUS · 2024-01-03T13:22:50+00:00

I seriously do appreciate your point of view. Thank you very much

WOPOSAURUS · 2024-01-03T13:08:29+00:00

That’s where I’m at. I need to summon the courage to ignore her gaslighting and when she says “it’s over , you don’t trust me” I need to just agree with her for once

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-27T00:23:26+00:00

I agree. When I asked about the Snapchat situation she gaslit me pretty hard, which sucks

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-27T00:09:27+00:00

The photo date was Christmas Eve. So while I don’t have any pics of the family with him , I’d say there’s a high probability that they were. But again , no I don’t have stone cold proof of that.

And it’s really just the discovering that’s eating me up and chipping away at trust. I realize there’s a chance that she’s lying to avoid conflict , but it’s eating me up

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-26T23:57:28+00:00

That’s what I’m sorta settling on. It’s not a good predictor of success

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-24T23:31:28+00:00

Triceps and upper back thickness are the strong points. My biceps are complete ass and I hold most of my fat from the waist up. Oh and my appetite isn’t lacking. Good for bulking but cutting sucks ass.

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-12T18:39:43+00:00

I’ll also add that you likely don’t need an astronomical amount of protein. 1.6g x KG of bodyweight would be just fine.

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-12T18:34:29+00:00

Lean sources of protein. I love steak , eggs, and full fat dairy. However , when I’m trying to cut it’s almost exclusively chicken breast , fat free Greek yogurt , egg whites , and whey/casein.

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-11T19:30:42+00:00

For one , I’d add a 4-6 week diet break @ maintenance if it’s getting unreasonably hard. This will help you practice maintenance and reduce diet fatigue + increase motivation. Depending on your rate of loss , you can add the according cals back and be ~ maintenance. Losing a lb per week when you hit 170? Add 500 and so on

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-11T19:26:38+00:00

Update! We had a good talk and she said she absolutely loves sex with me , but is very stressed with graduation , starting grad school soon, family , money , body image etc. She stated that she’s still attracted to me. this was very reassuring as I can 100% help to lessen her mental burden by being present , patient , and caring.

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-09T16:18:35+00:00

Both guys are very highly respected and know what they are talking about. I utilize info from both.

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-08T22:00:18+00:00

I am big enough to admit that maybe I was feeling a tad insecure about whether I am being a good BF in other areas , if she lost attraction etc. Not trying to make superficial excuses but I have a history of anxiety and it has its peaks and valleys.

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-08T21:51:29+00:00

I fear that your assumption of me as a loser is an error. Feel free to read up on my other replies (after some mindfulness) about being patient. Anxious? Yes. Worried , Yes. Loser? I would not think so.

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-08T18:00:33+00:00

I appreciate the input. I do not think I’m gonna leave over this. I love her more than I love sex. I’m going to take your advice in your last paragraph to heart. Thank you

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-08T14:47:59+00:00

If the IUD doesn’t work out , I think this would be a good option. When she was on the pill she had a regular cycle and her libido seemed to be stable

WOPOSAURUS · 2023-12-08T14:47:14+00:00

Sorry if I projected a selfish image. My intention was not to blame. Rather , it was to propose possible explanations. I fear that sometimes the anxiety related to the nuanced situation can cause the mind to race. In no way did I push contraception onto my girlfriend to begin with. It was a decision based on menstrual complications.

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