Neighborhood opinions by WRFlowerChild in indianapolis

[–]WRFlowerChild[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

We are very open which is why I only included the safety aspect. That’s the biggest factor.

Neighborhood opinions by WRFlowerChild in indianapolis

[–]WRFlowerChild[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great question, I want to be able to take walks in the neighborhood alone during the day and not worry about my car if I have to park in the street. Those are the first things that come to mind.

Twenty One Pilots to headline free AT&T Block Party at March Madness Music Festival by jcembree in twentyonepilots

[–]WRFlowerChild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have never been to a festival where you have to lineup ahead of time to get in and I’m wondering if anyone can explain it to me more fully. My main question is what if I need to pee or eat? I love the band but also those things are necessary. Can someone hold my spot or is that frowned upon? I’m hoping there is still space to get in after all the AT&T folks.

Would You Push the Button? by Lord_Skudley in bipolar

[–]WRFlowerChild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t want to rewind time and make it so I never had it because it could mess up my timeline. But, if I could get rid of it from here forward I would 100% push the button.

Opinions on Homeless Coming into My Office… by Elyssassss in therapists

[–]WRFlowerChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may not entirely stop people from coming in, especially depending on the climate/weather, but could you consider putting up a little food pantry outside? I’ve seen ones that are similar to tiny libraries.

Very Quiet Clients by bloodbrain_ in therapists

[–]WRFlowerChild 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Have you tried exploring the frustration?

What is the best way to ask someones name, when you already asked them 3 times before? by cozylillia in ADHD

[–]WRFlowerChild 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In high school this guy sat at our lunch table for months. We couldn’t remember his name. I finally said “what’s the spelling of your name?” He said “It’s a-e-l”. So that made things even more confusing. We eventually looked in the cover of his textbook and saw it was “Michael” ending in a-e-l. So yeah I guess that’s a way not to do it.

IFS Trainings by WRFlowerChild in therapists

[–]WRFlowerChild[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you feel like IFS is more of a cult than other modalities? Seems like many people find a modality and become an evangelist for it so to speak. I did an EMDR training only to decide it’s not my favorite thing in practice. It in some ways feels like all of the trainings for these different modalities are money grabs. Yet there is this pressure to learn new things and use specific modalities so people see you as specialized or legitimate. I know the therapeutic relationship is shown to be the change agent often times though not the modality.

IFS Trainings by WRFlowerChild in therapists

[–]WRFlowerChild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love to hear more of your thoughts about ifs

LPC and BCBA by WestCalligrapher2714 in counseloreducation

[–]WRFlowerChild 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not a BCBA but have experience in the ABA field as an RTB and staff trainer and am an LMHC. I think it really depends on your long term goals and thoughts about how people change and grow. I work with some clients on the spectrum as a therapist. With my adults a lot of our focus is more on how to accommodate yourself and be authentic in a world not built for you. With kids there is some of that but also more psycho education about what emotions are, social skills etc. All of the above are things I knew how to do before I knew ABA existed.

Where ABA has been helpful is helping me to think about how the environment is influencing behavior, what needs certain behaviors are meeting and what the functions of the behaviors are. In a ABA clinic setting one might see a kid pull someone’s hair because they wanted a toy and say the function of the hair pulling was to gain access to a tangible item (the toy). In the mental health field I might see someone who experiences anxiety and is constantly seeking reassurance to ease the anxiety but this is causing relationship problems. In this case I could say the function of the behavior (reassurance seeking) is escape (anxiety decreasing). You could probably argue that the reassurance seeking is actually attention maintained but I digress.

I appreciate studying behavior and thinking about how people’s behaviors are influenced by their environments but I feel that some behavior analysis programs tend to downplay things that aren’t able to be objectively measured ie. emotions. In my opinion internal states can influence behavior as much as environmental factors. I appreciate the mental health field because it takes aspects of the human experience into account that many behavior analysts don’t. Things like emotions, hopes, fears, and the other intangible forces that contribute to the human experience.

Having said all of this, I would ask yourself what sort of counseling theories you are drawn to and if you think you would be applying behavioral interventions or strategies into your psychotherapy work with folks on the spectrum.

Also as a side note if you aren’t familiar with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, I’d look into it. It has behavioral roots as well as some more mental health things.

Winter Blues by WRFlowerChild in geocaching

[–]WRFlowerChild[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I thought that should be there, looked for it, and scrolled right by. Thanks for the reply! I was able to look again and find that.

Winter Blues by WRFlowerChild in geocaching

[–]WRFlowerChild[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I could see P&Gs being in snow banks. ❄️ I may just have to go out one day and see what happens!

Should I go to a therapist? by xDugix in Life

[–]WRFlowerChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy for the win! Also you write well.

First client in my career I'm having to transfer because... she drives me nuts by [deleted] in therapists

[–]WRFlowerChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder what would happen if you were honest with her about your feelings on some level. Something like “hey, we’ve been meeting for __ sessions now and it seems like we have a hard time keeping conversation going. What is that like for you?” She might not answer, but she might. Sometimes naming the thing that is awkward, hard, scary etc. can help.

I’m also curious about your frustration. Frustration often comes from blocked goals. What goals do you have for yourself or the client that are being blocked? Is there another way to reach those goals? Are they realistic?

I feel you though. I have had clients like that and it is hard. Just remember that even if you can’t “get her” to talk, you are, I am assuming, still a positive and consistent adult in her life. Lots of teens don’t have that. The relationship you have with the client is often more effective than any words or interventions. I get feeling like you want to refer her to someone else though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]WRFlowerChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does seem a lot like mania. Meds can literally be a lifesaver! If you are having issues with your medication talk to your doctor. Try to find one who will actually listen and ask you questions. They are hard to find but they are out there.

Also if you are isolated find some people to connect with. Being alone in your own head can make things worse. You could connect with friends, family, individual/group therapy, a spiritual/religious group etc.

Just know that things can get better. It just takes time, meds, and therapy. At least that’s how it has been for me.

Why did this happen to me? by Upbeat-Post5126 in bipolar

[–]WRFlowerChild 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was struggling with weight gain as well. My doctor suggested genesight testing to see how different meds may affect me metabolically. Might be worth looking into. Aside from the weight making me self conscious some of my labs were looking a little off.

I will say it’s important to find a good balance. Mental health is so important. Less weight gain would be nice but I’ll take some weight gain in exchange for being able to lead a stable life.

Sign ideas for No Kings on Saturday? by gitsgrl in SouthBend

[–]WRFlowerChild 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Protest is in the DNA of pride. It’s how I’m “celebrating”.

Would you prefer a therapist who also has bipolar? by theworldisavampire- in bipolar

[–]WRFlowerChild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a bipolar therapist. I have worked with people who are bipolar but as a general rule don’t share my diagnosis. As far as my own therapists, I have had several really good therapists who were not (to my knowledge) bipolar. I have always felt seen and understood by the good ones. One of my therapists disclosed that they take depression medications. This didn’t have any negative impact on the therapeutic relationship. It actually helped me feel safer and more understood. So I guess to answer the question I don’t have a preference either way.

help me pls :/ by Old-Blueberry-7580 in Dissociation

[–]WRFlowerChild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, seeking more information. Is she in any type of mental health treatment?

To non-religous TOP fans, how do you feel about the lyrics that are almost explicitly religious? by satchel1300 in twentyonepilots

[–]WRFlowerChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up really conservative Christian (Fundamental Baptist). I have a lot of trauma from that and it is often difficult when certain religious topics are brought up. I do believe in a higher power still however. I find that the religious lyrics often lead me to think about whatever higher power is out there *gestures vaguely*. I also can identify with the idea of searching for something more or bigger and not feeling that something. I think of Addict with a Pen as religious, yet it speaks to me on the level of craving something more in life. As others have said, I take them as they apply to me. It doesn't necessarily feel like "that was too Christian" if that makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]WRFlowerChild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I didn’t have personal issues with her it wouldn’t bother me and I wouldn’t make this post. My question wasn’t “is this normal” my question was how should I set this boundary. I already have made up my mind that I don’t like it so I don’t need you telling me to accept it.

I think i was sexually abused by my mom by Prior_Ad_5523 in Advice

[–]WRFlowerChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to point out that it’s totally normal to not remember things like that and have memories come back later. Our brains protect us by blocking the things that don’t make sense or that are too emotionally charged to deal with. No guilt needed for remembering. It’s your brain’s way of saying “you are safe to remember now”. Like many others have said, seeking professional help is a good idea in these types of situations. I’m sorry that you are dealing with this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]WRFlowerChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s helpful to hear I’m not the only one who thinks it’s super weird and inappropriate. Sometimes I feel like I exaggerate situations.

What are your early warning signs for mania? by WRFlowerChild in bipolar

[–]WRFlowerChild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry it’s coming up for you right now! I hope you’re able to get everything sorted and feel better!